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AsiianShark [2017-08-09 22:37:27 +0000 UTC]

star, you may think that no matter how much you try, you can't be the person that you want to be,  but i'm going to be 100000% honest here; literally EVERY single amount of effort that you put into your life, helps to make you an even greater person than you already are (which is hard to imagine since you're already so amazing :00)

i myself am not exactly the greatest motivational speaker but i really want you to know just how much you've changed my life for the better, you already have amazing qualities as a person and you totally OWN it. and i can completely understand wanting to gain other qualities as well, and that just goes to show how much you want to be a good person, so that you can be a great person to other people (if that makes sense hahah :b) so in my opinion, you've already got the selflessness part down ^^

and dude, just remember that theres so many people both in your own life as well as online who seriously, and i mean SERIOUSLY love and care about you, and if you ever need to talk then go ahead man, we've all got ears (or eyes i guess lol but yeah you know what i mean <3)

hearts all around!! you're an amazing person, and i'm so proud of you for working hard towards all your goals

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Breeze-Cat [2017-08-09 05:14:47 +0000 UTC]

Alright so 
I love you friend and it's never, ever a bad thing to strive to totally be those three things and more, but I just have a few things to say.

god knows that even people who are selfless, seemingly always motivated and perfectly confident sometimes get unmotivated too. sometimes they can act like selfish jerks. anyone can lose their confidence after or during an event.
it matters not that some people just seem to naturally possess these traits - because no one truly does. what matters is how long they can truly retain and build these characteristics over a period of time; until it appears like they naturally possess them.

confidence is usually never just there; it's it's developed. it's earned. And anyone who is just 100% confident of everything they do is, most likely, an idiot. I'm not saying that you shouldn't be confident in your abilities, but a healthy dose of caution is never totally bad. always believe in yourself, but never be too sure of your actions all of the time. that can only lead to bad decisions.
the smartest people are often some of the deepest thinkers.

people who seem the most motivated have probably spent the most time recharging themselves. everyone does need to take a break from something after a while, whether it be two months or two years. everyone's mental endurance is different; I bet that the greatest creators sometimes make the greatest things within the shortest spurts of inspiration. no one is constantly motivated every single day. we naturally all need rest, no matter what anyone says.

selflessness is truly a fickle thing within a lot of people, but I can say with 100% certainty that you are not a selfish person, if that's what you're worried about. I could go on and on about what a good person you really are at heart, but that'd make this already long comment extremely longer. :')
secondly, no one is constantly and always selfless. should you try to be? maybe, but it's truly impossible. all of us are, to some tiny degree, selfish in our own small ways. and you know what? that's not truly all that bad. selfishness is a form of self-preservation in many different ways.
always, always try to be giving of yourself, but never let yourself be so unselfish to the point where people take advantage of you.

Now anyone who tries to say that they are always confident, motivated and selfless all the time is most definitely a liar. anyone who guilts you into thinking that it's wrong if you aren't constantly confident, motivated and selfish all the time is acting manipulative and demanding the impossible.
and anyone who presents themselves as always confident, motivated and selfless has probably spent the most time earning it, trying for it and struggling for it.

It's impossible to always be these things. that's like trying to chase perfection; a race that any human will never, ever win, now matter how hard they try. it's just simply impossible. we're human, we're imperfect with imperfect personalities and imperfect desires. to be these things to their fullest and to always be them is just not possible.

but do you know what?

the fact that you are actively trying to be these things tells me that you are a good person. to see you striving so hard and working so persistently at it is a trait in of itself that a lot of people do not have. you have the determination, you have the will to try and better yourself and that alone will get you closer than a lot of people.
it's okay to be frustrated and upset with yourself for not being able to be these things to their fullest, but please realize that no one is ever truly the full definition of these characteristics; and while some may have them, also realize that they don't always do.

the beauty of these personality traits is not that some people just seem to fully have them.
the beauty of them comes from what people do when they get their burst of confidence, their spurt of motivation and their feelings of kind selflessness and how long they can make it last.
these traits are, in the end, fleeting in their strength; but so looked up to because of the actions of the people who get that one true spark of brief confidence, motivation and selflessness.
if a person could possess these traits in their fullest then they would no longer be so remarkable in brilliance.

realize that no human is perfect, and no one will truly possess these characteristics.
but never stop trying to, because in time, after trying for it and receiving a flash of confidence, motivation and unselfishness, you'll get your spark of brilliance, too.

(I'm so sorry for my novel of a comment, but I just want you to know.
you're a good person, star. I know nothing feels worse than those times when you don't feel any motivation or confidence. but always know that it'll eventually come back, no matter how long the wait is. it will. everyone, eventually, gets it back. <'3
and always try to remember,
it matters not that some people just seem to naturally possess these traits - because no one truly does. what matters is how long they can truly retain and build these characteristics over a period of time; until it appears like they naturally possess them.)

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