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I've always had some issues with identifying as bisexual but I've always pushed it to the side. When I talked about it other people they didn't see the issues I saw. But then two days ago I found this video www.youtube.com/watch?v=T3ulwR…. I had never seen something talking about bi issues exclusively, and it made me cry because other people experienced the same issues and were still proud anyways. This video made be face the problems I've had with identifying as bi for years.

The main issue I've had with being bi were not feeling like I belong in the lgbt+ community as much as everyone else because I could "pass" for being straight. I felt like I always had to say "I'm bi but mainly like the same gender" (even though it's true) to feel "gay enough" to be included. Like I had to prove myself. I was tempted to identify as lesbian but that's not who I am. I like guys too and I can't ignore that part of me. I'm trying to embrace both sides of being bi.

Being bi also has a bad rep for being something straight people use to be part of lgbt+ or it's something gays use when they don't want to fully come out. Some people don't even think bi people exist, that it's a transition stage only or that we need to make up our mind. This also made me not want to be bi, I didn't want people to hear my identity and roll their eyes. These, along with other stereotypes, played into my feeling of not belonging.

I've realize now that I belong just as much as other lgbt+ people, because we all struggle with being different and ostracized. I was thinking about the "you can pass as straight" argument and realized how dumb it was. If someone is openly out as bi they will get just as much hate from homophobes as a gay person, even if they are dating the opposite sex. I have an irl friend that is a closeted bisexual and she said her mom would crucify her if she found out. I'm not trying to compare struggles, I'm just so used to thinking that being bi is really easy when it's just as hard as any other member of the lgbt+ community.

I'd don't want this to come off as pretentious or anything, I live in a very supportive house and community and have never struggled with being the sexuality that I am, at least not the same way as most lgbt+ people have. Because of my situation I've been ignoring the things about my identity that I didn't like. Basically I'm happy that I've been able to face the issues I've had with myself and I'm trying to embrace my identity.

At the end of the day it doesn't matter if I like girls or guys more, I'm bisexual and I belong in this community

(Also bi people that lean mostly to the opposite sex are still valid. Identify how you want, the only person it effects is you!)

Description
Warning serious stuff below
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I've always had some issues with identifying as bisexual but I've always pushed it to the side. When I talked about it other people they didn't see the issues I saw. But then two days ago I found this video www.youtube.com/watch?v=T3ulwR…. I had never seen something talking about bi issues exclusively, and it made me cry because other people experienced the same issues and were still proud anyways. This video made be face the problems I've had with identifying as bi for years.

The main issue I've had with being bi were not feeling like I belong in the lgbt+ community as much as everyone else because I could "pass" for being straight. I felt like I always had to say "I'm bi but mainly like the same gender" (even though it's true) to feel "gay enough" to be included. Like I had to prove myself. I was tempted to identify as lesbian but that's not who I am. I like guys too and I can't ignore that part of me. I'm trying to embrace both sides of being bi.

Being bi also has a bad rep for being something straight people use to be part of lgbt+ or it's something gays use when they don't want to fully come out. Some people don't even think bi people exist, that it's a transition stage only or that we need to make up our mind. This also made me not want to be bi, I didn't want people to hear my identity and roll their eyes. These, along with other stereotypes, played into my feeling of not belonging.

I've realize now that I belong just as much as other lgbt+ people, because we all struggle with being different and ostracized. I was thinking about the "you can pass as straight" argument and realized how dumb it was. If someone is openly out as bi they will get just as much hate from homophobes as a gay person, even if they are dating the opposite sex. I have an irl friend that is a closeted bisexual and she said her mom would crucify her if she found out. I'm not trying to compare struggles, I'm just so used to thinking that being bi is really easy when it's just as hard as any other member of the lgbt+ community.

I'd don't want this to come off as pretentious or anything, I live in a very supportive house and community and have never struggled with being the sexuality that I am, at least not the same way as most lgbt+ people have. Because of my situation I've been ignoring the things about my identity that I didn't like. Basically I'm happy that I've been able to face the issues I've had with myself and I'm trying to embrace my identity.

At the end of the day it doesn't matter if I like girls or guys more, I'm bisexual and I belong in this community

(Also bi people that lean mostly to the opposite sex are still valid. Identify how you want, the only person it effects is you!)