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Published: 2014-02-03 15:40:59 +0000 UTC; Views: 9095; Favourites: 254; Downloads: 15
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Too bad "I don't know how socially withdrawn I'll feel at that moment, so don't count me in." isn't an acceptable reply.
I keep telling myself shut the hell up, get out and socialize (social connection is vital in the business world). So I'd reluctantly accept social event invites from acquaintances and dread. Each. And. Every. Moment. Before, during and after the event. I just need to recharge by being by myself after the social event.
If you talk to me, I doubt you'd say I'm socially awkward nor shy. I just dread social events and prefer solitude. Alone and lonely are two different words. You can be "alone" without feeling "lonely".
I'm also extremely selective with the social company I hang out with because I get annoyed easily. Most people get on my nerves within 5 minutes. Either talk too much, gossip too much, lack of common interest, different mentality etc. I just have nothing to say to some people. They don't make me nervous or anything. I stare people straight in the eyes and smile during conversations or speech etc. I just don't wanna talk to them.
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Not really, I don't remember what was said before XD
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ommmmm---- a busy hikikomori
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lmfao acute social withdrawal. lolz
Sounds like some kinda deadly disease
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rather it is something like psychological sterilization
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I find it troublesome being with people though they love my company & I've no trouble communicating.
But I prefer staying alone in my room using laptop.
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I agree lol. Laptop is the best company along with solitude.
I'm socially adept when I want to be…..it just takes too much work because it doesn't come naturally for me.
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Well it comes naturally for me but still I find it troublesome >_>
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*rubs head on you*
give me some of that.
Yeah it feels like people suck energy outta you at the end of the dayl
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Yeah that & actually I just don't want to because I don't want to get attached I've bad memories about these kind of things so I like being alone.
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*cough* I've been meaning to ask for a while, but... Snail, you mean asocial here, don't you? 
Seriously.
I'm pretty impressed you do bother going. I stopped years ago, after discovering that when I add everything up, the "benefits" of these social events don't even cover up the costs of having to go through them and recharging each time I have to participate in them 
If you don't mind me going at the weird angles again, though (and I hope you don't)... What makes you think that it's your fault that you don't walk on two legs, Snail? Maybe it's everyone else's fault for trying to tell you that "But, you just have to walk!", even though they can see with their own eyes that you don't have legs in the first place?
I mean it. Does it make sense to fix something that's not broken in the first place? And is it broken just because everyone else does it another way, and can't believe that someone else could possibly have other needs? How come you have to prioritise their needs, and not the other way round?
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(Yeah I know, the actual definition of antisocial from random psychology classes. It seems everyone knows the introversion by the wrong term of "antisocial" so I used it anyways ^^')
Hahah, I should be more firm and respond like you do so people don't press.
Wow, thanks. Eh Idk, ^^' it's true. I don't have to force myself to do things I don't wanna…but random social events get connection = future jobs/clients ect. -_-' And well, the events people invite me to involve being on stage & such…Which will cause more people to know my name…which is good for my art when they stalk me and find out I draw. lolz
^^' I have to meet a person in an hour to paint lotus flowers on her wall…god, I'm dreading it.
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Well... Frankly, Snail? It kinda sounds like you're trying to say, "I know I don't have to if I don't want to, but in truth, I have to whether I want to or not" 
Actually... Do they? I never formed a single valuable working connection via social gatherings yet. Unless you mean professional social gatherings, of course (ugh, I hate those with passion 
Still... I can't shake off the feeling that the social gatherings are said to generate useful contacts. Or rather, there are some people who are able to find them on the social gatherings, so everyone believes that they'll do the same just by imitating them 
Plus, there is the problem of the false impressions. I'm not sure if I'd really want people to think that I'm a social, outgoing person when in truth I need a lot of quality time alone. Wouldn't that end up with them pressurising me into adapting their lifestyle even more? Even though it's just plain unhealthy in my case? >___>'
Finally... Are there really no other alternatives for the people who don't like to go out? Or maybe it's just another of the cases where we just keep hearing "There are two ways to do it: Our way, and the wrong way."?
Ouchies. I keep my fingers crossed
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I am totally with you on this. I CAN go, and sometimes I really do wanna go. But then I'll get nervous, or I just won't want to get out of bed.
The worst is when I'm asked, and I say yes because I was caught off guard and was pressured for a quick answer, only to realize two minutes later than I didn't really want to go at all. This usually happens with my sister, so I can't take it back (she kinda scares me). So then I have to go along with it, trying to hide the sour attitude I have.
The only reason I even feel pressured to say yes right away is because my sis can be really long winded about going somewhere, and all I want is for her to STFU! So I'm all like, "Sure whatever! I'll go, fine!" just so I can have some peace and quiet to think it over. I know I should just say "Let me think about it," instead, but even declining after that is awkward. I dunno why...
Gah! I'm such a doofus!
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Yeah, it's that battle, you do kinda wanna go, but not really…or sometimes you HAVE to go but you'd rather be home. ^^'
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA aww, yep, that tough situation when you already said yes and can't back out sucks.
HAHAHA it's not easy to turn people down. I feel bad for constantly turning them down so I'd just say yes.
But I know what you mean about nagging people and just agreeing with them so they shut up. HAHa
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I completely get it. I prefer to be spontaneous and suddenly do something right then and there. Planning is great and all at times but sometimes I don't want to leave my house. Other times I can't wait to get out!
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EXACTLY!
XD I like acting upon impulses at the moment or plan sometimes…then change plans last minutes.
Which is a terrible thing to do…lol
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I know what you mean. Its just planing is great and fun. But it doesn't help when the day comes and your not in the mood.
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I sort of know the feeling, knowing you have to go somewhere, and you just can't get the feeling to draw or do anything... -w-;
But reading it book until then is find though -w-
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XD at least you read books, being productive
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Hey, what even passes the time quicker -w-
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*about to say something inappropriate but stop myself*
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hahah I like to live another crappy day
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Also note, for if this nightmare does fall upon you, just remember lord slug... regardless from turning into a he or a she, you will forever be seen as only one gender... UuU
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OH HELL NO.
I'd slaughter before that happens.
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We all feel fear my little slug, even these two know feel, some more then others mind you www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_TCWM…
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Ya, otherwise, you'll be in a nightmare that you'll soon never forget... and already one person want through it... sketched-up.deviantart.com/art…
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HAHAHAHAHAH XD *nosebleed*
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I'm so glad I'm not alone in how I deal with social events and gatherings. It takes me a lot of effort just to get dressed and go to work most days! Let alone when my bf wants to go out to dinner afterwards, or some friends wanna hit the mall. OTL And, true, when I wanna draw, I'd rather just drop everything and do that. I feel your pain. QnQ
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>_< Right? So much effort in getting dressed…
hahahah, we need an emergency light/siren that goes off when we wanna draw so people know to back the hell away.
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I like that idea. Like an "Artist's Alarm" or something... I'd buy it. Pfft~
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Pretty much how I feel >~> the outside world is exhausting, lol
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I get that every time I agree to go somewhere with somebody xD Especially dates -.-" I just want to internet.
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I know what you mean with the dates. Oh lawd, pure dread.
XD my ideal date is, me and my laptop at a local bakery. Yeah~
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Indeed. Especially when the person's boring. It feels like, 'Can't I friendzone you already? Leave me to my anime~'
Internet and baked goods... These electronics know what they're doing xD
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Same here
so your not alone
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Lol someday (most days) I really just want to be alone
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My too
I hate to be in a big room with a lot of people when I wanna draw
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People need to evacuate the eff out when your drawing mode is on.
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I always draw in class
But of course the teachers won't allow it
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