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undefinedreference In reply to retransmission [2014-06-25 19:39:57 +0000 UTC]

If plants (and jellyfish) don't have brains it's probably because they don't need them because they are brains

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undefinedreference In reply to katiousa15 [2014-06-16 21:18:48 +0000 UTC]

Well then allelopathy is just the thing you need

There's a shrub here called common dogwood (Cornus Sanguinea). If a seed drops onto fertile soil it sprouts and grows into a small shrub, which then starts to produce underground shoots in all directions, while at the same time it produces some chemical that kills off all vegetation around it, thus creating space for itself. From these shoots sprout new shrubs which repeat the process, which results in a circle of clones around the mother plant, and together they grow into a nice bush which forms an excellent place to hide in for kids (or creeps, maybe). The really odd thing though is that at some point the process stops, and the outer shrubs no longer produce shoots and poison their environment. It's as if the plant is at some point satisfied with the space it has conquered, and the boundary between the bush and its surroundings is indeed very distinct, and the occupied area is perfectly round, or blob-shaped, depending on the terrain. The same for the Japanese knotweed (Fallopia japonica), it also develops perfectly delimited patches, though as far as its territorial conquests are concerned it is a bit more aggressive.

If you really hate someone and that person is a keen gardener, you should dig up knotweed roots, chop them up into little pieces and throw them into your enemy's garden. Within a year they will have to have the top 50cm of their entire garden dug off  in order to remove the wretched weed from hell, and even then they can only pray that it won't come back.

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katiousa15 In reply to undefinedreference [2014-06-17 06:51:26 +0000 UTC]

Allelopathy???? What does it mean in a human behavior?? A payback of hate? I can 't do it. The reason is that this would hurt me more . I don't want to fill myself with poison.I don't want to be a cornus sanguinea.I let the others enjoy it. For each feeling there is always a reason hidden inside. Psychology could be helpful to realise someone the real reasons of hate.    

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undefinedreference In reply to katiousa15 [2014-06-18 11:43:26 +0000 UTC]

Allelopathy in human terms means to claim your space even if that might hurt someone else's little feelings of put a dent in their inflated egos. It also means focusing on what you need and what is important to you rather than on what a good and perfect person you are. Within reasonable boundaries of course..

We humans are an aggressive species and we hurt each other no matter what. It's a part of La Condition Humaine. There's no need to apologize for everything you do, neither to others nor to yourself, by trying to understand the deeper motives behind every single one of your actions.

I've personally seen psychology only mess people up even more than they were already. Myself included

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katiousa15 In reply to undefinedreference [2014-06-18 17:12:38 +0000 UTC]

Oh my.... How much you remind me my psychoanalyst years years ago...He always was telling me don't try to be a perfect person,don't feel guilty about anything.Your needs must be important to you..You are right i guess as he was.For many many years i was feeling so good behaving like this and it's time to do it again.I can't stop to analyse the deepest motives but it's for my  own good it doesn't have to do with guilt and apologises. It's about self-awareness and self-control(reasonable boundaries). 
See what you reminded me???? Don't see psychology as a mess. Sometimes it can be a mess but for me was something really great..
I am wondering is there any hope to change La Condition Humaine??? And your answer is....................NO.
Thank youuuuuuuuuuuuuuu!!!  

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undefinedreference In reply to katiousa15 [2014-06-19 19:19:40 +0000 UTC]

Focusing your attention on things outside yourself can be very healing as well. Like for example picking up some study or learning some skill. I would personally go insane, or at least deeply depressed, without my studies. It's about keeping my mind off of "the crap". Like you wrote a while ago, the best therapy is oblivion, or something similar. Just one advice: in your case I wouldn't advise studying psychology. But you could be right as well, it's hard for me to say from this distance. I just know that focusing too much on yourself isn't the healthiest thing to do in general. Because we're all bottomless pits in the end, aren't we?

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katiousa15 In reply to undefinedreference [2014-06-24 06:34:31 +0000 UTC]

Even i don't understand what you mean by "in your case"Thank you very much for your advises and for your interest!!!And yes we are botomless but i like to try reach the bottom...  

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undefinedreference In reply to katiousa15 [2014-06-24 09:48:12 +0000 UTC]

I meant that whenever you study psychology you will without doubt reflect it all back to yourself. In fact that's what you described, if I interpreted it correctly. What I meant was focusing the attention away from one's self. To me it proved a very "healing" thing to do. This "art" thing of mine has had a "healing" effect on me too I think, but how couldn't it have after over a decade of information technology, I mean, after that anything is probably at least less damaging.

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katiousa15 In reply to undefinedreference [2014-06-24 16:01:48 +0000 UTC]

I can't do differently but this and '"art" are the greatest healing things fo me..  

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