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NekohimeKagepuma — The Memories of You [FUNSUN event]
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Published: 2017-07-09 20:28:35 +0000 UTC; Views: 1011; Favourites: 32; Downloads: 2
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My grandmother died July 4th. I got to be there to say goodbye when it happened. It was probably one of the hardest things I have ever done in my life but I was glad to be with her in her final moments. I'm not going to say some nonsense about how important blood is or any of that, since everyone's situation is different, but I do think it is so important to be able to be with family, whether they are biological or those you claimed. Even during the hard times when life is falling apart or you're so insanely busy that you can't sleep or eat, taking that little bit of time to tell those you love that you you really do is something irreplaceable.The group I admin (OC-Tea ) is having our first contest in I don't know how long. The theme is Fun in the Sun and it is going on until the 21st. While most people think of beaches and hanging out with friends during Summer, I never really did those things so I guess my idea is a bit different. My summers were spent back and forth between my grandparents or preparing for the next school-year. So for me, the image of "fun in the sun" brings back memories of being with my family at historical sites and monuments. Because my thoughts are filled with sadness, I decided to make the sun not as a bright source of joy, but as a subtle source of love and use more gentle lighting. For my entry, I drew my OC Tigerlilly and her granddaughter Kurohime. Under the cool shade of the trees, the two enjoy each-others company, playing with magic. The time Kurohime spends with her grandmother is most important to her childhood, as her relationship with her mother is non-existent. When she gets older, Kurohime will look back and the sun will seem so much brighter, and the embraces of those days so much warmer.
Characters and art belong to me. There's tons of drawings of them in my gallery if anyone wants to know more.
If anyone wants it, you can find my Patreon here . My grandmother was so excited I finally got a booth at a con, so I'm going to make it the best damn booth I can possible do.
EDIT: The speedpaint for this will be available on Patreon
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Even though it's been decades, I still miss my grandpa. He actually passed away on September 1st, but I always remember him. I even have this one momento that's managed to stay with me after all this time. A couple days ago, I actually got a surprise gift from my own grandma, a necklace with a grandmother's love type of engraving. Life has kept me moving further away physically, but I feel so blessed that we're always close to each other in our hearts. So I can greatly empathize with how you feel. Even with family being those you choose to keep close to you. I'm not close to any of my extended family blood-wise, but I know people that I feel I can deem family outside my immediate one.
This art piece is super heart-warming.
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Thank you very much for your words, they really made me feel good 
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Oh, I believe it. I get lost in my own head, and forget to call my grandma more often. I'm trying to make a note of that better. Maybe wearing the gift necklace will remind me to more often.
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Well then I hope it helps you
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I'm sorry about your grandmother. I've lost family before and it's always a difficult experience, the best we can hope for is to not live in regret. regretting and Wishing we told the people we love that we loved them before it was to late. Life always tends to have a lot to show us, both light and dark, sad and happy and all those colors in between.
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I think it just feels so much rougher since I lost my great-grandmother just a couple of weeks before. The wake is this Saturday, so hopefully that will help. I do completely agree with the whole balance thing though. I've had so many amazing opportunities come my way since then. The frustrating thing is not being able to share it with my loved ones. But I'll be able to push through ^.^ she taught me to be strong!
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Yeah that's pretty rough. Awhile back (like 2 years ago) my brother almost died and it was a difficult experience because we were really close to losing him. that kind of changed our perspective about ourselves and everything around us. It made us want to strive to better our lives and we've been doing that little by little as much as we can. Though were not there yet but we are working on it.
I feel that the reflection of having to deal with something so hard makes us try harder to speak the words we leave unspoken, to do the actions we wish we did for the better. That side of us reaching out to those we still have, holding them, sharing and telling them how we feel about them. us deciding to be honest and true instead of being caught up in some form of drama about some meaningless scuffle about something small and stupid... I think the world has enough of that as it is, i think contributing to it won't help us convey the things we really wish to say.
But anyway I hope for the best.
It sounded like you had some great grandmas and i hope things get better for you.
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Yes, this exactly! Honestly, I look at all of the petty drama people start on FB and it's just not worth it at all. To be full of hate and negativity? I don't have time for that anymore for sure. It's just sad that sometime's it takes facing those types of things to realize how much of a waste being cruel and mean is. It's always an uphill battle so why make it harder by creating rifts with those that could help?
Thank you
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I couldn't of said it better myself and i don't think i have anything to add to it that point.
yeah it's just so tiring to keep dealing with all that nonsense drama filled conflicts people create and never quit or understand even though its making things worse.
You're welcome, it's no problem at all.
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And you know in the end it never goes away. It just shifts in a different direction. People will always find something to fight over so it's just not worth fighting (unless it literally effects your health/life) when it won't actually make a difference. We're only alive for so long, I'd rather fill my life with love and happiness than hatred and depression.
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I agree, i only tend to deal with drama and conflicts when it effects my home life and health. If there's a problem that needs being dealt with, you gotta deal with it. I try to handle these situations with a calm composure but sometimes I'm just not in the right mood, lack of sleep or something else preventing me from being well mannered about it.
I don't like feeling so much hate and depression in my life and i try my hardest to free myself of that burden but i don't run away from feeling depressed because usually it's for a reason and usually i have to tend to the mess and come up with some form of solution towards the issues. And feeling depressed has helped me realize what i want and what i don't want in my life and I'm thankful it gave that realization.
I don't blame the emotions but the cause of them. I also try not to let the emotions decide how i should handle situations. But like all of us, i don't always succeed and that's ok, sometimes the only way to know how to deal with something is to fail a couple times first.
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I completely agree with everything you said! It's always refreshing when I can have a wholesome conversation with people on DA without trolls or thieves in the mix. Here's to hoping both of us can steer clear of nightmare drama!
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Trolls and Theives are always annoying to deal with. -_-
I hope that also.
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You're welcome.
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