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Published: 2012-02-28 01:45:37 +0000 UTC; Views: 87520; Favourites: 4345; Downloads: 3970
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March 1 is self-harm awareness day. Wear Orange!Links to information: [link]
I am always here for anyone who needs to talk. Send me a note if you want my msn/cell number/some other third thing.
**Sometimes it is obvious. And that's no less legitimate.
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Right, then this is a good thing ^^ .
It's becoming really late in Astana so I will go to sleep now. I'm sending you a hopeful thought, wishing you will completely heal someday. (I've realized the memories were still much too painful for me to speak about the person who shot me down, so I'll just take a pass on it this time...) And might talk to you one of these days. Take care!
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Okay, sleep well! Nice talking to you.
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I'm trying not to cry -- because I've caught a cold, and crying increases the amount of headache and snot, haha -- but this really is so touching, and moving, and important, and I was really glad to see this on the front page of dA. I just think this is a really special image.
While I do have red lines on my left arm and wrist, the first cuts I ever did were on my thighs. And still are, actually, since they haven't completely faded yet and possibly never will. It's kind of ridiculous, but the thing that bothers me the most, about the damage I've done to my skin... is that I can't go swimming with my mum. I really just... I really want to go swimming with my mum.
Aaand there goes the "trying not to cry" part...
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Does your mom not know? I'm gonna have a hard time this summer getting down to a bathing suit even though everyone knows.
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She doesn't know. Neither does my dad, who is a psychiatrist (oh, the irony). I haven't told my therapist or my brother or any of my rl friends, either. So yeah...
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You should definitely at least tell your therapist. Mine has helped me with some alternative coping techniques (which don't work most of the time but have saved me from a few scars, so worth it). Drawing on my arms with a marker is helpful sometimes, as is laying on my back on an exercise ball, surprisingly enough.
Telling people is scary, but it's easier to deal with a problem you don't have to hide.
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Yeah, I know. And I'm planning to tell her -- I just haven't been seeing her for a very long time, and it's really difficult to bring it up, especially when she's so optimistic about my depression and all. But I will tell her, eventually.
I have drawn on my arms with a marker sometimes, and I've used fake blood as well. It does help sometimes.
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I totally understand it being hard to let people down when they're so optimistic. Ugh.
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Ugh, I know right. Last time, I was just about to tell her, and then she was like "You know, these problems you're having are really common, and I'm really optimistic about your recovery", so I really didn't want to rain on her parade. I mean, I know I could've told her, but she just looked so darn optimistic.
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Yeah. I get, "Oh you must be feeling so great since you got out of the hospital! I'm so happy about it!" "...yep."
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Aw, that sucks. With me, it's like... she gets so happy if I've, like, gone to school on four days in a row, or if I've actually done something fun with my friends, or if I've sent an email to a teacher or something. She gets that "super proud therapist" face, and I reeeally don't want to be like "Yeah, umm, by the way...", you know? It's just... ugh.
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I know exactly what you mean. Going to school is hard for me too. I'm only going a set number of hours a week right now, and it increases every week. I find it helpful in getting back to a normal schedule.
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Yeah... the longest day I have is four hours, and that should be so fucking manageable. It's just four hours. But, like, sometimes it's just really hard to get out of bed and see people and all that. Meh.
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Yeah, getting out of bed is hard. Being so tired at school is hard for me, my meds make me really sleepy. The longest day I have this week is 4 hours too, and I have two days off.
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I get really anxious at school, because I suck at all my courses and I suck at being social and I suck at, just, belonging and fitting in. I feel uncomfortable and anxious and then I end up crying. Good times.
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I hope you graduate soon and get to be finished with it! Are you planning on going to university or anything?
I'm looking forward to university.. I think it will be easier to remain anonymous and invisible when I want to.
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Oh, actually, I am at university. I probably sound like a high schooler, though. Sorry about the confusion there. But yeah, I'm a university student. I do agree that it's easier to remain anonymous there, but I just... I don't know. I really wanted to get into this art school, but that didn't happen, so I applied to uni and got in. I guess I should be proud of getting into university in the first place, but I think it probably wasn't a good decision after all.
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Oh! You do sound like a high schooler 
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Hopefully not in a bad way? People have told me I don't act my age sometimes.
And, well, it's really hard to get into the art school. I tried two years ago, and I tried last year, but didn't get in. I'm gonna try again this year, but it's pretty hopeless.
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No, I just kind of assumed it was high school when you said you were going 4 hours a day cause I didn't think schedules were that regular at university.
Keep trying! I'm taking applied arts next year.
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Yeah well, maybe they aren't in your country? I'm from Finland, so the system is different. It's a huge education mess, basically
Applied arts sounds nice! And yeah, that's what my wonderful best friend keeps telling me: keep trying. We'll see if this year is my year *fingers crossed*
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Yeah, it must be different, I'm from Canada. Applied arts is going to be okay, it's 2 years of like regular liberal arts (literature and stuff which i find quite boring) and then two years at an art college. I hope you get in!
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Thank you for getting it! Not everyone does it for the attention or a call for help. Some of us did to release the anger without hurting others.
Thank you!
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Although there is nothing wrong with needing attention. I understand what you mean.
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I have to say, this photo speaks to me. It's very well done, very meaningful and just genuinely striking. That said, I don't like it, but not because of it in itself, but because it touches a raw nerve. I myself used to self harm prolifically, for various and personal reasons. I got over it and stopped. But it's still a subject I find...uncomfortable.
However, enough of my hang ups, well done for producing a striking piece and for doing to raise awareness and help others!
This is definitely and issue that must be addressed.
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Thank you! I'm so glad you recovered. I hope you're doing well.
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Oh I'm fine now 
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Best picture I've ever seen.
My scars are on the obvious place. When I look at them, I just feel sad, very sad.
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I feel sad looking at my scars too. But not ashamed, they show what I've made it through.
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ya, it's very true. Love your representation of the *unobvious* places
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I'm not ashamed of my scars. And personally, i do find scars attractive too.
Because its a sign of strength. Scars show that you endured challenges.
It isn't obvious.
I always hide my cuts. I wear my scars with pride.
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I know exactly what you mean.
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Same here!
I will add that I look forward to the day when my future husband gets to see my scars for the first time and I won't be ashamed. I know he will love me and my scars will be the last barrier to who I am. He will see the pride I have in living past those awful days looking forward to a future. he will see a woman empowered and not afraid. Not angry toward the world, but one who has overcome it's abuse. A woman who guards her heart, but it willing to reveal it to him. I so look forward to that day because that s the story my scars tell.
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That's so wonderful. You have an extraordinary attitude about it.
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I'm really glad that my school did an assembly on self-harm and how it wasn't funny. I haven't cut myself nor do I know someone who has, but the assembly talked about one girl who did and I was really sad.
Your a genius for making this
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I would love to have something like that at my school, but I don't know how to bring it about.
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Im so proud of you <3 and of all the photos on the front page you have the most comments as well
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There's a lot of people I know that don't think that one girl I know does that to herself, because her arms are clean. That's so sad.
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No, I've been telling her to do it, but she's afraid her mother will find out.
I've been trying to help her myself, but it isn't easy.
I've saved her from commiting suicide once tho.
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I'm so glad you've been there for her, that's great of you. Getting help for her underlying issues that cause her to self-harm doesn't necessitate her telling her mother about the self harm. Especially if she's older than 16 (that's how it is in Canada, anyway).
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she's 17, but she tells me she won't do anything, like talking to an adult, until she's 18.
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Well she's medically an adult. They can't tell her mother anything without her consent. Does she know that?
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Yes She knows that, but the thing is that she wants to start taking antidepressants, which she needs her mothers permission to do.
But I'm actually afraid everytime she starts with new pills/medication, she've been taking to much sometimes.
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Why does she need her mother's permission to start taking antidepressants?
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She is the only one that can go buy it for her, I don't know how it is in other countries, but here you need an adult unless you're 18
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Oh, that sucks. I live in Canada, so I can pick up my own medications as long as I can pay for them. My parents get them for me anyways, though. What do girls who need birth control do..?
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