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I know that lots of you out there maybe think of this as a cliche "well,I've seen something similar before.. so this is just a copy".. And so on.It is not a copy, I never saw this anywhere befor I made it myself.
This picture means a lot to me.
It may seem simple for you, maybe not that good a picture either, but it took me a lot of effort and courage to make it, an to post it here and on my blogg nearly scared the shit out of me. I really cried when I posted it.
I have experianced rape, twice.
The photo is made for a blog entrie about that experiance, and I promise you.. It was veeery hard for me to write.
I cried a lot.
I made myself more vunerable then I have ever been in my entire life.
I felt sick.
I exposed myself, showed the world my shame,
my secret...
I have come a long way.
Maybe I was lucky?
Maybe I am a fighter? I don't know.
But what I do know is that I have taken a really bad experiance and turned it to something positive.
It took me some years of denial, than some years in fear for that person, then came the year I acctually stood up and reported it to the police, of course nothing happend, exept for me beeing treathened by that man....
But I was building my own freedom, day by day.
Free from fear..For him.
Free from the pain and the agony.
Now I help others in situations like this thru a resource center, I work there a couple a day a month.
I can help others because I KNOW how it feels.
And I can help because I am strong, my own feelings and experiance doesn't afect mee... anymore.
Please, be kind. If you don't like this picture, it is totaly ok, of course.
But please keep it to yourself, don't share it with me.
Thank you for all your support, I appriciate it more than you can know.
Thank you
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Comments: 202
this is amazing.
you are amazing to be so brave like this. <3
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Thank you so much for your kind words
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I agree with this a whole lot.. Being a male I'm on the other side of things but still.. I dated a girl for a while who had gotten raped and every time anything of the sort got brought up I wanted to kill him... Being a man means standing up for what is right and being honorable. Those men are nothing of the sort...
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It's not entirely true, that you are on the other side
Men can experiance rape, by both men..And woman too..
But I understand what you mean.
Cauze I made this beaucause of an experiance I had,
It is my own experience I share, mainly, and that was with
a man.
I'm sorry to hear about the girl you dated, it's allways, and ALLWAYS
a terible thing, rape.
And I do agree, they are not men, like I want to call men..
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This is true, I usually avoid thinking about that 
If you can make something about your experience then it shows you can get through it.
They truly aren't men they are males but not men, people use the word man and men to include all males but it doesn't..
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i know how you feel. i went through it once. im glad you posted this. I`m with you.
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Thank you so much for your nice comment.
I am sorry to hear that you've been thru it too...
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yes, but all we can do is carry on.
your very welcome dear, it was much deserved
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It takes more than just courage to express your feelings to the public about something like this.
You are one unique person, I hope you stay that way, and I am sure that your uniqueness will bring you only good.
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Thank you so much
you have no idea how much it means to me,
your comment.
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In fact, I do, since I am a fiancΓ©e to a woman that got treated the same way. And I know what kind of a struggle it is to carry it on your own shoulders.
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You are a really good man
She is lucky.
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Thank you for the kind words, I hope she feels the same way, here, you can have a look at her
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She is beautiful
The photo, too.
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I know how you feel. I've had it happen twice to me and I've forgotten about it but ( or tried to )
and recently it's been coming back from a book we're reading in my English class.
It's nice to have close friends to help you though.
;3; 
Take care of yourself.
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Thank you so much for you're nice comment
I'm sorry to hear that it happend to you too.
I've also went thrue it twice (three actually...But thats a long story, and
that was a woman, but it was really just as bad)
But the first tmime it happend was the worst,
sooo emotional disturbing.
Heh, I'm just one of those unfortunatly souls.
But it's a looong time ago, it feels like a millenia since it happend,
but at the same time not.
It's really strange how you can forget about it, I did for many years, well
not forget, I really diden't think much about it.
Untill this fall... My youngest kid goes to kondergarten.. And apperently the youngest girl to
that sorry excuse of a man that did it the forst time, goes there too.
It's so horrible and painful.. Every day I must face the possibility to meet him.
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I know it's caused me to create a fear of men so it takes me a long time to get used to having one as a friend. I know it's really destroyed my I'm only 14.
The first one was my mom's boyfriend's son and it really sucks because he stays over at our house sometimes and I hate it. I always hide in my room when he comes.
And I think he's forgotten about what he did because he seems oblivious as to why I hide from him. :c
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OMG! Of course he hasen't forgot about it.
I wish I could tell you what to do, but I don't.. We are all so different.
Just keep youære head high, you know, don't show him that he's ot a hold on you.
Thats what I do, and it work, after a while.
It's very importent to not fear the fear it self.
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Well I dunno he's only a year older then me and he was pretty young when he did it.
But I mean I've gotten this far. :'3 As long as we know to keep going and not to be afraid of anything we can go as far as we want.
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This his home with me, I have never been raped, but my best friend has, and I feel like it happened to me personally, honestly. Its touching, and just a few words describe so many thoughts, and emotions. Brilliant.
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Thank you so much for you're nice comment
I'm really sorry about you're friend
She is lucky to have you, to support her.
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Yeah, we're both through it, and the boys in jail, so we're getting through it.
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very emotional. here's a hug.
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There's a campaign at my school right now called Real Men Don't Rape. It made me really happy to see this somewhere else too.
I applaud your bravery and strength.
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Thank you so much, it means a lot to me
I'm really happy to hear about the campaign at you're school, I think it's fantastic and also nessesary.
This subject really needs moore attention.
To provide it, and also so we learn what it does to a person when it has happend.What I wish for is for people who does experianse rape know that it's not the're fault, and that they don't need to feel ashamed.
It's often the shame and the guilt that destroyes you.
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Exactly. And you might be surprised to hear that it was a group of guys here on campus who started the campaign. They were sick of the ridiculous images of masculinity we see every day and how degrading it is to women.
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Wow.. I'm in awe!
It makes me really, really happy, no words for it
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Really emotional and meaningful work.In my opinion,People who have committed a sexual attack can't be considered as humans at all.
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Thank you so much, means a lot to me
Oversettelse fra norsk (bokmΓ₯l) til engelsk
The penalty for sexual abuse should have been much stricter than it is today.
Unfortunately, few of those being punished at all.
None of those who did that to me has been punished for it.
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The saddest part is that many women don't take any action to inform police or other authorities about being attacked.I can't pretend that I totally understand what's stopping them,shame?fear?
You're right,the punishments are too gentle.I'm sure that few years in prison don't change people.(but I don't want to start a discussion about the pros and cons of death penalty).
Maybe I'm too strict with this topic in general but I once knew one victim.She said that a lot of people don't understand that the emotional pain stays for years.She couldn't handle it and is gone now.
Sorry I got a bit carried away.But like the others have said here,it is a thought provoking.
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It's ok to get carried away, very interesting
what you have to share.
It's very sad about your friend
But like she said, people who haven't been thru that sort of things,
can't imagin what it does to you... To you're mind anyway.
It's a lot of fear and very mush shame and not mention guilt.
Most girls (and men too) live with guilt.. "I aked for it.. It was all my fault" etc etc..
It's much easier to handle it that way, believe it or not.
But it is a reaction of the mind.
And, yes, you live with it for many years, but you hav eto learn to live WITH it, not IN it.
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Great picture - very emotive and thought provoking. It would be an interesting start to a discussion I'm sure. Well done.
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Thank you so much.
I made it for my blogg, when I wrote about when it happend to me.
ANd yes, it's a great start to a discussion
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I see now what made you do this. I can only begin to understand how much emotion must have gone into this picture now. I can see how in a way its come from your heart and soul. This has made it even more thought provoking for me. you must be a very strong person inside (bit like a vampire maybe!! lol) Take care and keep producing!
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Thank you so much for the kind comment
and thank you also for appreciating the picture, and the story behind it
I can't deny that it has been very hard at some points, but be beeing totaly open about it,
I know that I have helped others, and thet again helps me, a lot
Thank you, again.
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My pleasure.
By the way - have you watched 'True Blood' the vampire series. Its really good. It takes one or two epsodes to get into it and then the characters really take off.
I am into vampires too! I have photoshopped a few gory/vampire type pics but haven't wanted to put them on my website as they are not brilliant, but there are a couple of pics on our website www.ant-e-art.com which you might like!
Hope you are having a nice day!
Take care
Paul
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Hi, sorry the very, very late answer
I LOVE true blood, I can't wait for it to start up again after xmas.
And yes, it takes some episode to get used to it, but the seson 3 is just fantastic!
I love how how you never know what comes next, really exiting.
And the charecters, you never know where the'yre true loyalty lays.
I like you're gallery btw, you have some really interesting photos
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Oh, and what's the blog post? I'd be interested to read it if you don't mind me doing so.
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Of course you could read it, heh, but I don't know if you'd understand a word..
Beacause it's in norwegian
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lol Nope! Limited to English unfortunately. Oh well.
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Real humans don't commit sexual assault. Once a person does that, they've lost all claim to humanity, at least to me. Anyway, great piece. The message has been done a lot, but you did this is really dramatic. It hits home.
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