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anon ask:

I don't really think polyamory exists. I just think it's a lot of people playing around who are scared of commitment. I mean why are you really poly? I bet it has to do with deep down "I don't wanna be stuck with one person". It's a lack of maturity.

reply from theruleset:

I’m polya because I don’t think love is exclusionary.

I’m polya because I don’t think sex is some magic ritual that only 2 people at a time should perform, (but hey dude your magic isn’t my magic so you do you.)
I’m polya because I love having people in my life for 5 or 6 years, through distance and continents and career changes, without feeling like either of us are missing out on other experiences.
I’m polya because I love being able to hold hands through the Met with the art student who’s smile lights me up as she explains why Monet was so influential on Tuesday, and then caress the head of the hard-working social worker as she lays it in my lap and recounts her day on Thursday.
I’m polya because I have the emotional bandwidth to support more than one other person, and love to share my life and experiences with others.
I’m polya because all those experiences help me grow and shaped a deep emotional maturity that I do my best to nurture day in and day out.
I’m polya because it feels good and right to me, and to the people I love.
I see that spiteful impulse you have to pop into some person you don’t really know’s inbox and try to tell them that their lifestyle is invalid, and I wonder which one of us lack’s maturity. Anyway have a good holiday.

reply from bdsmpetplay:

Anon, go fuck yourself. Seriously. Polyamory is totally legitimate and can exist in a healthy and respectful way. Science has shown that one’s preference for poly vs mono honestly comes down to genetics, the environment you grow up in, and brain chemistry.

personal opinion:

polyamory is just another excuse for people to cheat.

anon ask:

In defense of the anon that spoke against polyamory- there are so many people that claim that they're poly yet when you ask their partners if they know about the other people you find out that they NEVER told them in the first place or that they just ignored their partners feelings about it in the first place. Unless you're a polygamist or a Mormon I'd honestly say don't do poly. Your partner will eventually start to feel like you don't actually want THEM and it'll spiral downwards from there.

reply from bdsmpetplay:

That’s a pretty bullshit excuse. Poly can totally work. Yes, there’s assholes using it as a guise to cheat, but most of the poly community is amazing when it comes to respect, communication, and honesty.

personal opinion:

thats not a excuse- poly rarely works and there. its nothing more than a excuse to cheat.

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anon ask:

I don't really think polyamory exists. I just think it's a lot of people playing around who are scared of commitment. I mean why are you really poly? I bet it has to do with deep down "I don't wanna be stuck with one person". It's a lack of maturity.

reply from theruleset:

I’m polya because I don’t think love is exclusionary.

I’m polya because I don’t think sex is some magic ritual that only 2 people at a time should perform, (but hey dude your magic isn’t my magic so you do you.)
I’m polya because I love having people in my life for 5 or 6 years, through distance and continents and career changes, without feeling like either of us are missing out on other experiences.
I’m polya because I love being able to hold hands through the Met with the art student who’s smile lights me up as she explains why Monet was so influential on Tuesday, and then caress the head of the hard-working social worker as she lays it in my lap and recounts her day on Thursday.
I’m polya because I have the emotional bandwidth to support more than one other person, and love to share my life and experiences with others.
I’m polya because all those experiences help me grow and shaped a deep emotional maturity that I do my best to nurture day in and day out.
I’m polya because it feels good and right to me, and to the people I love.
I see that spiteful impulse you have to pop into some person you don’t really know’s inbox and try to tell them that their lifestyle is invalid, and I wonder which one of us lack’s maturity. Anyway have a good holiday.

reply from bdsmpetplay:

Anon, go fuck yourself. Seriously. Polyamory is totally legitimate and can exist in a healthy and respectful way. Science has shown that one’s preference for poly vs mono honestly comes down to genetics, the environment you grow up in, and brain chemistry.

personal opinion:

polyamory is just another excuse for people to cheat.

anon ask:

In defense of the anon that spoke against polyamory- there are so many people that claim that they're poly yet when you ask their partners if they know about the other people you find out that they NEVER told them in the first place or that they just ignored their partners feelings about it in the first place. Unless you're a polygamist or a Mormon I'd honestly say don't do poly. Your partner will eventually start to feel like you don't actually want THEM and it'll spiral downwards from there.

reply from bdsmpetplay:

That’s a pretty bullshit excuse. Poly can totally work. Yes, there’s assholes using it as a guise to cheat, but most of the poly community is amazing when it comes to respect, communication, and honesty.

personal opinion:

thats not a excuse- poly rarely works and there. its nothing more than a excuse to cheat.