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March 1 is self-harm awareness day. Wear Orange!Links to information: [link]
I am always here for anyone who needs to talk. Send me a note if you want my msn/cell number/some other third thing.
**Sometimes it is obvious. And that's no less legitimate.
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I don't know, I think that you are allowed to pick them out for yourself, but i'm sure you can't get antidepressants... at least I know I can't!
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Weird. That's really annoying.
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People who self destruct through mutilation, abuse, or whatever they choose to do depresses me greatly for a very personal reason. That being said, I only hold the greatest sympathy for those who have gone through something truly traumatic and have turned to self abuse. I dealt with my trauma through reflective meditation and educating myself, but I know some people(especially young ones) do not always have the...mentality to think things through for long term.
Bahh I sound so whiny. Just a great image to raise awareness with, makes me want to go around and find people suffering and just help however I can.
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Yeah, I agree with that. the number of people cutting themselves just to get attention is way too high.
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Oh I wasn't saying it for the attention seekers, I really don't know too many people who do it just for the attention, I'm just saying that when people do it over relationships, because they're being rebellious to parents, or whatever else I've heard of over the years, it's upsetting. People really take their lives and health for granted when they self-mutilate.
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If people cut themselves to get attention, they should be given the attention they clearly need, not shamed.
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The problem that most of these people really want to have that attention. But life isn't about getting attention all along. And trying to get this with cutting yourself is just wrong.
I agree with you that there are people that need attention in form of psychological help when it is some deeper problem. But I think these people are not the major part.
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If someone is so desperate for attention that they're willing to damage their body to do it, they clearly have some underlying issues that need treatment. Yes, how they're going about getting attention is very destructive, but illegitimizing their problems isn't going to help them any.
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My tolerance for defining other people's "problems" seems not to be as big as yours. However, I don't think we get to finish this discussion. The only thing I want to say in the end is that life goes on. You can't bring broken relationships back with it, you can't solve problems with it. It just seems to be - in my opinion - a temporary fashion.
I think all deviantArt users hate me now for saying this. ^^
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It,s a photo made for awkening people!
This photo "screams": Don,t see only the obvius but beneath the obvious.
congratulations!
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I'm so glad someone actually knows other than me!
I keep saying it, also because it's on my birthday and I'm someone who does self-harm, but whenever I do say that, no one ever knows what it is.
And yet, the people at my school think it's funny to make fun of people who cut themselves.
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This is a terrific image, really powerful in its truth.
In my teens I cut. It was infrequent, only every few months in a fit of rage, but I would cut myself down to the bone several times on each forearm, and then go through the fiasco of having them stitched back together in emergency. I'm not proud, nor am I... especially ashamed. It's just a sense of regret for ruining my body in a way that's so permanent. Even with all those scars having faded, they're still there and still cause discomfort when people tug me along by the wrist, for example.
But what hurt most about them was the fact that there was an extra judgement. The fact I'd done them on my forearms made me automatically an attention-seeker, looking for sympathy and only doing it to look 'edgy' or 'hardcore'. If I didn't do it for attention, I should obviously have cut elsewhere, like the thighs or hips or belly. That judgement is something I still have to carry, when people look at them and ask. But I don't see how it's any better or worse than doing it where you'll almost always be covered. Cutting at all is an awful thing. Sometimes I wonder about society. I find it difficult to believe that people, particularly girls and women, sit and cut themselves even a century ago. So how did we get to this, and for it to be such a widespread problem, and 'natural' solution to turn to?
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Ah I understand...it's painful. I cut myself from 10 years old (lot of family problems and my 5th grade teacher stupidly had a lesson about it which triggered me to do it) up until early this year, so for 4 years. When my friends touch my head, ankles, ears, and wrists I immediately feel like I need to throw up.
People are shallow sometimes. There's one kid who killed herself at our school last year because no one believed that she was really depressed and laughed at her for cutting her wrists and she lost one finger apparently because she cut it of....
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I never cut or knew someone who did it but this struck home.
It's just sad when people play cutting down. Think of it: How much does it take to actually consider hurting yourself?
I know I wouldn't laugh. I would ask 'Hey, are you ok?'
Smart concept.
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I'm glad you'd be supportive.
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I used to cut and burn myself when I was younger, wanting to feel something other than emotional pain. It is unfortunate, but also a great thing, I remember exactly which scars belong to which memory. It tells me I survived some of the worst, but also reminds me of my past and brings back memories that I wish would just go away.
I thank you for making this piece. It is truly beautiful to me.
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Thank you for sharing. I hope you're feeling a lot better!
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I visited my cousin when she was 14... she looked fine on the outside... then she rolled up her pants leg and showed me over 100 cuts she had made with a blade she took off a pencil sharpener. I almost had a heart attack.
This is very true, and oh so sad. There are other ways to express your pain!
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I hope she's doing better.
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Thank you! Me too 
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So true. I used to have a friend who would do that. =/ We don't talk anymore.
Also -
"I am always here for anyone who needs to talk."
I'm glad I'm not the only one who's willing to help somebody I don't even know. It makes me really sad when I hear stories about people not helping out someone obviously in need just because they don't know them. We need more caring people in this world.
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I hope your friend is doing better.
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what a conversation starter. wow.
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i hope it does.
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i think this is just. so perfectly accurate.
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It's very sad that people self-harm...I went to school with several boys and girls alike whom hurt themselves in different ways. Cutting, burning, even self-mockery. It's terrible.
Thank you for helping to raise awareness for this awful phenomena.
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Love this picture.
I've realized through the years, many people don't 'get' cutting. I'm sure some people do it for different reasons, but for the most part, people do it because they can't feel anything else. And what are you if you can't feel? It's a way to get that connection back, "Oh look, there's the pain and blood, I am still human."
There were other times I felt so overwhelmed with internal pain that I used cutting as a release. It was a calming mechanism. A lot of people I knew thought that people who cut are always suicidal, which is simply not true. People who cut generally want to feel, while people who are suicidal do not want to feel.
But anyway, I have to say I got through cutting by finding something else engaging (such as exercise, writing, painting, hanging out with a friend, talking on the phone), to do in place of the blade. I've been clean for almost 6 years now and it is great. 
Big hugs to everyone going through that particular hell.
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Thank you for making that point. I used to cut, but it never meant I was suicidal. The people who know about it still don't understand that... at all. And they still watch over me like hawks and it's been so damn long.
When I seem just the slightest bit upset about something, they're on me like white on rice. 
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It's the same for me. If my husband and I have an argument (although we have them rarely), he says that he always makes up with me quicker than he normally would because he's worried that I'll turn to the blade again.
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I'm glad you've found alternatives and are doing well. Thank you!
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This is very beautiful and powerful. This reminds me of my scars on my thighs and arms. People say that I am pathetic, but I had my reasons back then, and I see these scars as very beautiful scars. They tell me that I survived something, what was the worst time of my life.
I was wondering, can I post this on Tumblr? or this is already posted on Tumblr, so I could reblog this? I'll of course link it back here. People should see this.
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It is already posted on my tumblr: [link]
I know several other people have posted it as well. Thanks for asking permission!
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Amazing! I shall start following you as well and reblog this! C:
I think it's not nice when people repost something what is originally someone else's work, so that's why i tend to to ask for permission C: As I said, splendid work!
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Thank you! I'll follow back.
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some of these comments are ignorant and annoying, so ignoring that so it doesnt start a rant this is wonderful, love the concept, and thank you for being a survivor, i think we all need to be, i was a self mutilator aswell and always love to see people find rebirth in all the scars and pain, once it risen from its a beautiful thing, and something no normal person will ever have the chance to embrace or feel, that pride is incredible <3 you are beautiful
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In this picture I saw myself two years ago. You have captured the complexity of self-harm and hopefully made someone ask for help.
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I hope so too. I also hope you're doing better.
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this is awesome...i know exactly what you are talking about because i have been there and people need to know what your showing here is 100% true
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Unfortunately, it isn't. Actually, most of the people that brag about their troubles aren't so sad at all. It's the ones that suffer in silent, that are the hurt ones.
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I am quite open about my problems but I don't think that makes them any less legitimate.
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Yes, it's always good to talk about your problems, I was more referring to the ones that are sort of proud because they hurt themselves, like the ones who always say that their going to kill themselves if somebody does something to them and they keep on saying it, hoping they will get people attention.
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Well I mean, if they're seeking attention so desperately, they probably actually need some attention.
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Haha, you've got a good point indeed
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