Starcraftor In reply to Nightstar-27 [2010-06-18 14:47:03 +0000 UTC]

I know that, and I guess you already knew that before reading this...the point is to make other people think about it. Too many people don't realize that they're wearing a mask when they claim that they're being true to themselves.

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Nightstar-27 In reply to Starcraftor [2010-06-18 14:51:52 +0000 UTC]

Hmm true but then people in general aren't static. We always change and therefore it might appear they are putting on a mask when in fact they have just changed.

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Starcraftor In reply to Nightstar-27 [2010-06-18 23:19:29 +0000 UTC]

I understand that too, and that also isn't what I'm talking about. I see people act one way in private, then later that day behave differently in front of others, then act the first way again more privately. It ranges from bothering me to pissing me off depending upon all of the specifics of it.

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Nightstar-27 In reply to Starcraftor [2010-06-19 11:47:17 +0000 UTC]

Hmm I think most people do that. Other people influence us to behave differently, I wouldn't let it piss you off that much if I were you.

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Starcraftor In reply to Nightstar-27 [2010-06-19 21:10:45 +0000 UTC]

I said it pisses me off in certain situations. Mostly it just bothers me--but this is exactly what I'm talking about with masks. You wear a mask to impress a potential boyfriend/girlfriend or a manager/boss/etc. (At least, that's the best example I can come up with.) It's just annoying that people feel like they have to and that it's normal--I try to be mostly the same around everyone, no need for a facade to hide who/what I really am.

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Nightstar-27 In reply to Starcraftor [2010-06-19 21:15:39 +0000 UTC]

I get your point and it's annoying indeed sometimes but I do put on façades I'm afraid. I'm completely different with friends than my family. When I'm around people I'm not 'secure' with I don't show off my whole personality only aspects of it. If you understand what I mean

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Starcraftor In reply to Nightstar-27 [2010-06-20 00:45:30 +0000 UTC]

I do understand. And I didn't say that I don't wear these masks, I just said that I try to avoid it; sometimes I'm just too distracted by something else to put in the effort take off the mask that automatically flies on.

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Nightstar-27 In reply to Starcraftor [2010-06-20 10:25:02 +0000 UTC]

Yeah, I think it might be a part of human nature to hide behind masks cause everyone seems to do it and in some situations it makes sense to do it

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Starcraftor In reply to Nightstar-27 [2010-06-20 12:07:14 +0000 UTC]

See, that's part of what bothers me about it; I don't think it's human nature, I think it's societal. Therefore, it's avoidable and possibly definably unhealthy. I'm not sure, though.

And yes, in some situations it does make sense, and I always find it distasteful when I catch myself.

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Nightstar-27 In reply to Starcraftor [2010-06-20 21:56:40 +0000 UTC]

I believe it is human nature cause for example my dog behaves differently with me than if I leave her with a stranger to look after and even little children behave differently with different people but I can understand why you find it annoying though.

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