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The easiest way to tell if you are in a relationship with a narcissist, is to set boundaries and take space. A narcissist will see these acts of self care, that have nothing to do with them, as a personal attack on them. They will try to gaslight you into thinking that you are hurting them and doing something wrong by putting yourself first. They will try to make you feel guilty by playing the victim and telling you how hard things are for them. They may feign care for you by saying they are "worried about you"(major red flag). They may even threaten the relationship. They will do whatever they can to make you question your choices and feel bad for them, so that you abandon yourself to please them. Their detachment from the emotional part of themselves means that they have to feed off of the energy of others to get by. Ignoring your needs and giving them your power by putting them first, above everything, is exactly what they want. Their insecure ego's need to be the center of your world at all times, means that they will do whatever it takes to break you down, so that you are controllable and able to be taken advantage of. If someone gets offended/mad at you when you set boundaries/take space, they do not care about or want whats best for you. They can sweet talk and say they care about you as much as they want, but at the end of the day, if they don't support you prioritizing your well being...then they don't actually love you. Someone who is able to love unconditionally will recognize that self care should be everyone's priority, and that boundaries and space are essential parts of a healthy relationship. They will not try to make you feel bad for taking care of yourself. They will encourage and support you putting yourself first. Seeing the truth about the people we are connected to is hard sometimes, but self love means respecting yourself enough to walk away from those who cannot love you in the way you deserve, which is unconditionally. And someone requiring you to abandon yourself to please/make them happy is a condition.

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The easiest way to tell if you are in a relationship with a narcissist, is to set boundaries and take space. A narcissist will see these acts of self care, that have nothing to do with them, as a personal attack on them. They will try to gaslight you into thinking that you are hurting them and doing something wrong by putting yourself first. They will try to make you feel guilty by playing the victim and telling you how hard things are for them. They may feign care for you by saying they are "worried about you"(major red flag). They may even threaten the relationship. They will do whatever they can to make you question your choices and feel bad for them, so that you abandon yourself to please them. Their detachment from the emotional part of themselves means that they have to feed off of the energy of others to get by. Ignoring your needs and giving them your power by putting them first, above everything, is exactly what they want. Their insecure ego's need to be the center of your world at all times, means that they will do whatever it takes to break you down, so that you are controllable and able to be taken advantage of. If someone gets offended/mad at you when you set boundaries/take space, they do not care about or want whats best for you. They can sweet talk and say they care about you as much as they want, but at the end of the day, if they don't support you prioritizing your well being...then they don't actually love you. Someone who is able to love unconditionally will recognize that self care should be everyone's priority, and that boundaries and space are essential parts of a healthy relationship. They will not try to make you feel bad for taking care of yourself. They will encourage and support you putting yourself first. Seeing the truth about the people we are connected to is hard sometimes, but self love means respecting yourself enough to walk away from those who cannot love you in the way you deserve, which is unconditionally. And someone requiring you to abandon yourself to please/make them happy is a condition.