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wonderbandalice — self-harm is not always obvious.
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March 1 is self-harm awareness day. Wear Orange!Links to information: [link]
I am always here for anyone who needs to talk. Send me a note if you want my msn/cell number/some other third thing.
**Sometimes it is obvious. And that's no less legitimate.
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ding ding ding,
you just most likely made someone who self mutilates feel like absolute shit.
congrats.
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And congrats to you for letting one person's comment get to you so easily. I'm pretty damn sure this piece isn't to show cutting as a beautiful thing. In fact I see the complete opposite.
I have friends that cut. I have friends who have friends that cut. And guess what? They know it's a terrible addiction and they're not gonna hide it. Sorry if you can't handle the truth, but cutting IS disgusting. It's an addiction that involves self-mutilation.
Did I ever say "YOU'RE disgusting for cutting?" Of course not. And I really didn't mean to come off that way. I'm also disgusted by smoking, but I know smokers that are some of the most wonderful people I've ever had the pleasure to meet.
Don't talk like every single person who isn't suffering the same thing as cutters is obligated to baby them or treat cutting like it's something sacred that can never have a negative word spoken against it. More than anything, I pity self-harmers and I really genuinely hope that they can find some way to get help. No-one deserves to suffer like that or to force that suffering on themselves.
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Good for standing up for yourself. You expressing your strong opinions doesn't give that kid the right to be sarcastic and rude. 
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Meh; I can see how they would've misunderstood my comment. I'm kinda used to snyde replies, though.
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I felt no reason to be nice, since they were being rude.
Calling something that has deep emtional ties with it's victims 'disgusting' will not help anything.
And... your comment..."Why would it make someone feel like absolute shit? They cut! 9 times out of ten, hah, make that 999 out of 1000, they ALREADY feel like absolute shit..." is so horrible... I can't even...
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Look buddy,
Just be careful with your wording next time
I don't care if you have a friend(s) who cut,
calling it disgusting isn't helping anybody.
Say it's sad. Say it's unfortunate,
but disgusting brings with it negative connotations.
People do associate actions,
when the actions have deep emotional ties,
with their own characters.
I never said it was to show cutting as beautiful, I was calling on you for using the word disgusting.
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Well then, I'm sorry you feel that way. And I'm sorry that it impacts you in such a way.
I do know that when people call something negative, they tend to refer to the person as well. That's because people are stupid and don't know the connotations of what they're saying. Again, I hadn't intended to call the cutters themselves 'disgusting' as well; just the actions. Some cutters I know are some of the most brilliant and talented people I've ever met, and I just fear that they'll give in to doubt and despair if they don't start realizing that they need to start doing something more about it.
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Again, I don't care that you know other people who self mutilate.
Just be more careful with your words choices.
It wasn't so much that you said disgusting, but you had it in italics as well.
That almost makes it sound like the word is sneered, or said in a mean tone, like "Oh my, I can't believe that even happens, so dirty and improper"
On the internet, everything is text base, and when handling topics like these, it's not catering to the victims, its stating things in such a manner so you don't push them further over the edge.
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Eh, I tend to abuse italics. I do see how that could come off as rude. 
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No real damage done, just be more aware next time,
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Brilliant idea! Well done! And i think many of us can relate to it.
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Ugh. Almost makes me cry. I have dermatillomania/CSP, and I just messed up my lip. Not really the same as self-harm, but they're related.
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I totally feel you. I have that too... It's awful. I mess up my arms, cuticles, and nose... It's really gross, I scrape at the pores on my nose, and then it gets all red >_< Agh. It's nice to know there are others :')
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I think there are more people than we know. People just don't talk about it. :/
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I have it too. I pick the bottom of my foot, till it bleeds and keep going, till i cant walk on it without limping. Nothing ive found or done has helped so far.
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Have you tried some kind of therapy? I got a lot of help from that. Now I just try to manage on my own, with the strategies I've learned. Like, avoiding situations where I tend to start picking. And give myself a small reward when I HAVEN'T picked. What helped me the most though, was when I stopped feeling bad about my mistakes. Instead of feeling useless after an episode, now I just think "Okay. That wasn't good. What can I do to prevent this from happening the next time?"
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Yeah, I've looked up different ways they say helps stop. Like getting fake nails but it made it easier for me, I keep my socks on as long as i can and it helps a little bit. It's mostly at night when i'm laying in bed watching tv that i mostly pick.
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Then try to focus on the situations at night, and see if you can come up with some way to distract yourself from picking. It's not easy, but there are ways to stop.
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Jesus. Looks like me for about ten years of my life...
It's a very striking photo. When I saw it, it hit a nerve right away...
Well done.
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Love this picture. It really shows the true meaning of self-harm awareness day, and it's true that it's not always obvious. I've known a lot of people who cut or scratched places hidden by their clothes, so this really hits home. Amazing imagery too.
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Thighs, hips, and shoulders, and one across my breast. Those are my scars, and I'm still struggling with it. It's not easy for me to stop once I've started either.
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very cogent point...I appreciate it
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oh my this has just made me remind of me myself and i feel my heart broke. i shall remember the day and remember the people who had self harm themselves. If anyone had self harmed themselves, you must know that you are perfect for who you are and please know you will always be a beautiful and wonderful person.
Great photo taken, i really like it. You and everyone else who self harms themselves, please join my group called "UniqueYourselfLove" is the group where anyone can be themselves and post anything they like and talk about how we can make the world a better place. Interested wonderbandalice and everyone else??
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Is this anything like "Day Of Silence"? Do we do something on this day? Like wear something specific or something???
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The Day of Silence in reference to the LGBTQ+ community is for those who have been silenced for not being heterosexual cissexual (Female woman, male man. Where mental gender and physical sex align).
The Day of Silence in reference to anti-abortion/pro-life is for the lives of the babies lost to abortion.
Most people put tape over their mouths and pass out notes saying "I'm not talking in recognition of the voices that you can no longer hear due to this issue"
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This really hits home for me. I'm aware of tomorrow..its going to be interesting for me. Thank you for doing this, <3
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One more point: Everyone does something to "cope"... Truly, we can all cope, we can all survive, we can all scrape by. I think that what makes humans truly powerful is to step above coping and address the source of their animosity towards themselves and others, and their pain. The ability to choose to live without coping mechanisms such as self mutilation and find healing in love and companionship of animals, community, etc is the hardest thing to grasp for many people.
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I Still cut from time to time but its not as bad as it used to be.... i would write words of song titles to make me happy and then this one time i wrote "fat" on my leg..... But I love this, great message!
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[link] This has been featured.
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Your very welcome :3
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My heart nearly broke when I saw this. That is so true, and I didn't even need to look for more than a couple seconds to realize what this was. I have faint scars that trace the top of my thighs.
As a post script, I read many powerful comments below. It's a sign that images can be powerful things and must be used wisely, and with good intent. I don't believe this picture was posted with the intent of being harmful or insulting to those assailed with problems, nor as a slur towards those who degrade and disregard the hurts and anguishes of others. I completely understand the myriad reasons that people may cut, where they may cut, and why. Some are attention seekers and cut their wrists. Others are crying out loudly for help, although not with their words, and also slit their wrists and arms. Still more are suffering deep trauma of the body and mind and feel detached and worthless, finding their cuts beautiful. They may be self conscious and, on some level, believe it to be wrong, thus hiding them. Or on the converse side, they may wear them as badges of pride for what they believe they have come through, and choose more public areas.
You never, ever know what someone has gone through: Please don't ever judge before you get to know someone wounded. On the flip side, posers are usually very easy to spot if you're in the true hurt situation.
Keep your heads up and your hearts open fellow deviants, and God bless.
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Have you heard about the Butterfly project?
It always helps ease cutting for me. <3
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i don't self harm but i really love this idea. it's like transforming pain into love.
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Right?
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I self harm and im rlly pissed at myself whenever i cut.... I love this photo <3 is there anything specific of special we should do on march 1st?
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could you adult this? I know it's not actual blood and all but it DOES suggest self harm, which triggers me quite a lot! So, seeing this on the front page everytime I open dA isn't exactly the nicest thing! I hope you understand! Thank you.
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thats the point, its suppoused to intice an emotional reasponse so people will act to fix or at least become aware of the problem
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yeah sure who cares about those who actually have panic attacks at the view of anything that implies self harm lol you'Re right
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if you get panic attacks from looking at a picture then you seriously need medication. i have panic attackes, from social situations that warrent it. i understand perfectly if its a distressing conversation or a disterbing movies but getting that worked up over a stationary picture, that is just your imagination getting the better of you and honestly, sounds debilitating. might wanna she someone about that.
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hm I do have medication for it. don't think I'm speaking out of the blue. I've had the exact same problems the picture is depicting, which is why it triggers me so. I don't need you to tell me I need help.
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Don't be so narrow-minded. For some it is a real problem and quite often is the case that they feel alone in this big world. People just like to push it aside and judge. People think that you just do it for attention or are stupid for doing such things. Maybe with this here people won't carry on being so ignorant like you.
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excuse me
I'm sorry if I'm "ignorant" but that still doesn't stop the fact that I am triggered by this. Since I used to cut, myself. I know it's a big issue. But I doubt everyone wants to see this, even if it's just a symbol.
I'm not asking to delete the picture, just for it to ahve some kind of warning to it.Because not everyone remains unbothered by this kind of picture. I don't see how I'm being narrow-minded, I'm sorry, I may be selfish, but I really want to avoid anxiety attacks just by looking at the front page of dA.
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look, im not trying to be insulting but i do hear that the meds help. i have a friend who had horrible anxiety attacks all through middle and high school, and now she still has some but not as frecuent and deffinatley not as bad. might be something to consider, again not being judging or insulting, just suggesting.
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I am medicated.
I just don't need you to tell me that after i asked someone to put some kind of mature warning on a picture that triggered me.
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yeah well then just look away, you dont have to be a bitch about it. i was just trying to be nice. the world if full of unpleasant things, grow up or lifes gonna kill you. maybe it needs to be tagged as mature maybe it doesnt i dont care but you dont need to have a fucking attitude.
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