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No doubt this will be my most controversial stamp, but you know what? I don’t care. This is something that’s been eating at me for quite some time, and I need to get this off of my chest. So, please bear with me as I explain why I made it.
First off, let me clarify some things in case anyone gets the wrong idea
#1: I am not doing this for attention.
I couldn’t care less if people don’t comment on it. I’m doing this merely to vent because I am at the end of my rope. I cannot take this crap any longer.
#2: This is not aimed at people who have busy lives and cannot come on here very often.
I am fully aware of people having to take care of life at home and even work. That’s perfectly understandable. I would never dare demand someone actually put something important on hold just to come on for my sake.
However, if they can come on for 1-3 hours, and they spend that entire session talking their OTHER close friends and shun me or merely give me the last scraps of their time, as if that’s all I’m good for, that is where I draw the line. I believe in giving nearly equal time to all of those who you call a good/close friend because… nobody likes to feel unwanted or underappreciated.
#3: I am not demanding to be the center of attention or even their favorite of those they enjoy talking to.
If they have friends they enjoy talking to more than me, I’m perfectly cool with that, but is it so much to ask I get a fair portion of that time? I for one don’t think so.
You know, this doesn't bother that much when it’s with casual friends because you know… someone you chat with off and on isn't considered close to you. When it happens with a good friend, I feel a bit irritated then because this shouldn't happen even with someone you consider a good friend.But when it happens with a close friend, with someone who says I’m important to them and they wouldn’t want to lose me, I’m heavily offended. No scratch that, I’m deeply wounded emotionally. How could any of you dare say you value me or anyone else as a friend and then intentionally ignore them? You’re basically implying they’re expendable to you because if someone is important to you, YOU TALK TO THEM… DAILY WHEN POSSIBLE!
For those who haven’t done this to me or anyone else for that matter, and you know if you haven’t, then congrats. You’re a genuine friend to people in my book. You should be commended. However, if you have, and you know if you have, then you ought to be ashamed of yourself. You have no excuse for this. And don’t any of you dare give that BS about you don’t have time to talk to every important friend you have. That is complete crap. If you have time to do 30 minutes or even 3 hours of RP’s, chats or whatever with someone, then you can spend a part of that time making all of your friends you value feel you care about them. You make time for who you value most.
I only have one thing to say to those so called close friends who have jerked me around so callously: Get out of my life. No, I’m serious, get the heck out of my life and don’t ever show your sorry self to me again! To think I bent over backwards, made you feel important, used MY points to get you some nice gift art and even stayed up many night writing messages to you because I didn’t want you to feel ignored, and THIS is the thanks I get? You make me sick! Well, fine! If that’s how you want to play, I’ll gladly treat you the same way you treated me. Let’s see how YOU like being treated as expendable and non-existent!
I really ought to call you all out personally on this here, but that would not only be against DA rules, but make me look just as bad as well. So, I won't. And like I said, I’m merely doing this to vent my frustration.
In conclusion, if what I have written has offended you, I’m sorry, but I had to do this. I’m sick and tired of getting steamed up about this over and over and over. And for those who will scold me saying that I’m caring way too much about this place and should get a life… you’re probably right. I probably do care too much, but that’s only because that’s how much I value the close friends I made on here, and to have several of them just treat me with such disdain… it hurts me deeply.
I never thought they would do this to me. I thought they were too genuine and sincere to ever pull such a low stunt, but I guess I was wrong about them.
Anyhow, if you want to leave a personal comment about this, especially if this kind of thing has happened to you too, then feel free to, but don’t even think about flaming me for this. I will not only hide it, I will block you. I’m in no mood for harsh rebukes.
I’m ok with constructive criticism, as long as it’s done politely. I’m all for helpful advice about this because I know what I’m doing isn’t exactly healthy.
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to ??? [2014-12-08 05:51:48 +0000 UTC]
Oh, nothing too much... just the same old thing for the most part.
How about you, Savannah? Anything new with you?
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-12-09 23:00:51 +0000 UTC]
Oh i see i'm sorry
im better i really am, and i gots internet back, btw i finished your chara i just have to scan her <3
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2014-12-10 03:26:47 +0000 UTC]
It's ok. That's life for ya...
Oh? What did you have in mind then for fun?
^^ Awesome. I'm glad to hear that, Savannah? Oh really? Sweet! I can't wait to see it.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-12-11 05:51:04 +0000 UTC]
Yea it is, it's knocked me through a whirl i hardly know what to say now, it stinks.
I'm not sure tbh D: epic failure..
I can't wait to show it to you, i hope you approve of it~
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2014-12-11 07:08:02 +0000 UTC]
Aww... well, just say what's on your mind and heart, Savannah. That's all I could ever from my friends anyway.
Well, how about a join.me session sometime, where we chat while you draw? Or do you have a XBOX 360? Cause I have XBOX Live.
^^ Well, you can always show me the sketch if you want me to give you some feedback about it, my friend.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-12-11 18:52:04 +0000 UTC]
Well I still want to stay positive and pump out possitivity to friends and not constant negativity it's not healthy for either party ya know~?
My brother has xbox live, and i have no digital drawing program, as soon as i get one and a tablet i will totally schedule a join me session with you and sparks~ I'd love that.
Imma try to get it posted today if i can get the stupid scanner to scan D:
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2014-12-12 02:14:47 +0000 UTC]
I know... but it's not healthy to constantly hold in your feelings either. If you need to vent, then you can with me. I'll gladly listen and sympathize with you, Savannah.
Ah, cool. What games does he have?
Aww... well, I wish you luck on that. I hope you can get that scanner to work.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-12-12 02:46:56 +0000 UTC]
I know that, but I don't wanna be that one friend that's always down in the dumps, and I know dear I trust you of course~
Lets seeeee he has the halos cods minecraft and several others im not aware of im sure xD How about you
(Oh and we're getting him plants vs zombies for christmas)
Me too -_- the stupid thing....
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2014-12-12 07:08:15 +0000 UTC]
Well, I don't want you down in the dumps either, Savannah. I just want to get to know you better is all. I like to know how my friends are feeling and thinking about when I chat with them.
Ah, cool. Well, I have Orange Box, Metal Slug 3 and XX, as well as Wheel of Fortune and Forza 3, so if your bro has any of those games, let me know his screen name. Maybe I'll add him.
So, any chance of it working today?
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-12-13 05:29:33 +0000 UTC]
I know im sorry D: and awee x3 haha well im tryna be in a better mood i really am
Ill ask him after i get off pc if he has them, and see if hes up for some video games c:
Yes~ it worked c:
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2014-12-13 08:35:33 +0000 UTC]
I understand. Well, if it's any consolation, I'm in a bad mood now too. I'm dealing with another fickle friend that I'm just about ready to cut off. I've had enough... Ok then. Let me know his game lineup, Savannah.
^^ Yay.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-12-14 00:17:11 +0000 UTC]
D: noooooo not another,I'm so sorry D:...... i wish i could help...
He doesnt have those games im afraid vwv....
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2014-12-14 02:23:55 +0000 UTC]
It's ok. It's just part of life, Savannah. People are just fickle unfortunately.
Aww... bummer. Oh well, thanks anyway.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-12-14 05:58:49 +0000 UTC]
...Im so sorry though....I wish I could make it better...
:c sorry
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2014-12-14 06:46:21 +0000 UTC]
It's ok, Savannah. I'll be fine. I have you for a friend and that definitely makes me feel better.
No, no, don't worry about it. Maybe he'll get one of those games one day I mentioned before.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-12-14 07:40:54 +0000 UTC]
Okay... If you say so bud.. D: Awee and I promise I'll never leave your side, or if we have an issue come up I will do my best to work it out with you~ Friendship is valuable to me.
Yes he possibly will, if he does i will be sure to let you know c:
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2014-12-14 12:04:34 +0000 UTC]
Thanks, Savannah. You're a real sweetie. Same here. Friendship is very valuable to me too. I care too much about my friends if anything. Sounds good, my friend.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-12-15 03:33:32 +0000 UTC]
You're welcome you are too i swear there's no such thing as caring too much if they're a true friend dear~
so is everything calmed down a bit or is it still bad D:
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2014-12-15 06:45:15 +0000 UTC]
Well, I suppose not, but I'm not kidding when I say I care almost too much because it really hurts when I think one doesn't like me as much as they used to. I know not everyone can talk to me whenever I want them to, but I do want some of their time when they can come on because they're a cherished friend to me.
For now, yes... though whether or not it'll happen again, I don't know. Meh, maybe I ought to just not care about em as much. I mean, I don't want to give a part of my heart to someone who doesn't want to at least return some love to me as their friend like you do, Savannah.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-12-17 04:34:09 +0000 UTC]
I know you might feel you care too much, but I've felt those same feelings and frankly they're normal friendship desires, I fail to see how that's caring too much, and sometimes we get insecure and worry that they might not like us if they dont respond quickly, but usually they do they're just busy. But like I do understand cause i've had many "friends" flat up ignore me and it hurts like heck, so I get where you're coming from man, and I don't think it's overcaring I just think you've been hurt alot.
Well if you don't take a risk sometimes you might miss out on some loving and amazing people ya know? But I understand what you're saying, maybe you just need a break and time to relax with the friends who talk to you everyday and care, I wish I could show more love and care but lately i'm out of it... I feel terrible about it.. but thank you for the compliment that means a whole lot to me you know <3 and I know you'd never lie to me so I'll take your word for it dear~
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2014-12-17 10:57:41 +0000 UTC]
Aww... well, I promise you, Savannah, I'll never ignore you. When you want to talk, I'll respond. That's who I am. I never leave a friend hanging. Only if they have really hurt me I might take my sweet time answering, but other than that... I'm very prompt.
I know. I mean, I took a chance on you and it paid off, so I guess you got a point. Sometimes you gotta take a chance on people. But yea... I'm not going to be a doormat either. I don't demand to be treated like royalty, but I do want to feel like they do care about my feelings at last.
No, no, it's ok. I know you're not feeling well now, so don't worry about it. As long as I know you care about me as your friend, I'm content.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-12-19 03:41:06 +0000 UTC]
Yay c: i will never ignore you either, and I hope i never hurt you ;w;... that worries me i dun wanna upset you or anything ever.
Aweeee ;w; that's so sweet, im really glad you feel that way, and yes don't let yourself be that its bad for one's health xP you just want respect and a two way relationship not a game so that's not royalty treatment that's a COMMON SENSE RELATIONSHIP (something most people do not seem to get now days but you know that xP... And awee.. :c yes..
;w; alright i hope so <3~
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2014-12-19 11:34:04 +0000 UTC]
No worries, my friend. You haven't hurt me. I mean, you'd have to intentionally exclude me from all of your friends you talk to during the day for that to even happen.
Yes, exactly. That's all I really want: Just to have friends who treat me like I matter to them.
I think they don't want to get it. If anything, they rather use people an end to their means. Sickos...
You don't have to worry about me being mad at you, Savannah. I'd talk to you about it if there was some misunderstanding between us, and I assure there isn't one now.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-12-21 06:36:24 +0000 UTC]
Good I'm glad, and wow i'd never do that xD if i dont reply to here its because im usually exhausted/sad/sick D::: id neva do that to you
WELL YOU MATTER TO ME >:C so yea x3
.....Yea I guess you're right, it's not kind, nor fair.. And Karma i hope is a real thing. lol.
Okay that's good i don't like it when people get upset at me or other things and won't tell me why D: and especially if it is involving me cause yea... xD
By the way you are so sweet for commissioning that person to draw my character that was so nice of you thank you so much idk what to say
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2014-12-21 11:28:24 +0000 UTC]
I know you would never do that to me, Savannah. I trust you that much.
Believe me, I know I do to you. I was just agreeing with you what you were saying about what a true friendship is: Two people caring about each other the same. And you matter to me as well. You really do alot. ^^
Well, I don't believe in karma, but I do believe in the old saying, "You reap what you sow." So, if they reap being horrible people, they'll get treated just as bad by some other horrible people in return.
I understand. Well, I assure you if there ever is an issue between us, I won't hesitate to tell you because I don't want us to have any ill feelings towards each other, NOT EVER.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-12-22 09:38:51 +0000 UTC]
Awee alright im glad you do i really am~
Ogh alright i see c: haha sorry~ and aweeee ;w; thank you so very much <3
Yea you're right that's kinda what i meant i think xD i thought they were the same meaning haha shows how much i don't know xD
well to be honest sometimes even when im hurt its hard to wish horrible things on people.. Dx idk im strange.
That makes me happy, im on the same boat with you, i wont just stop talking ill tell you right away~ And me neither that'd be very depressing.. :C
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2014-12-22 12:03:19 +0000 UTC]
I'm glad you trust me as much as well, Savannah. It means alot to me.
It's alright. I understand your frustration. I mean, you were just trying to show me you really do care and I appreciate that. So no worries. ^^
Technically, they are the same, but I just rather use biblical principals than Hindu ones concerning life, being a Christian and all.
Indeed. I don't want to lose you as a friend. You mean that much to me.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-12-23 01:50:56 +0000 UTC]
Hehe c:
Aweee alright if you say so c: ~ heheh
interesting haha xD
aweee im glad and you mean that much to me also c:
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2014-12-23 08:07:33 +0000 UTC]
^^
I'll never doubt your sincere friendship with me, Savannah.
Well, as Christians, we are supposed to live by biblical principles. I wish I would have gotten to know you sooner if anything, my friend.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-12-24 00:16:12 +0000 UTC]
Awee im glad <3
Well yes of course~
Awee well better late than never
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2014-12-24 13:01:39 +0000 UTC]
I only doubt a friendship when they show they don't care about me with their actions.
^^ True... well, I'm really glad I stumbled on your page when I did. I just had a feeling you were really nice, and I was right about you.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-12-28 10:57:12 +0000 UTC]
Thats a good way to judge things.. life is si hard lol..
And awee I am so super glad you contacted me you,ve been a real joy in my life <3
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2014-12-28 12:09:26 +0000 UTC]
Tell me about it... why must people be so fickle when it comes to friendship?
^^ Daww... thanks, Savannah. You're a real joy in my life too.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-12-29 07:26:28 +0000 UTC]
Idk xD i really dont`
And awee yay ;w;
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2014-12-29 11:16:53 +0000 UTC]
Well, at least I know you won't ever be fickle with me, my friend.
^^ Yay yay.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-12-30 09:53:11 +0000 UTC]
I never shall, I speak my mind I respect people and i try to be there whenever someone needs me and that means you~ You're so nice and charming really you are~
hehe x3
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2014-12-30 13:39:28 +0000 UTC]
Daww.... thanks. I'm not that charming though, but I appreciate you thinking so, my friend. ^^
I love it when you type hehe
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-01-01 03:44:04 +0000 UTC]
Yes you areeeeeee don't deny the truth x3
Aweee
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-01-01 10:22:08 +0000 UTC]
Well, I appreciate you saying that, my friend. Some sadly don't feel that way about me. They instead think I'm too demanding and high maintenance.
^^ You're cuter when you do that, Savannah.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-01-02 08:55:17 +0000 UTC]
Well they can take their opinions and shove it up- they can just throw it away D;
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-01-02 11:33:31 +0000 UTC]
Yea, I suppose that's how I should respond to it. It just really hurt me because they really made me believe they cared about me when they never did. They only did it to make one of their friends happy.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-01-03 12:42:13 +0000 UTC]
... You shouldn't be friends with someone just so a current friend will get a thrill out of it.. That's as if a persons a game, its rather wrong in my opinion..
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-01-03 23:23:59 +0000 UTC]
Oh, I agree. I'd never be friends with someone just for the sake of another friend. I'd want to establish my own friendship with them because that is how relationships work.
That's how Hina and I got to become friends. She came to me and we bonded, not because she is your best friend. Heck, I didn't even know she was your best friend until after getting to know her.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-01-04 17:27:06 +0000 UTC]
Yea exactly just being friends with someone because of a current friend is certainly wrong i think mostly.
Well im glad to hear you have another good friend, there's so many good people around you just have to focus on them and look for them.. Otherwise the rude and uncaring people really tend to wear one down.. :c
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-01-04 23:25:24 +0000 UTC]
It's not only wrong. It's deceptive. It makes the person think they have a new friend when they really don't.
Yea... though I haven't heard from her in over a week. I miss talking to her.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-01-06 03:33:01 +0000 UTC]
Its called lying in its own way :I its just ugh im tired of peeps like that i really am
She comes on and off she has a pretty busy life she doesnt like not respond on purpose its just her style and life~
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-01-07 02:42:31 +0000 UTC]
Me too. I almost wish treating others like crap on here was a bannable offense. I mean, this place is supposed to be one where others can show off their work and maybe make friends by sharing a common bond.
I see... well, I don't have any issues with her being real busy and all. I only wish she would give us a heads up what to expect because it's so easy to perceive it as something else. I'm sadly someone who easily misreads something and it leads to a misunderstanding.
Just ask my friend Sparks about that.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-01-08 21:22:51 +0000 UTC]
Yea i know the feeling. Lol but oh well. There still are people liek that that are kind.
Well she is different but i really like her she responds here and there much like your bunny friend~ But only like different a bit i don't know, but your relationship with her will probably be different than mine with her because we're different people.
Well i could but i don't like to pry if i wanna know something about someone i ask them directly xD
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-01-09 03:19:20 +0000 UTC]
Indeed...
Well, believe it or not, I've been actually talking to Sweetloverabbit alot more as of late. She's been Skyping with me and Sparks as of late and I've really grown closer to her as a friend. Plus, she does have an excuse for why her DA messages don't come too often. English is not her first language and she has alot going on in school.
Anyway, I don't mean to sound like I don't believe what you say about Hina. I mean, you're her best friend and you know her better than I do. I just really miss talking to her is all. I mean, for those first couple of days we talked, I felt a strong connection with her as a friend. Maybe I expected too much from her. I don't know...
Well, you don't have to ask her about it. I was just saying if you needed any confirmation about me having misunderstandings towards friends, Sparks would gladly vouch for that. I sadly have had a few with her. Not proud of that to say the least.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-01-09 22:52:19 +0000 UTC]
Well that's good to hear. I'm glad you get to talk to her some~
idk man that's between you and her i really don't mind how you two relate i mean its none of my business.
I see lol im sorry idk whats wrong with me
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