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I'm tired of people see people who have trust issue on a negative way and claim that we should cope about our trust issues. Know what? We do not choose to have trust issues. We have them because of the shit we have gone through in our lives, and you can't just "Get over them" either. It's become more and more difficult to remain vulnerable, trusting, and open to life in this era of uncertainty, global upheaval, divorce, and disrupted family life. So tell me! How people are supposed to get over their trust issues when everyday we have people such like a father, mother, boyfriend, girlfriend, brother, daughter, son, sister and friends end betray you or keep secret from you for the most illogical reason? All this make us to begin to feel insecure and self-doubting to doubt our partner's love, loyalty, and trustworthiness on anyone including our families. There are numerous aversive experiences that contribute to our mistrust and lack of confidence. For example, the dishonest ways that many people communicate with each other and with their offspring or partners also damage their trust.

People who lack integrity tend to be duplicitous in their communications, that is, their actions don't correspond to their words. In an intimate relationship and family relationship, trust is all important as relationship are contingent on honesty and openness. In fact, trust could be thought of as the glue that holds a relationship together because it facilitates a positive emotional connection between partners and families based on affection, love and loyalty but deception and betrayal of trust can have a more damaging effect on as it will shatter the trust someone have with their boyfriend, girlfriend, brother, sister, father, mother etc. These painful events in people of all ages and gender leave unseen scars and have a profound impact on us throughout life. In an attempt to protect ourselves, we build a system of defenses against our pain, confusion, and disillusionment. Some of us vow never to trust anyone ever again; others become hyper-vigilent and feel determined to not be a naïve person.

If we were hurt by our parents, families, partners, friends and their dishonesty, we may see other people from a skewed perspective and develop harsh, cynical attitudes toward them. These self-protective defenses help us preserve an illusion of strength and invulnerability, yet these same defenses limit our capacity for trusting others and for finding fulfillment in a close relationship. So this is why I hate when someone see us on the most negative way and tell us that we should get over it about our trust issues. Believe me, I did not choose to have trust issues, and neither do other people but dealing with people who betray, people who are dishonest with others and people who keep secret, doesn't help with our problems. Maybe if people would stop betray each others and keep secret to each others, we wouldn't have trust issues.

Ever think of that?

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Description
I'm tired of people see people who have trust issue on a negative way and claim that we should cope about our trust issues. Know what? We do not choose to have trust issues. We have them because of the shit we have gone through in our lives, and you can't just "Get over them" either. It's become more and more difficult to remain vulnerable, trusting, and open to life in this era of uncertainty, global upheaval, divorce, and disrupted family life. So tell me! How people are supposed to get over their trust issues when everyday we have people such like a father, mother, boyfriend, girlfriend, brother, daughter, son, sister and friends end betray you or keep secret from you for the most illogical reason? All this make us to begin to feel insecure and self-doubting to doubt our partner's love, loyalty, and trustworthiness on anyone including our families. There are numerous aversive experiences that contribute to our mistrust and lack of confidence. For example, the dishonest ways that many people communicate with each other and with their offspring or partners also damage their trust.

People who lack integrity tend to be duplicitous in their communications, that is, their actions don't correspond to their words. In an intimate relationship and family relationship, trust is all important as relationship are contingent on honesty and openness. In fact, trust could be thought of as the glue that holds a relationship together because it facilitates a positive emotional connection between partners and families based on affection, love and loyalty but deception and betrayal of trust can have a more damaging effect on as it will shatter the trust someone have with their boyfriend, girlfriend, brother, sister, father, mother etc. These painful events in people of all ages and gender leave unseen scars and have a profound impact on us throughout life. In an attempt to protect ourselves, we build a system of defenses against our pain, confusion, and disillusionment. Some of us vow never to trust anyone ever again; others become hyper-vigilent and feel determined to not be a naïve person.

If we were hurt by our parents, families, partners, friends and their dishonesty, we may see other people from a skewed perspective and develop harsh, cynical attitudes toward them. These self-protective defenses help us preserve an illusion of strength and invulnerability, yet these same defenses limit our capacity for trusting others and for finding fulfillment in a close relationship. So this is why I hate when someone see us on the most negative way and tell us that we should get over it about our trust issues. Believe me, I did not choose to have trust issues, and neither do other people but dealing with people who betray, people who are dishonest with others and people who keep secret, doesn't help with our problems. Maybe if people would stop betray each others and keep secret to each others, we wouldn't have trust issues.

Ever think of that?

___________________________________________

How to use stamps:

1. Copy the number code from the URL

2. Paste it like this: :thumbXXXXXX: (XXXXXX being the number code)

3. Paste all of that wherever you want (Journal, DA ID, etc.)

4. Or go to details and copy the thumb number