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How to Live with Introverts (PDF available!)
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Published: 2012-03-20 04:06:19 +0000 UTC; Views: 1232927; Favourites: 14557; Downloads: 6322
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I thought a lot of folks out there could benefit from learning how to with introverted people.I drove my ex crazy by being introverted. He thought that I was being "distant" and "purposely ignoring him as part of a passive-aggressive power play". Here I was just enjoying his company without talking.
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This hissing introvert in the hamster ball it a hoot!
Being an introvert, I can so relate.
The saddest part? it's a rare thing for the extroverts around me to take the advice listed above.
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Thanks so much for sharing this! It would be great if more people would be aware that not everyone socialises in the same way
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See, I, and my introverted significant other, both hate comics like these.
Because they give an inaccurate impression. She says something like "see, all these things give the impression that extroverts are some energy sucking vampires. They're not. I'm not giving up my energy by going out. I love doing those things, just sometimes. I just like to spend more of my time doing quieter things. I am not a comic or some 'list of things on the internet that all introverts do'."
And in my experience, most people feel the same way. It is not some give and take vampiric energy balance. I occasionally really want some social time, and snap and go "I NEED SOME PEOPLE ENERGY." And then, sometimes I snap and go, "I NEED SOME ME TIME. GO AWAY SO I CAN BE NAKED ALONE." She's less dramatic. Sometimes she's like "woo yeah I want to go to a football game, awesommmeee." and then sometimes she's like "actually I just want to cuddle on the couch and not talk 'cause it's really nice to have someone to be quiet with." I tend to want a little bit more of that other-people-time than she does, but I favor being quiet together over going out together. Neither of us feel like we're "giving up energy" to go to an event... we enjoy it, we just don't stay as long as other people might. Neither of us feel like we're giving up energy to hang out with each other.
And MAYBE it's because we're both introverts. Because I am more introverted than extroverted, I probably spend 70% of my not-at-work time alone.
But I'd go absolutely nuts if I had to spend all of it alone. I need a little bit of people time too. I'm not paying some heinous energy price to go hang out with other people for a little while. I enjoy it, and even dare say, I needed it. Just for a shorter time, and then after a couple of hours I'm all 'conned' out and ready to leave with the two comics I bought when you're (hypothetical extroverted you're) still going 28 hours later. Or we Fringe all week and see two shows a day and it's a blast. Just afterwards... maybe let's just hang out inside for a couple weeks. Goodness. Introversion doesn't mean you have a hamster ball that says 'no touchy' on it, it's just a preference. I prefer a book to a loud concert, and a quiet night in to a party. But it doesn't cost me to enjoy those things, I just enjoy them... a little less. I'm sure there are a few true "introverts" and "extroverts" out there, as emphasized by the people who high five these comics and finally understand everything, but I feel like probably most people enjoy both intro and extroversion activities from time to time. 
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As with many things regarding humans the borders are fluent. I agree tht the comic in the start is kinds biased against extroverts and i too gained the expression the extroverts are the vapire sucking engergy out of other while introverts are nice and give them away. Thats bullshit.
In my experience as introvert social interaction really costs me energy. after a while with firends i really need some time and space for myself and are not really interested in social interaction anymore even though i maybe want to.. So here the comic is kinda fitting. But contary to my experience, that many introvert people i know are afraid of crowded places and other people, im not. I love standing in a middle of a place with many people and just watch them. Sitting in the middle of a full cinema. That doesnt cost me energy because im by myself.
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You're probably more of an ambivert you and your loved one. Might wanna check it out instead of beeing shocked that some people feel like this but that it doesn't apply to you as much.
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that's great! thanks for doing this
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I'm so introverted and this is so true
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Hahahahah
Me too x) I like being with people but I also need a lot of time to be alone. I think it's actually true what's been said in this incredible comic.
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yeah dat me.
kinda hard when I am out of juice on weekends because of where i work now kinda demands me to be social.
so I often decline my friends when they ask me to hang with em.
playing video games and using skype with my friends is perfect for me because It doesn't take so much of my expensive juice ^^
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this is so awesome ! I absoulutely adore it and you for making it. I needed this !
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luv it. my sister is an introvert, and i'm an extrovert. so this really helps
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As an extrovert, I often found it difficult to relate to my VERY introverted boyfriend . So, as a result, quite a few fights based around the idea that he was 'antisocial'.
I'll openly admit I was pretty selfish in wanting to go out more, interact with more people, go do things together outside of gaming/cuddling etc.
However it took a lot of communication to acknowledge the fact that we could both get what we needed through compromise and understanding.
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(For the record: "anti-social" is in quotes because I'm not too socially-active, not because I hate socializing.)
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that's an awesome guide which i can relate to!
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oh man, i can totally relate^^ one time i had a friend over (also introvert), he was "fleeing" from his flatmates who threw a party... so he brought his laptop, logged into my wlan and just sat there, playing games, browsing the interwebs, and we both did our own stuff, in the 4-6 hours he's been there we spent about 15-30min actively interacting! and i absolutely enjoy that kind of company
on point 2: that's very similar to how to interact with cats xD
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As one myself, I can confirm that this shit is exactly spot on. Well done, mate!
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I consider myself an introvert, and this i think is fairly true for most introverted people (including myself), though in the right situations I can be fairly outgoing (which is mainly in small and friendly groups). of course you can't speak for all of them XP
sometimes in school though I ask to go to the fountain just to get some flipping quiet for a moment
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this is really blowing back up!
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This actually describes me pretty well!Too bad people don't take the time to understand them
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This is very me, haha. good job.
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Very nice, just be wary of people who are introverted because of social disorders
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(Amazing and just what EVERYONE at my school needs to learn!!!)
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XD me, when I have my space I can be fairly open to people, but most of the time I'm quiet and I'm often drawing or reading, my brother however is not an introvert like me >.>
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Im an introverted. And I love my hamster ball
thank you for explaining intoverted people to those who couldnt undersand it.
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Oh my, This helps me so much to understand myself O.O
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Perfectly describes my life! I wish people would understand that without a guide lol
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Thank you! I've generally come home from school and gone "I need to be on my own with a book or my notebook so I can rest. Spending pretty much 7 hours at school with lots of people is not fun for somebody like me!" This probably explains why I'm tired after school or in the last two periods, because my energy levels are down quite low and they need to be restored. And why I seek solitude as much as possible. I can only stand so much...
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Haha, can I borrow this as like an "about me" thing on my Deviantart page? This fits me pretty perfectly.
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And by borrow I mean link to this picture.
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I'm a very, very shy guy myself, so I agree with what your saying here. However, I can't help but feel this is just another way of saying "Oh, look at me, I'm such a special snowflake!". Like you've made this kind of.. "label", that socially inept people (Myself included), can just slap onto ourselves and then flaunt it about. It just seems like you want to make yourself look "edgy" or cool to someone with this. Like, "Oh I'm an *introvert*, I'm so unique and special and you have to like me and treat me with respect while conforming to my ideas of social norms, because I'm an introvert!". As I said, I really can relate to this, but putting myself in the position of the extroverted person you're aiming in this; I can't really see them taking this seriously. People like that aren't nearly as thoughtful and open-minded enough to be able to appreciate this in the way you want them to, and it'll be passed off as pretentious, superficial bullshit. Let's also not forget that while it is perfectly fine to simply be reserved or introverted, sometimes, people who are like that, have issues that go much deeper than that. I refer specifically to conditions like autism, and forms of anxiety or depression. If you just slap a label on someone like that (Which is easy to do, for a lot of people it can difficult to differentiate between having aspergers and being "a bit shy"), that presents a whole lot of issues; from simply being mistreated by the people around them because they won't recognize their condition; to not getting diagnosed because they've been told they're "introverted". Where do you draw the line? We don't want to promote a society of people going about with genuine undiagnosed medical conditions, but at the same time it does need to be recognized that some people are just introverted. Just in case I get a response from some whiteknight saying "hurr durr if you don't like it don't look at it". My response to that is, for a start; I don't dislike this, I agree with the point being made and secondly, well.. god forbid I try to start a friendly discussion.
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Okay, I'm no expert, but I'm pretty sure the term introvert predates this comic. It's not about going "oh I'm so unique and special", it's about helping people understand what the word means and wrap their heads around what it's like to be like this.
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You're right, it certainly pre-dates the comic. I wasn't saying he invented the word. I meant that it seems to me like he's taken that word and has tried to make it "cool" or whatever, a label that people can put on. As for the last bit there, that's part of what I was getting at initially. The way I see it; people who aren't introverted don't care about people who are, they don't want to wrap their heads around what it's like to be such a way. But this kind of assumes that they do, or at the very least, gives us something we can put up for everyone to see whether they care about it or not; which in my opinion, just isn't the way to go about things.
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I don't think he's trying to make it look cool, just explain it. You assume that non-introverts don't care, but I believe that isn't the case. I'm sure many do care, but just don't understand it. Hence the purpose of this comic.
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Yes,a comic that finally understands me!Thank you!
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well now I know that I'm an Introvert. this is so me. and the one trying to get into the bubble of personal space is my best friend I can only do so much before I have to sleep
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Oh, finally someone understands me!
I also have to agree with the advice of marinamar17.
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now, when somebody looks at me weirdly because I say going out makes me tired, I can show them this!. I´m sure they´ll understand now!
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