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Published: 2013-08-31 17:45:14 +0000 UTC; Views: 996; Favourites: 60; Downloads: 6
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This is a clarification stamp! It is intended to remind people of a proper definition. On the base statement, it is not argueable.A woman [my mothers friend] went to this school to pick up a child. While waiting, she heard another mother go up to the police officer and complain that her child was being bullied. The police snapped at her and called her a lier for her child had no bruises.
How much abuse is physical? A good chunk, I will admit. Much less compared to mental and verbal since the internet was created. But it really does upset me to think that so many people consider that abuse is only physical because they only experienced physical, or never experienced bullying at all. Mental bullying can cause mental illness, bad thoughts, self hate, suicidle thought; and is honestly more lethal than physical. Which can be dealt with quickly so long as the beating was not fatal. You can [almost] always fix a broken arm but how long does it take to fix a broken mind? Sometimes it cannot be fixed. Don't pretend it doesn't exist. Mental abuse is much more painful than death. If you've been through it, the real thing: than you know what I mean first hand.
a·buse
verb
[ əˈbyo͞oz ]
- 1. Use (something) to bad effect or for a bad purpose; misuse.
"the judge abused his power by imposing the fines"
synonyms: misuse, misapply, misemploy; More
make excessive and habitual use of (alcohol or drugs, esp. illegal ones).
- 1. Treat (a person or an animal) with cruelty or violence, esp. regularly or repeatedly.
"riders who abuse their horses should be prosecuted"
synonyms: mistreat, maltreat, ill-treat, treat badly; More
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I finally see a stamp like this! This is so freaking true! My alcoholic dad always pulled this argument when we said he wasn't abusing us. He would be all " Well I never hit you, so it's not abuse ", I would tell him that it was abuse. And he always tells me to respect him and even when he claims he's trying to change I still treat him with resent because it will be a long time before I can recover from the pain he has caused me. So great stamp! Abuse is not limited to physical beating.
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Thank you. I understand the feeling. Growing up I'd go to the hospital a lot and my mom would never let me fill in the "are you afraid to go home" box. My sister would hit me and insult me but she never hit hard enough for proof and I usually managed to avoid it. My main problem was that my mother said she hated me and when you have your whole family forbiding you from chosing your own path of life you wind up wanting to kill yourself or just flat out wishing they would all disappear. Yes.... Physical abuse isn't even the worst abuse. Mental abuse can't be healed. Ever. You can't get insults from everyone who should love you and then look at them like they've only given you gifts.
I'm sorry you went through/are going through that. If you still are than I advice getting a recording device and putting it as close to him as possible without suspicion.
Even if I haven't had the worst of it personally I still hate it.
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Wow, I feel for you. It's sad and so painful to deal with the pain caused by family. Sometimes I have tried to be decent around my father but I always end up getting spat on. And I absolutely hate it when he talks about how he doesn't get this or doesn't get that. It also seems that my father doesn't want me to work like he wants me to be dependent on him forever and not to mention that my grades in school were failing because of him.
It seems that we both have it pretty rough and the emotional scars will never go away. No one can heal a wounded heart. Horrible events in life like abuse can have many major effects on choices we make in the future. For example, my older sister keeps trying to convince me to get into a relationship and it just upsets me a lot. Only because I am afraid of meeting a guy that ends up being a total a-hole like my father. It makes me mad that she just doesn't seem to get it.
I've had that idea for a while and have been thinking about getting something when I start working. Maybe a small camera to, so that he can hear and see what he's like and he'll get the idea of why we have no trust in him whatsoever. I'd slip the device somewhere in his chair or maybe in all of those jackets by the door.
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It is. I cannot cause drama on my own. I've learned not to, anyway. Unless I'm having a bad day where I'm half zoned out and not paying attention what so ever. I don't like confrontation or fighting or drama of any kind because it's unneccessary and causes nothing but pain and scars.
You just have to be strong and rip through the tape at the end of the race, ja?
It's not too hard honestly. I don't know how it is for a normal sexuality to be patient [if it's even relevant] you could always befriend them for a while and observe the way he acts around others, perhaps. The best idea I can give you is to not get too into a relationship within the first year of knowing someone. I'm pretty bad for taking a long time to form relationships, but I've never been hurt so it's always good.
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