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Published: 2018-01-11 23:14:01 +0000 UTC; Views: 6059; Favourites: 165; Downloads: 0
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Random people don't need to know personal details about your disabled child's life. As someone who is autistic, I've had my mother tell people I'm autistic without my permission or knowing I'm okay with it, not even to doctors or anything just people she just met. Everyone I've met don't even realize I am until they're told, and there are some people that treat me noticeably different for it so it often pisses me off.Don't exploit the fact that your child is disabled for money either. While it's okay, and I'll even encourage you, to talk about not getting the proper benefits to care for your child or whoever your taking care of and asking for donations if you truly need them, but you just don't tell the world every single thing they've done, since they're still people and deserve their privacy as much as everyone else.
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I remember someone venting about something on a forum I'm on, they had a stroke and they need some special care because one side of their body doesn't work properly, so they have to be assisted with certain things such as having a bath. Now they were on the toilet, and the mother sent the father into the toilet, RIGHT WHEN THE KID WAS IN THE MIDDLE OF THEIR BUSINESS, MIND YOU to get something. The dad was willing to wait until the kid was finished, but the mum forces him to get it anyways. And the kid goes and complains to his mum and the mum turns it all around like it's hisΒ fault!
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I also have Digeorge too!
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I was having a hard time asking if I could trade for an item in goodwill and my dad blurted to the woman I asked that I was autistic and it was hard for me to ask. While that is true it was rather annoying because I didn't want to work on her emotional side. I just wanted to make a trade of items to buy in a professional manner. I didn't end up getting the item I wanted, but she said now I feel bad and that wasn't my intention at all.Β
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In special ed, kids that misbehaved weren't allowed to go to the bathroom by themselves... -_-
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In my special ed class, no one can go to the bathroom alone, no matter their behaviour.
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Whatever happened to detention?
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That's a bit too cruel..
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I go to a SPED class. I hate it. I absolutely hate it.
I get treated like a baby just because I have Asperger's/ADHD/anxiety/bipolar/possible PTSD(?). I've also been yelled at by one of the teachers for having a mental breakdown before.Β
Plus, the teachers give me NO PRIVACY. If I don't want to talk, they nag me on like they have some perverted crush on me. I kid you not, today I didn't want to show one of the teachers something I drew, and her exact words were "Now I'm sad. My weekend is ruined!". Your whole weekend is ruined because a kid didn't show you her drawing? Yeah, right
And yes, the teachers think that the kids can't go to the bathrooms by themselves, so they make them go to the bathroom in the classroom. I feel uncomfortable in classroom bathrooms because it makes me feel like every sound I make is broadcast to the entire room..
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Honestly, I loved special ed because it was at least 10x better than how I was treated in public school. But there were defiantly things I HATED about it.
"I've also been yelled at by one of the teachers for having a mental breakdown before." What a load of bull crap. I was sent to special ed because of mental breakdowns [and average teaching styles not working], least where I was, they respected you and tried to calm you down. Well, the majority of teachers. Some special ed teachers have no place looking after the special ed, tbh. If they don't know how to deal with breakdowns, they have no right in that field. I am sorry to hear you're dealing with that, it's absolute crap.
She sounds like a weirdo. I know what you mean by no privacy too. I was once in a bad mood and the program councilor asked how I was and I said "bad". He wanted to have a session with me but I wanted to get to class and forget about my issues. He kept insisting and began following me around, so I started crying and he told me to go to the principal's office. I didn't think I had to go for not expressing my feelings, so I didn't. He cleared out the classroom and called my Mom to pick me up for "acting out" .. I have not forgotten about it 11 years later, even my mom was pissed about it.
That's... so extreme. What the hell ? Admittedly, my comment was based off of what I've heard kids from the other programs complaining about. Though, our program, there wasn't much privacy either. There was only 1 toilet for each sex in the entire program of about 25 students. The bathrooms were in a classroom/homeroom right by the principles' office, though that was mostly due to very low funding; we only had about 5 rooms to our program.. and one doubled as a councilors office and teacher's lounge. But we were made to check in and out of the bathroom with a sheet, so the teachers always knew who the last person was. Except when someone doesn't sign in. One time, a girl who used the br after me didn't sign in or flush, so I got in trouble because I was the last to sign in. -__- I got a "Notice of Concern", which was some piece of paper they gave you when you were misbehaving. It did bull, other than disallowing you from field trips.
Some of the teachers also tried involving themselves in my relationship lmao.
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Yeah, it really sucks considering I don't even really feel like someone who really needs so much support. I know I have quite a few mental illnesses/etc. but they don't really affect me that much.. yet my teacher decides to incorporate disabilities into every dang thing we do, even referring to a Christmas party we had as "A special needs Christmas". I mean, what the hell?!
My teacher also doesn't seem to understand what selective mutism is (I forgot to mention that I have that too) and thinks that I'm being rude when I simply just can't say anything at that time. If I don't answer her, she often gets extremely close to me and will repeat the question, then go about with the "speak when you're spoken to" bullcrap, which actually makes me not want to talk even more. Often times when I see her in the hallways or at lunch, she'll be all "Hi Nora! How was class?" (forgot to mention that my name is actually Nora in real life) like she's my mom or something.. and speaking of that, she acts like her students are her children, and she's barely even an ersatz teacher. I mean, I know I should probably be thinking she's "accepting me as her own" or something, but.. no? It sounds more like she's way too obsessed with us..
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I feel ya on that one..
"A special need Christmas" SERIOUSLY !? What the hell !?
..That lady sounds very creepy and a bit abusive, tbh. o.e
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I know. "A special needs Christmas" sounds like a Christmas movie made by Autism Speaks, honestly
And speaking of Autism Speaks, I found out she supports that organization. I've seen her wearing a shirt that says "Light it up blue - Autism Awareness" and using a lot of "Autism Awareness" and puzzle piece stuff, and I'm really not surprised judging by the way she treats us.
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Yep... and woooaaa that is crap.
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Yep.
I've been beginning to think she's rather sexist too. Today she made a boy hold the door open for me (when I could very well open that door, by the way) and claimed "boys are supposed to hold the door open for ladies". While it kinda made some sense because I was carrying a fair load of stuff at the time (but I open doors with that amount of stuff in my hands all the time honestly), later on the same kid was all "Here, let me open the door for you!" when I wasn't even holding anything at all. When I tried to explain that I could open that door on my own, the teachers didn't seem to care.
And later on I heard them talking about it, and laughing about what I said about being open the door on my own. They even said stuff about "how polite it was", I see absolutely NOTHING polite about rushing to hold the door for someone just because they're a female. As I said earlier, it's actually kinda sexist.Β
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Yeah, that is really sexist, I hate that mentality..Β
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Probably the worst thing my teacher has ever said to us, however, was "I think everyone should have me as a teacher".
Yeah, I'm sure we'd all love a teacher who is extremely two-faced and abusive
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OML how conceited of her.
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Yeah..
By the way, there's another kid in my class who's kinda like me (he rarely talks to anyone) and, similar to me, the teachers think it's hilarious to poke at him until he does say something (he rarely does say any actual thing, but he makes a noise sometimes which I believe means something like "please stop"), and the teachers laugh. I believe it's considered a form of exploitation, almost.Β
And yeah, it seems it's pretty obvious that the teachers pick favorite students. They love the obnoxious ones that scream and play loud music, but only love the more quiet ones to poke at.Β
She's also very hypocritical with what she says. She once yelled at a kid for saying that he liked a shirt someone was wearing, then went on a big rant about respecting privacy.. yet she turns around and starts crowding over kids who are more quiet.Β
I also remember that when that kid I was mentioning (same kid who's quiet) got a haircut about a month ago (he has fairly long hair, so occasionally it covers his face). When the teachers saw it, their response was "Now you can't hide from us!".Β
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..That's disgusting. Yeah, the more I hear, the more I think that's an abusive environment. Have you told your parents about how they are ? They sound completely insane, sorry to hear you and other students are having to deal with that.
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I've told my dad about it, he agrees for the most part, though I haven't told my mom since I don't really talk to her about that kind of thing.
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Hopefully something is done about them. :/
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I hope so, but I'll be getting out of school soon (I think it's only like 17-16 days at this point) so I'm not sure.
To be fair, I've encountered a LOT of teachers that I really hope have been fired now, such as my math teacher in 5th grade (she'd constantly yell at me and my friend for no reason whatsoever, and once she yelled at my friend for drawing one small thing on her paper and even made her cry from that), and my homeroom teacher in 6th grade (she made me upset, and I had a mental breakdown but she kept yelling at me to "pick your head up" and then expected me to come back to her with open arms, kinda like my current teacher).Β
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That's good at least and geez.... the world in general needs better teachers. o.e
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I agree, most of the teachers I've met are pretty nice (most notably my social studies teacher, my health teacher from last semester, my science teacher, my art teacher, and my engineering/tech teacher), but I definitely think schools should be more understanding about this kind of thing, and should really hire SPED teachers who actually KNOW what mental illness is! Hell, my social studies teacher evidently knows more about mental illness than my SPED teacher, as he seems to understand that when a student is upset it's usually best to leave them alone for a while instead of going over their shoulder asking "ARE YOU OKAY?! ARE YOU SAD?! LET ME HELP YOU I WANNA HELP YOU TELL ME WHAT'S WRONG WHY WON'T YOU TALK TO ME ADSFSGHFDSGH"Β
Not even lying, my SPED teachers have actually stood over my shoulder just to ask me a question. It nearly made me go into a mental breakdown.
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Yeah, I've met my share of great teachers. Mostly in special ed, though.
Holy crap, that's annoying. Yeah, that's not how emotions work. People need their space, weather they're mentally ill or not.
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I agree. In my general education classes, the teachers usually leave me alone when I'm upset (though I rarely actually get upset in general ed classes, when I do it's usually from something that happened earlier; once I had a mental breakdown during third hour (my SPED class, by the way) and they held me back from my next class (social studies) for a while just because I was upset, when I came into social studies I was still upset but all the teacher really did is just ask if I was okay and then just left me alone for a while)
But yeah, my SPED teachers seem to think that emotions do work that way for some reason, and they act like everything's gonna magically get better just because you talked to someone. So what they do is they force you to talk. I'm not even kidding, once a teacher asked me a few questions (I literally only responded with stuff like "yeah", "good", etc.) and then my SPED teacher was nearby and she went off about "you just talked to someone else why don't you talk to me 
But back to what I said earlier about how she acts like everything will magically get better just because you talked to someone, she doesn't seem to have ANY tolerance towards introverts. Yet she's saying stuff like "i understand if you have anxiety and you don't want to talk to people", as if she doesn't force introverted kids into talking to her. With what's going on at school, I'd rather just be there but not really talk, especially since I can't really think of the right thing to say all the time. And I'd rather be introverted and happy than extroverted and miserable.
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....That's insane. She needs to learn boundaries. Seriously. -.-
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Yes. I mean, I seriously don't get what the hell is wrong with simply not feeling like talking to someone.
And the kids in that class are almost as bad. I have an extremely annoying girl on my bus who sometimes calls my name for no reason, and today when I brought a clay project back from art class (it was wrapped in newspaper since part of it broke off, I later reattached it with glue at home) she decided to ask "What's that? Can I see?!" and I didn't respond, and then of course she had to say "She's so quiet, it's weird.". I was tempted to say back, "And you're so loud. It's annoying.". If you're going to force me to talk to you, then I'd really rather not, thanks.
But of course, it's apparently okay to bully someone into talking to you because "hurr durr you need to talk to people in society". I know how to talk to people, for hell's sake..
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Jesus... that's so annoying.
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I know.. that's basically what I have to deal with every day.Β
I'll talk to someone if they actually give me a decent reason, and anyone who comments on how quiet I am, how I don't talk to them, etc. I won't talk to.
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And it really doesn't help that the kids aren't any better than the teachers, for the most part. One of the kids in my class always talks like an unfunny comic relief in a kids' show/movie, which not only makes it practically impossible to understand him at times, but it can get ridiculously annoying, and even though he's older than me (he's 14, I'm 13), I really feel a lot older in terms of maturity compared to him.Β
And if you're wondering, he's one of the kids who doesn't seem to actually understand how terrible the teachers really are, and he actually seems to love them, even though they yelled at him once just for singing and making other kids angry (when the other kids actually threatened to break his legs and stuff like that, but the teachers just seemed to care about him being annoying). He once made the teacher this thing that reads "Your the best techer" (I assume it's "You're the best teacher").. Remember when I mentioned that time the teacher said that everyone should have her as a teacher? He went up and agreed. Similar thing happened when the teacher got really oddly proud about me saying a few phrases to her, he went up and said "Yeah, because she rarely ever talks, and it's good that she did talk!"
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He sounds energetic, I guess not that bad since he's a kid. I have an easier time getting annoyed with adults because they should know better. I'm glad he's enjoying life.
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That's true.Β
To be fair, he's not the worst kid there (I don't feel like explaining everything about the other kids) but I will agree that the teachers are way worse.Β
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As I mentioned, the teacher really doesn't seem to understand how disorders work at all, and actually said the other day that making someone uncomfortable is a good way to help them deal with their disorders.
That way of "treatment" is like treating someone's injuries by stabbing them, so I have no idea where the hell she got this from.Β
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Woah. I've never met her and I hate her.
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I agree, yet she tries to act like she's my parent even though she obviously picks favorite students, treats introverts like they're worthless, does absolutely nothing about actual abusing/bullying (today some kids were telling me that I supposedly "acted like I was in charge" when I just wanted them to stop talking so I could work, since I can't focus on anything when people are talking), doesn't seem to accept that kids do grow up and they will likely swear (she yells at us every time we even say something like "hell", "damn", etc.), claims to "accept" and "know all about" disabilities when she really just makes things up and obviously assumes everyone with a disability will act like her kids and doesn't seem to understand the more shy aspects of certain disabilities/disorders, and I'm always feeling like I'm being stalked by her..
About that last one, she (and the rest of the teachers in my school) have this program for the computers so that they can see what we're doing on them. It's not so bad for the most part, as most of my teachers don't really use it (except for some cases, such as testing), but this teacher uses it for JUST ABOUT EVERY TIME WE EVEN GLANCE AT THE COMPUTER. She's even told me that sometimes she looks at my computer when I'm in my general classes, which just makes me think she can see what I'm doing, no matter what. You know, just because I'm in a SPED class doesn't mean I don't get to be treated like a normal person
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Oh, they had those at my school too but it was for all classes, not just disability. I never really cared, though, honestly.Β
and for the swearing, some settings are just inappropriate to do it in.
Hm. I also need it complete quiet when studying. I hate it when stuff like that happens..
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Yet we don't get it. I am still super pissed that I am subjected to drug testing where I have to give up medicinal information because one of the drugs I take may show up as illegal.Β
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Could this be used for physical ones too?
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Alright, thank you. 
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