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Published: 2015-05-23 04:43:19 +0000 UTC; Views: 773; Favourites: 17; Downloads: 0
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Hey!Okay so this is a massive update on my life, but about 8 or 9 months ago, I was talking to my friend and we both figured out that I'm Aromantic. For those that don't know it means I can't experience romantic attraction. Now I I'm still Heterosexual though, and I personally don't think of myself as queer or part of the LGBTQA+ communtiy, and I'm okay with that, but a few weeks ago I came across a few posts on tumblr about how aromantic heterosexuals and (even worse) axesual heteromantics not only don't belong in the community, but flat out don't exists and we're just using aromantisism as an excuse for our lifestyle and that upset me greatly.
Like I get it, but it’s one thing to argue whether aromatic heterosexuals should be included in the LGBTQA+ community and it’s a completely different thing to iNVALIDATE SOMEONE’S ROMANTIC ORIENTATION BY SAYING THEY’RE JUST USING AROMANTICISM AS AN EXCUSE TO VALIDATE THEIR “”“BACHELOR LIFESTYLE”“”
So I drew this as a response to all the assholes! ^^ Have a nice day!
~munchy
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Just pimp slap stupid people that all I say
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I'll get my pimpin' white ring!
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Cool cool Iccolo, I had no idea XD
Let us ascend to godhood together!
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XD yes we shall leave the lower sexuality’s beneath us it will be glorious
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can you explain a bit more? I'm curious about it.
And nicely done!
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Of course! ^^ what do you want me to explain exactly?
Also thanks ^^
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XD I don't know to be honest. I've only just heard about Aromantic...I mean I guess I understand that you don't form romantic relationships? I google searched the word, but obviously that didn't help all too much XD most of what showed up were tumblr posts. Not bad ones mind you, just ones that didn't really describe it other than 'you may be an aromantic if' type of thing.
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Ah! okay, so Aromantic is a romantic orientation. It's different then sexual orientation in the sense that instead of being sexually attracted to someone, you're romantically attracted to someone (as in you want to form a relationship with this person, go on dates, hug, kiss, etc.). Romantic and sexual orientation however are two separate things, like for instance, your romantic orientation does not have to match up with your sexual orientation, but the norm is that it usually does.
An easy (and most used) example of this is people who are asexual can still form romantic relationships, because they still feel romantic attraction towards people. They can still be homoromantic, biromantic, panromantic, heteromantic, etc.
Now Aromantics are sorta like Asexual people in the sense that we don't experience a certain attraction. Aromantics don't experience romantic attraction towards people, but can still feel sexual attraction (however it should be noted that there are Asexuals who are also Aromantic). For instance I am heterosexual, however I am also Aromantic. My ideal relationship is a friend's with benefits kinda deal... if that makes any sense.
To really understand the concept, it's important to emphasize four things: 1.) Sex and Love are two different things, and while a lot of people will tell you that one can't live without the other, that's complete bullshit. You can have sex with someone and not be in love with them; you can be in love with someone and still not have sex with them.
2.) You can be of any sexuality and still be Aromantic.
3.) There are different types of love out there, not just romantic. Being Aromantic doesn't mean you can't love, it means you just can't love someone ROMANTICALLY. You can still love your family, your friends, your passions in life. You can love someone platonically and deeply without it being romantic. If you believe in it, you can also still have a soulmate (I do). Being Aromantic doesn't mean you can't love at all.
4.) Aromantic are not people you have commitment issues! Commitment issues implies that we're afraid of commitment in general, but that's not the case, because if that were true, it means we would have to feel some sort of romantic attraction towards someone to be afraid of a committed relationship with them in the first place. We do not feel romantic attraction, and therefore are not afraid of commitment, we simply don't want that kind of relationship.
Another thing which is important to note is that some Aromantics love romance in general (like myself) but when that romance is geared towards us (i.e.) someone wants a romantic relationship out of us) we get uncomfortable and push it away. We don't want a romantic relationship ourselves, but some of us still like the genre.
There are also Aromantic who don't like romance, they are disgusted by it and don't want anything to do with it, and that's a-okay too.
There is also a whole spectrum of Aromantics (similar to the spectrum of the LGBTQA+ community). And it is worth looking into if you're curious. Some of these romantic orientations include demiromantic , grey-romantic , lithromantic/akoiromantic , WTFromantic etc.
I hope that helped even a little bit. The main reason I brought this up at all was because people were being assholes and completely denying the fact that Aromantics even exist and are nothing but sluts or people with commitment issues.
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