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Published: 2008-11-17 06:00:12 +0000 UTC; Views: 2097; Favourites: 30; Downloads: 28
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About: This is about my personal experience with being raped/sexually assaulted, I was brand new in the military and at my first duty station. I had only just turned 18 when it happened, my supervisor was higher ranking and in his 30s. He threatened my life and my career if I told anyone. By time I did it was TOO late, they ended up transferring me out of the command to a new one.Update on him: Come to find out he made it all the way up to Sergeant Major only to get kicked out for another sexual assault before he could retire, he was busted down to an E-1 and did time at Fort Leavenworth.
You need to fight back if anyone should ever attempt this, scream, yell, kick, punch. Tell someone if it should happen immediately. Call 9-1-1, the police will help protect you and get you help.
"No means No", not maybe or maybe she didn't mean it.
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I never got a chance or could get up the bravery to ask if they felt guilty for what they did. But I could tell they did in the way they treated me so badly. 
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The problem with me is that I can never seem to talk about things with other people. I'll try and I hope things improve.
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I would try counseling, I had a little counseling and it helped.
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I'm still struggling with writing my own experience. It's good you were able to write yours. Unfortunately, you usually can't control whether you fight or not. There are three reactions, fight, flight, or freeze, and your brain usually makes that decision for you. Sometimes even people who have taken a self-defense class end up freezing when assaulted. I guess the best thing you can do is to realize that it isn't your fault and that it was nothing you said or did that caused them to do it. They just do it because they can and they want to.
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Yep I froze I was in disbelief that it was happening, I also wrote about my childhood abuse: [link]
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This is a horrible thing that you had to go through. My husband is a Marine and he almost lost his job when he helped a female Marine through something very similar. She was assulted and we took her in when everyone else walked that :we gotta stick together" line. She was young like you and he was a horrible man. My husband had to use every ounce of his self control to not beat him within an inch of his life.
I am so glad to see you write this and that you seem to have found a way to survive and continue on. My heart breaks when I hear of things like this. I know that there are men like this everywhere, but when I hear of military guys being like this it seems to frustrate me even more. You expect more from someone given the responsibility of being in command and of taking care of troops. It is inexcusable when that authority is abused and twisted the way that this man and others have.
Be proud of your strength and that you did the right thing. Be strong in your survival and be proud of it as well. Best wishes to you and I hope others will find strength in this piece.
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It was so long ago in the very early 80s, they didn't have firm sexual harassment policies like they do now, I was in a command where there was only 2 females and I was the only white female. And I had just turned 18, what made it more frightening is they transferred me away instead of dealing with the problem, and I didn't know at the time but I was already pregnant before I was raped. So the whole pregnancy I had to worry. But thankfully it was not his.
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omg....
...i relate to this so strongly.
and thank you for using my stock.
wonderful message.
amazing courage.
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Thank you
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so very welcome
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Good. he got what he deserved.
Very strong piece.
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Thank you dear
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You are most welcome.
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You are such a courageous person. I can't express how much I admire you for putting all these things behind you and moving on with your life. You show such strength and dignity in doing so. I am glad you've found the happiness you deserve
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I'm so sorry this had to happen to you and very glad that you haven't let it stop you from loving someone and being happy. You are a very strong and sweet lady
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Awwwh thank you Kylie
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It's a shame you had to write this poem. I mean, it's a very forceful and very effective poem, and all, but... it's a shame you had to write it because what you went through is a shame. Sometimes, I feel so ashamed to call myself a man when there are people who apply that label to themselves who do such inexorably awful things.
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Not all men are like that, there are lots of good ones. And each man stands on his own merit. But I wanted to write it so if one person read it, if it should ever happen to them or even an attempt they need to fight back with all their might and immediately let authorities know.
I wrote one about being abused as a child, and there are so many people that tell me it helps them to read this and have someone know what they are going through. [link]
That is the main reason I write what I write is because it is about human life, in my love poems, people have experienced all the phases of love I write about, I write about divorce and even erotica. Most of my poems are real-life instead of fantasy. Because I know others can relate and sometimes it says what they cannot say.
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What happened?! I checked my comment, and it seems I wrote:
"Aman ha dur olm gelmem iΓ§in iyice moda girmem lazΔ±m alΔ±ΕtΔ±rmalΔ±yΔ±m kendimi"
I have no clue what that means! I'm fairly sure I typed my comment in English?!
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Really weird 
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dear goddesses...how awful...I'm glad to see he was taken down, eventually. It makes me sick, too. how a number of these troops are trained to project that kind of behavior...I've known too many of these ex-militants, who are really some sick minded cretins, that seem to lose all sense of humanity. ....so sorry. 
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some men are just pigs!! Hope you doing better now though ^^ *Hugs* Always a light at the end of the tunnel..
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I am doing better, when I relocate to California I will be much better
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Good ! ^_^
Yes, you'll certainly be a very happy bunny then!!!
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very powerfully wrote, i'm so sorry for what you went through.
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Thank you sweetie
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i hope it is too
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well written Michelle and sorry to hear about this terrible time in your life
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Thanks hun
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yes dont look back now Michelle
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You are so strong for sharing such a rough experience. Powerful poem.
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Thank you Mel
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you're welcome michelle. much love.
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You too
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Iβm so sorry about the things you went through
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Yep life is getting much better
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I'm so glad dear
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Yes good times will be coming, when I move down to California
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^-^ great to hear that
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