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Published: 2017-08-05 12:09:19 +0000 UTC; Views: 278768; Favourites: 7366; Downloads: 550
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Description Dear Emma,

I write this as a friend. Well, you're my little sisters friend really. You grew up together, often round my house, playing in my garden, I've watched you grow into a wonderful young woman. So maybe I write this more as a sister. An angry sister.

I'm upset because someone called you names:
'Ugly' 'Worthless' 'Disgusting' 'Childish' 'Boring'  

To come from a stranger they would be bad enough. But to come from your boyfriend; the person you are supposed to trust most, must be so hard.
I am angry because these words are not true. You are none of these things.
 
But when someone calls us something, I know how the words can sit on your skin, and before you notice, they push deeper, into your blood and bones, they turn into the script we read from. Their ugly echos worm their way into your thoughts, actions, being. So deep you don't even feel them as something else, they are feel they are part of you. 'ugly' 'useless' 'boring' become the foundation of your wall. And it saddens me to think these words your boyfriend said might stick to you. It's our partners words we should be able to trust most of all. They are supposed to see us in the rose coloured light, build us up, and be our best ally.

'Beautiful' 'Funny' 'Positive' 'Trustworthy' 'Kind'

These are words that truly describe you Emma. I don't know why your partner didn't use them. Why he didn't want to bring you up rather than put you down. Only he knows why.
I can't tell you who to be with. I can't tell you what's right for you.
I can tell you I stayed too long with someone who wrote bad things on my bricks, and I'm still in the process of scrubbing them off.
All I can advise, with everything I have (and that's mostly drawing) is, however right it feels like they fit, to not slide those bad bricks in. Fill yourself with good ones for all you can, for if we hold 'beautiful' as a brick in our foundation, there is no place when someone hands us a brick of 'ugly'. We can just throw it away.

Emma. You are Beautiful.

Lost of love, your sister friend,
Blue xx




Yes, Emma is real, I drew and wrote this for her after I heard her boyfriends words. It 's not about telling her to leave. It's about supporting her. Having stayed in a bad relationship myself  (with my first partner, not my most recent, wonderful one) I know the real damage is done internally, and someone telling you to leave isn't much help. But someone building you up, and supporting you emotionally, really does help you think twice when you are treated poorly by someone who supposedly loves you.
She said I could share the letter/picture because lots of other people probably need a 'Beautiful' brick too. See, I told you she was kind She asked her name be changed so her boyfriend didn't get any abuse.

Peace, Love and Supporting Each other,
Blue x



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TigeressBird324 [2021-05-04 01:45:02 +0000 UTC]

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AsyaKck [2020-09-15 18:32:11 +0000 UTC]

Cool!

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madsler9 [2020-06-21 15:08:47 +0000 UTC]

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Robot58-Mech [2020-01-28 02:42:37 +0000 UTC]

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fairylene [2019-10-23 22:07:24 +0000 UTC]

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UncleSunday [2019-04-01 20:35:45 +0000 UTC]

ACTUALLY.

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PastaLaVistaKermit [2018-12-23 06:45:10 +0000 UTC]

well, theyre not wrong

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PhantasySpyClan77110 In reply to PastaLaVistaKermit [2019-07-21 03:03:03 +0000 UTC]

Meaning

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PastaLaVistaKermit In reply to PhantasySpyClan77110 [2019-07-26 14:19:50 +0000 UTC]

If you can’t tell than what kind of a brain do you have

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PhantasySpyClan77110 In reply to PastaLaVistaKermit [2019-07-26 19:36:18 +0000 UTC]

I was kidding

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PastaLaVistaKermit In reply to PhantasySpyClan77110 [2019-08-04 20:34:43 +0000 UTC]

wosh cringe normy

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PhantasySpyClan77110 In reply to PastaLaVistaKermit [2019-08-04 20:36:39 +0000 UTC]

Oof bruh moment

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PastaLaVistaKermit In reply to PhantasySpyClan77110 [2019-08-04 20:38:44 +0000 UTC]

That’s kinda cring bro

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PhantasySpyClan77110 In reply to PastaLaVistaKermit [2019-08-04 20:45:29 +0000 UTC]

Oh crap my baddo

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PastaLaVistaKermit In reply to PhantasySpyClan77110 [2019-08-05 17:53:45 +0000 UTC]

I’m going to take your subscriber now

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Hollow-Ween [2018-11-10 03:06:57 +0000 UTC]

why the living hell is your friend made out of bricks?

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VainillaMoon [2018-07-30 22:18:49 +0000 UTC]

Thank you so much for this QwQ❤️ I’m one of those who need it.

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Merengil [2018-07-22 19:08:12 +0000 UTC]

This is something I've only realized a few weeks ago... words are powerful. In multiple cultures, they have been given some reality-shaping power - and that is true: words can change reality. So... whenever you hear these nasty words, you can replace them with nicer, more positive words, and say it again (in your mind and out loud). Not only will that make you feel better, you'll feel a boost of comfidence after that - and that'll change your reality for the better (I guess all that was for Emma too Best of luck!)

As for you DestinyBlue, this drawing looks really nice, and it's so heartwarming to see you get involved in such important matters ^_^ Let's spread the word!

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goosetooth [2018-06-16 10:28:28 +0000 UTC]

that's awful I hope Emma's okay

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taemart [2018-06-03 11:01:55 +0000 UTC]

this is a great messege 

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Spreigo [2018-04-25 18:08:11 +0000 UTC]

Ima Emma some letters for meh xD

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TheBoredAsHell [2018-03-28 11:56:51 +0000 UTC]

Such a wonderful message, i hope she can move on 


meanwhile let me pummel the boyfriend with my own brick

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mabiesison [2018-01-31 03:33:15 +0000 UTC]

I was in the middle of class when I saw this and I cried a bit
I know it's directed for your wonderful sister but it speaks for us, victims.
I've been in an emotionally abusive relationship. It was great at first but it suddenly became worse little by little. I was given suicidal threats and I wasn't allowed to be a feminist. I was always cut off honestly
I dumped him back in march 2017 then I felt free yet traumatized. A month later, he was threatening for his life begging on his knees for me to come back for the sake of the relationship. I refused and he called me WEAK.
I've had past traumas for months and I sometimes I think he was right. I got up my knees, studied, got good grades, had self confidence, learned how to dress better and made peace with family and friends. I met someone new and I'm now receiving real love.
I was happier. Then something attacked me like a thought of why is he still haunting me. I saw your note and got touched. Then I moved along. 

Thank you for uplifting everyone we are all strong and I hope lovely Emma gets to recover and have a happier life without him. Go do great stuff! Love yourselves! Love people who deserve your love and forgive your past

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MovedAccountToBlyz5 In reply to mabiesison [2018-02-28 02:35:15 +0000 UTC]

Very well said... 

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TippleTopple [2018-01-28 05:17:35 +0000 UTC]

There's surprisingly kind of a strong meaning to this that I can relate to. That's pretty much what I say when I look at all your art.  

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TheyNeverDid [2018-01-24 23:43:43 +0000 UTC]

I can relate to this. No one should be able to, because we shouldn't say such horrible things to each other, but life isn't perfect. Many of us face abusive relationships, or just derogatory comments, and the douche bags of the world. Many of us don't feel like we have that brick, but we do. We also have intelligence, and one of the most important of all, kindness. 
 

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Haezir0 [2018-01-23 14:13:14 +0000 UTC]

i love it 

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BigWolfyHeart [2018-01-02 17:18:43 +0000 UTC]

I didn't Read the stroy to the end, but the First sentences was full whit Love i understandt you .





And Love you're Art




i'm Happy for you that you felling better 😊






I'm sorry for my bad englisch






Have a great day ❤

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RebellingLemming3 [2017-12-21 09:42:52 +0000 UTC]

Amazing artwork with an amazing idea! 

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heartswave [2017-11-26 21:46:36 +0000 UTC]

this is beautiful and im not just talking about the artwork (thats amazing) but the fact it was made for someone you care about makes it one of the most wonderful things in the world

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StrawberryScissors [2017-11-22 01:26:34 +0000 UTC]

This is truly beautiful. Your art always brings me joy, you give such great advice.

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MObubbles [2017-11-18 23:21:10 +0000 UTC]

Wow, this is beautiful, both in art and words.  It's truly touching and eye opening.  I went through something very similar a little over a year ago now, and I so wish I had someone to tell me not to let those bad bricks be my foundation.  I'm so glad that the internet has this now, for all those people who may be going through something similar.  Your art and words are always so uplifting, Blue, thank you and thank Emma for sharing this.
 

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Wonderwoman07 [2017-10-27 18:49:54 +0000 UTC]

This is so beautiful. I love this art work. 

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Emttus [2017-10-10 13:04:56 +0000 UTC]

This is one of the best works from you what hits on my heart right way... I have had this feeling like the girl in this work has so long as i can remember...
I just LOVE it and all another works you have done.

Thank you for making this kind of art 

   

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ZatchZ [2017-10-06 16:48:36 +0000 UTC]

Friends who take the bad words outta your body.

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ZatchZ [2017-10-06 16:48:12 +0000 UTC]

Why is her hand holding the brick like that?

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skeletonflwr In reply to ZatchZ [2017-10-07 00:23:59 +0000 UTC]

Why does it matter?

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ZatchZ In reply to skeletonflwr [2017-10-07 02:28:03 +0000 UTC]

Is it symbolic of something? Or is it because the artist flub the sketch but went with it.
So many questions...

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Hane-no-hi [2017-10-06 14:21:51 +0000 UTC]

Thank you
Keep beautiful for you Emma!

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rumRei [2017-10-06 03:10:59 +0000 UTC]

your art and words are always so inspirational. I really admire all your work it's incredible. 

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schnarre [2017-10-02 07:04:39 +0000 UTC]

...A fine show of support Blue!!

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Jay-The-Punk [2017-09-28 00:52:15 +0000 UTC]

                                                              ART CRITIQUE
                                                              by Jay-The-Punk
Date:28/09/2017
Piece name: A Letter to Emma
Artist: DestinyBlue

Negative:
Once again the only bit I can pick up on is Emma's left our right hand I think it's meant to be the brick on the end of the fingertips but it comes off as a little elongated in the fingers and doesn't seem to quite match.

Positive:
This is super sharp lines very fresh, clean, and defined, the details in all this are amazing! The writing on the bricks where it's slightly gappy brilliant! Just everything about this is rather wonderful it all seems spot on. The idea of bricks to help you build is great also bricks are often used in violence so it has a real grittiness to it and the words seem harsher because of that.   

Summary:
A very distinctively sharp piece, very clean airy feeling to it overall spectacular except for that hand but otherwise amazing great, great job Blue!

Personal Note:
I love the idea of you helping someone else like this, I love the personal touch in a different way, I almost didn't critique this one cause it felt so personal to Emma and yourself like I was walking into the middle of a conversation, I've always respected your boundaries and worried sometimes I may have overstepped them at times maybe I worry too much? but I always think you'll let me in closer if you wanted to or it feels right for you. Anyway! Wishing Emma the very best in her present and future
I have to admit I felt sad hearing someone so close at one point would have made you feel like that and it's had such a lasting effect on you, it makes me sad as I see the warmth and good in you but I know how tough you are too! Maybe scrubbing the bricks isn't going to much anymore, maybe you need a different approach to cleaning those bricks? if they can't be replaced that is *now speaking to self* anyway that's enough you! you're not Freud or anything XD


Please note that DestinyBlue has asked me to do critiques on her artwork.
If you disagree with my critique please don't hesitate to say so but please keep it constructive, thank you

If you would like critique on your artwork please send me a note on deviantart.

Thanks
Jaythepunk \m/
jay-the-punk.deviantart.com/

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