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It seems like my recent image "Backstabbing Chit Chat" and "To Trust or Not" journal entry is connected to this image here. It has the same themes: Betrayal, Lies, False Friends, Hurt feelings.

Friends are hard to lose, even if it is you who is being pushed away. You have a good friend, someone who has been with you for years, but slowly starts pushing you away because of something that you cannot understand, something that they blame you for but yet you have no idea what they are talking about. You try to figure out what you did wrong, you talk and ask them what happened that made them push you away. You want to try to keep the bond of friendship together with this person, but all they do is tell you:

- to "fuck off" and they hang up on you.
- or pretend that you dont know what you are talking about.
- or refuse to tell you what went wrong and pretend like nothing happened.

You dont get a straight answer and you are left with your thoughts, trying to figure out what you did and what could have offended them. Maybe something small that they feel uncomfortable about you, but yet no one else minds at all. Maybe a miss communication that happened, but you are unsure what it was. Maybe you offended them about something you did, but you have no idea what it is, and if you do and want to explain it to them, they flick you off.

A good friend understands you, helps you, and if you get them mad, they tell you what is the matter and you try your best to fix the problem. Honesty and Trust are only a few words that bind a good friendship together. Both parties need to be open and honest about each other if they wish to get along for a long time. Blaming someone for something that they dont remember doing or can easily be explainable and fixed is childish, especially if that person does not tell the other WHAT that problem was and blow it out of proportion.

Friends can easily misjudge one another. They think that they are turning into something that the other feels is stupid and unreasonable. They get mad at that person, shut them out and ignore them completely while the other tries to explain his/her actions in a friendly gesture, but is ignored, misjudged and pushed aside. It is easy to throw problems and ideas out of proportion and judge that person only on that. In order for one to understand, they need to talk face to face and explain everything out. Everyone is different in many ways, but some dont understand those differences. Sometimes, a friend would get very angry about life that they go to the nearest friend they have and just vent on them, telling that friend that he or she is the problem with the world because they exist and should just be pushed away...

What do you say to something like that?

People need friends in order to survive in this world. One can easily lose themselves in this hellish world and need someone to help them show the way out; a helpful hand with a warm and welcoming smile. A friend will be there for you when you are down. A friend will try to be on the level with you. A friend trusts you to the fullest. A friend helps you fix problems. A friend will tell you what is wrong when there is a problem. A friend will not ignore you and push you away for something that has been blown out of proposition or has not yet been explained from your side.

Honesty; its rare to find these days in people. Its always "first glance, first judge". People judge others easily over the smallest things. I am not going into that part since it is already explained in BackStabbingChitChat ( [link] ).

Probably from all this ranting, something similar has happened to me and I am trying to get it off my chest by drawing everything out. I did lose a good friend, maybe the only furry friend and artist I known personally. So losing someone like that who did teach me a small history of furry art is hard on me. Its like loosing a teacher and a good friend.

I hate loosing friends, but it is always ended from them misjudging my and/or my art, lies and backstabbing. Heh. I should be used to such violence, but there is no such thing, right?

No, Im not babbling and no, I am not saying "pitty me", so dont go in that direction. I’m just venting and trying to figure things out as I type.

- Ookami Kemono

Shutdown Silence © 2007 Alex Cockburn

Description
It seems like my recent image "Backstabbing Chit Chat" and "To Trust or Not" journal entry is connected to this image here. It has the same themes: Betrayal, Lies, False Friends, Hurt feelings.

Friends are hard to lose, even if it is you who is being pushed away. You have a good friend, someone who has been with you for years, but slowly starts pushing you away because of something that you cannot understand, something that they blame you for but yet you have no idea what they are talking about. You try to figure out what you did wrong, you talk and ask them what happened that made them push you away. You want to try to keep the bond of friendship together with this person, but all they do is tell you:

- to "fuck off" and they hang up on you.
- or pretend that you dont know what you are talking about.
- or refuse to tell you what went wrong and pretend like nothing happened.

You dont get a straight answer and you are left with your thoughts, trying to figure out what you did and what could have offended them. Maybe something small that they feel uncomfortable about you, but yet no one else minds at all. Maybe a miss communication that happened, but you are unsure what it was. Maybe you offended them about something you did, but you have no idea what it is, and if you do and want to explain it to them, they flick you off.

A good friend understands you, helps you, and if you get them mad, they tell you what is the matter and you try your best to fix the problem. Honesty and Trust are only a few words that bind a good friendship together. Both parties need to be open and honest about each other if they wish to get along for a long time. Blaming someone for something that they dont remember doing or can easily be explainable and fixed is childish, especially if that person does not tell the other WHAT that problem was and blow it out of proportion.

Friends can easily misjudge one another. They think that they are turning into something that the other feels is stupid and unreasonable. They get mad at that person, shut them out and ignore them completely while the other tries to explain his/her actions in a friendly gesture, but is ignored, misjudged and pushed aside. It is easy to throw problems and ideas out of proportion and judge that person only on that. In order for one to understand, they need to talk face to face and explain everything out. Everyone is different in many ways, but some dont understand those differences. Sometimes, a friend would get very angry about life that they go to the nearest friend they have and just vent on them, telling that friend that he or she is the problem with the world because they exist and should just be pushed away...

What do you say to something like that?

People need friends in order to survive in this world. One can easily lose themselves in this hellish world and need someone to help them show the way out; a helpful hand with a warm and welcoming smile. A friend will be there for you when you are down. A friend will try to be on the level with you. A friend trusts you to the fullest. A friend helps you fix problems. A friend will tell you what is wrong when there is a problem. A friend will not ignore you and push you away for something that has been blown out of proposition or has not yet been explained from your side.

Honesty; its rare to find these days in people. Its always "first glance, first judge". People judge others easily over the smallest things. I am not going into that part since it is already explained in BackStabbingChitChat ( [link] ).

Probably from all this ranting, something similar has happened to me and I am trying to get it off my chest by drawing everything out. I did lose a good friend, maybe the only furry friend and artist I known personally. So losing someone like that who did teach me a small history of furry art is hard on me. Its like loosing a teacher and a good friend.

I hate loosing friends, but it is always ended from them misjudging my and/or my art, lies and backstabbing. Heh. I should be used to such violence, but there is no such thing, right?

No, Im not babbling and no, I am not saying "pitty me", so dont go in that direction. I’m just venting and trying to figure things out as I type.

- Ookami Kemono

Shutdown Silence © 2007 Alex Cockburn