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ShinningArceus [2013-04-16 01:45:16 +0000 UTC]

I Support you!

(Because I suck at saying anything inspiring / motivational / life changing....sorry.)

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Xalainu [2013-04-12 22:24:20 +0000 UTC]

I accept you for who you are! ^^

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Devious-Bunny [2013-04-11 23:06:33 +0000 UTC]

I hope you don't mind that what I'm going to write is long, it's just you don't get that many people who come open like this, someone you feel you can relate a lot with, even if it's not 100% the same situation.

I know several trangenders, and I myself believe I belong in this category as I don't actually think I fit into EITHER gender, I'm sure it counts (based on what I read, anyway).


I used to have long hair, because my mum always told me that women with short hair were 'butch', 'lesbians', and other things like that. It made me think it was wrong, so I never cut my hair - I was too scared to.

I tried to wear skirts and dresses, but when I started puberty it just felt entirely wrong - it wasn't me, I was uncomfortable.


Then, I started to wonder if I was actually a man, it took me a while to accept the idea that I wasn't the gender I was born with, but I did.
I slowly tried cutting my hair shorter and shorter - but I was too scared to cut it too short myself. I started wearing more and more mens clothes, and eventually I had my brother cut my hair for me.
I finally felt really happy with my appearance, who I was, and I did think I may have been a FTM trans, too. I knew I felt way more comfortable when people thought I was male, and gave me their own male names for me (mostly Bart and Benny, but also Mat and Bart-Jay). It really does feel a bit weird and wrong to be called by my actual IRL name, my brother calls me Bart now.


But yeah, when I thought about it, I realised that I didn't believe I was actually a male. I don't think I fit in EITHER gender. I don't want to be treated differently for being male OR female, gender doesn't matter to me (but I know it DOES for so many other people, especially transgenders). I can happily accept that I have a woman's body - all it is to me is something genetic, it's like how I was born with dirty-blonde/light brown hair, blue eyes and pale skin - it's just DNA, one of the features that makes me who I am and I wouldn't get rid of it, because it's me.


It's sad, I know so many transgenders but most of them are people who were born the wrong gender, I don't know anyone that thinks the way that I do - more like a genderless person (although I don't actually mind being referred to as he or she, they're just words and I think it's up to the individual with what they feel comfortable with, what feels right for them to say).


I think society tells us we HAVE to fit into gender and the gender-stereotypical roles, men have to be masculine and women have to be feminine, but I know I'm more 'masculine' than so many men I know. You wouldn't believe how many times I've felt a guy was being too soppy on me. XD
Point is, those stereotypes are bullshit. You are who you are, I'm not male or female, but it doesn't mean I can't be more masculine than is expected of the gender I was born with.


I don't see you differently, it's just DNA and doesn't affect who you are. You're still you, and I hope it is at least of some comfort to know there's someone that feels similar to you, even if I'm not actually a man, I'm not female either (well, legally I will state that I am but that's just to make life easier, when there's an 'other' option I will always chose it).


And I'm the same with how you feel about the whole relationship thing. I used to think I was an asexual but have found I have this huge crush on this celebrity XD but when I think about being in a relationship, I do wonder if any guy would find me attractive because I am not feminine at all and I am not a male, so I feel like that rules out so many guys that may like me. But then again, I've seen my brother in so many relationships and they mostly seem the same general pattern and based on my experience, I don't think it's worth it anyway.


But yes, just know people support and understand. <3

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AlexMoene96 [2013-04-11 22:16:16 +0000 UTC]

Well. I think it's great you know who you are, and I will support you. I'm not sure if it'll mean much from me, since we don't talk as much anymore. but I would like to start again if it's ok with you. It's ok if it isn't either. I am pretty awkward < u >;

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caio4856 [2013-04-11 22:05:36 +0000 UTC]

I am confused,you're biologically a woman but you feel like a man? and you're sexually attracted to man?

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