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TheAdorkableNerd — Sapiosexuality is BS! ! !
Published: 2015-04-02 16:08:25 +0000 UTC; Views: 1595; Favourites: 16; Downloads: 1
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As much as I loathe the SJW community I think we can both agree on one issue-the illegitimacy and blatant bullshit of sapioseuality
I looked up the term on dA only to find that no one made a stamp against it which was really surprising
Sapiosexuality is a term used by narcissistic people who indulge in how smart they think they are
It essentially means you are sexually attracted to people who are intelligent
lmao how egotistical is that I mean holy shit I thought bun pronouns were bad
Now how would I know it's bullshit you might ask
I identified as one once
Then I grew up and realized I was being an egotistical fuck
It reminds me of that one fad where everyone was like "I LOVE TEA AND A GOOD BOOK!!!"
Like good for fucking you guess who gives a shit
Now please take you and your disgustingly big ego out of here before I deflate it
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For me personally, it's a helpful tool for weeding out guys that are into bimbofication. It's...pretty much the only popular term (other than de-bimbofication...) for what I'm looking for. No, I'm not looking for someone who thinks they're hot shit because they can quote Nietzsche, I'm looking for someone who actually likes and is attracted to intelligent women. Someone who won't demean me as a way of getting off.
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Reminds me of how people would label themselves demisexual to feel special. While that preference does exist, it didn’t need a term for it.
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That is basic instinctual code every person alive has.
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literally everyone wants a bf/gf whos not a dumbass do you really need a label for yourself jfc its like demisexuality all over again
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If you think about it, almost everyone is intelligent in one way or another, so how can this exist anyway? That would mean I'm "sapiosexual" because my boyfriend is like a walking science book, and I'm the psych major/artistic dumbass (mind the bad joke here 
Basically, I agree. It's stupid and makes no sense.
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People think personal preferences and personality traits need to have a sexuality label. Just like how they think feelings you have towards yourself need to have some damn gender label on it.
Like, with what feelings or views I have on myself right now, I can easily label myself as genderfluid, nonbinary, agender, demisexual, sapiosexual, etc..but I don't. I don't even use the "cis" label, because to me it sounds stupid, it was obviously made to be a slur against those who are comfortable and happy with who they are, and make them feel like shit for being happy with who they are. Everyone is pretty much categorizing everyone to see who has the most oppression or shittier lifestyle.
It's pretty much pointless, confusing for the younger generation, and reminds me of highschool labels. "This table you have your transgenders, this table you have your pansexuals, and this table you have your cis people which btw, don't hang out with them! They have cooties and are the most awful people ever lmao. Bunch of losers."
I remember the days where everyone didn't give a crap who's sexuality is what, and what gender they were. Then 2014 happened and suddenly the flood of teenagers who discovered the world of Dumblr happened. Actually, remember when bisexual became a thing, then everyone claimed they were bisexual? Yeah, me too.
I support the LGBT+ community, but these SJWs are making it look like a complete joke and it's disgusting.
The human race is screwed at this point. Oh wait, I just probably triggered a bunch of otherkins just now for labeling them as human beings. Sorry about that.
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To be fair, you're right that the labels within the LGBTQ+ community tend to separate people; there's a lot of gate-keeping that occurs. Cisgendered lesbians, for example, (especially Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminists) have a tendency to say "trans women can't call themselves lesbians because they were born men" and all kinds of other judgements get thrown around, just like in any large group of people. The community is also infamously known for negatively using the term "cis", which shouldn't be the case. The LGBTQ+ community's aim is meant to be the education and well-being of all people, and the de-stimatization of any safe performance of gender or sexuality. (Note that I said safe performance of gender or sexuality--many people argue that pedophilia should be considered LGBTQ+ but it can't because children are incapable of safely performing sexual acts.)
However, to throw out labels and personality preferences isn't superfluous, it's a sort of way of weeding through the chaff to find the wheat.
It's like the tagging system in dA, which uses keywords to categorize art featured. In the same way that this graphic was tagged "DeviantArt Related / Deviant Stamps" so it could be found more easily, when you're searching for a partner or for people to relate to, having those key words is important.
As for sapiosexuality in particular (since that's the focus of the OP you commented on) I've used this keyword as a way of weeding out people who enjoy bimbofication, ageplay, basically any sexual fetish that includes stripping the mental autonomy of their partner. By knowing that a person is attracted to intelligence, the chances of them disliking me for having differing opinions from them is lowered--they respect my ability, as a critical thinker, to form my own opinions on things.
TL;DR I get that the label doesn't work for you, you don't find it necessary. But for those of us who have been the victims of emotional and mental abuse, these labels can mean the difference between continued mental trauma and healthy, happy relationships.
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Like, seriously, is the only attractive type of "intelligence" found in the aesthetically pleasing philosophy professor who recites lines of Shakespeare before sex? And uses long words just to sound like a pretentious douchebag? And eats crumpets at breakfast while reading classic literature?
Personally, I do think intelligence is attractive, but that kind of intelligence most sapios identify as being attracted to? It's not the only form of intelligence.
There could be that kid at the back of the class that people think is stupid because he can't put simple words on paper. He could actually have some very amazing thoughts, but doesn't know how to find the right words to explain his thoughts. He is intelligent.
I could come up with heaps of other examples of intelligent people that people don't usually think of as intelligent. I find all kinds of intelligence attractive, but I am not a sapiosexual or sapioromantic. It is just something I like in a person.
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You posted this so long ago yet it still rings so true, bless this comment, and thanks for leaving it mate :^)
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Labels like this make me wonder why people are so desperate to be queer?
Theres heterosexual, Bisexual, asexual and homosexual. Based on what gender you like.
For gender, there's male and female. How people act is none of my business, but there's no such thing as "trigendered" or "pangender". Hun, that's androgyny. Don't fit the exact definition of feminine or masculine? Congratulations! You're like everyone else! You're a girl who is slightly masculine. You're not a demiboy, you're a tomboy. Stop being so obsessed with labels.
I'm just sick of seeing this all. Its disturbing.
I am actually trans myself (dysphoria, getting counseling, HRT) and I'm sick of all these fake trans people.
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Holy shit. You're like, pretty much the only legit transgender person that I've seen since the transtrender/sexuality flood of 2014 that's actually against all of these made up highschool table labels that have no logic behind them besides a shit ton of highschooler kiddies claiming that majority claiming = fact, and/or they're just glorified versions of terms we already have.
I know this comment is old, but still I love you 5evers ♥
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I really don't care if somebody likes a partner with a certain type of intelligence.
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I don't either
However I do have a problem with people making an unnecessary sexuality out of it to feel special
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If someone thinks it's an actual sexuality, they're wrong.
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Holy
fucking
shit
How insecure are people that they need made up bullshit like this?
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I consider myself sapiosexual. It means being attracted to intelligence and/or the human mind. No, it is not ableist, either. The only ableistic people would be those who claim people with mental and physical disabilities are incapable of being intelligent.
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Thanks for speaking up! I consider myself sapiosexual (cis-fem, bi, poly) as well because even if I can enjoy the company of people regardless of intelligence level, I only find myself attracted to people who have the desire to understand and synthesize information. That's changed quite a bit over the years, and it's taken a while to figure it out exactly, but it's been really helpful in my search for meaningful, romantic relationships.
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Yea, no. Sexuality has to do with, y'know, sexual organs and gender, not personality traits. That's like saying I'm mysterysexual because I like mysterious people.
No, take your shit and leave.
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Asexuality deems you completely unattracted to any sexual organ. And autochorissexuality discusses how you're fine with the topic of sex as long as you aren't involved. There are innumerable amounts of sexualities, and just because you haven't explored them all doesn't mean they simply don't exist.
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Both of those still revolve around sex and sexual organs. Intelligence is a personality trait, and ergo is not a sexuality, but a personal preference within partners. Im not denying it exists, I'm saying it doesn't need to be a label. Chances are, no one cares if someone is attracted to intelligent people. Honestly.
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But than again who gives a fuck who anybody likes and why have labels at all?
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I've never heard of sapiosexuality. It screams SPECIAL SNOWFLAKE!
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It's just as bad if not worse than demisexuality
They're pretty much the same-
they both revolve around people being narcissistic over their preferences
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Demisexuality is simply something that refers to someone being romantically, sexually, and emotionally attracted to somebody - only if they have a deep emotional attachment to them. How is that narcissistic to choose who one wants to invest their time in a relationship with? That sounds incredibly ignorant of you to say. And I'm not even demisexual, I'm panromantically pansexual.
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It's narcissistic b/c it heavily implies that if you identify as hetero/homo/bi, then you only care about shallow, vapid relationships and one-night stands. It completely ignores the fact that people don't just look at someone and say 'hey maybe their dick in my ass sounds nice'. It just has that vibe of arrogance, like they're trying SO HARD not to be hetero.
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I fabricated the aforementioned months ago, and have educated myself hence. Nonetheless, my argument stands. Demisexual people do exist, you realize? It's largely based on emotional attraction, meaning that the emotional bond one forms with another has to be incredibly strong. It isn't in the same fashion as one would develop crushes because the person is nice and seems fairly attractive, or knowing someone for a half year and contemplating dating them because you two seem compatible. The attraction demisexuals face is largely based on bonds like lasting friendship.
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yo ive been educated too my dude, i mean im still curious, like they have to have a really good friendship with someone/relationship with someone before they feel sexual attraction, and they dont develop crushes? i mean im a lot more open when it comes to this stuff, but its still super confusing :^)
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I can help provide some perspective!
As a disclaimer, sexuality is definitely a spectrum! But in the same way that people round up 5 to "10" or 123 to "roughly 100", placing yourself on a particular label can help other people understand what you're looking for in interpersonal communications! (Just like wearing a wedding ring to a bar can help prevent people from coming up to you with romantic/sexual intentions.)
With that out of the way, here's my empirical data:
I've met many people of varying types of gender and orientation (bi, pan, hetero) who can be attracted to someone instantly and enter into a sexual/romantic relationship within a short amount of time. Basically, a sort of "love at first sight" type of thing. And yes, in some cases they can be into one-night stands because they've separated their sexual needs from their emotional/mental needs in a relationship.
However, when it comes to the friends I've made who identify as demisexual, they can feel emotionally connected to someone or admire them right away, but they can only form a sexual interest (a la vasocongestion or erection) if they feel they "know" the person. In some cases, this has happened to friends who have been sexually abused and need to feel safe with a person before they can be intimate. By having the label "demisexual", they know that anyone who is interested in them will enter into that relationship slowly, taking their time getting to know them before they offer to be intimate.
I'm sure there are many many reasons why people have certain orientations, but that's the empirical data I've found in my own experiences. I figured I'd offer that perspective.
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You can be any sexuality abd have an intelligent partner, why did people have to make a name for it?
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Yes; but some people require it as a basis to invest a relationship with the person. That sounds shallow, but that's how sapiosexuals are.
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I have no clue tbqh
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