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March 1 is self-harm awareness day. Wear Orange!Links to information: [link]
I am always here for anyone who needs to talk. Send me a note if you want my msn/cell number/some other third thing.
**Sometimes it is obvious. And that's no less legitimate.
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You are most welcome. I have been doing much better since I have my girlfriend to help support me through hard times now and I try to be there every step for her and my friend as well.
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That's great! My boyfriend of one year broke up with me when I got diagnosed with depression... dick. 
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Aww I'm sorry 
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Thank you. 
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this definitely imposes a strong message especially towards teens who are suffering peer pressure, abuse, stress, addictions and finding ways to relieve themselves of their problems. I really admire work like this
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I tried everything to get my boyfriend to stop... but when he kept doing it I just didn't know what to do... so stupidly, I actually tried, just to see what it was like and maybe understand his pain... but I just realized afterward that it wasn't going to help at all, so I promised myself I would never do it again...
Still, I try and help my bf however I can, I think it's getting better now... but I know he still does... at least a bit, and every time I see a scar it makes me sad... I just wish I could take away the pain that makes him feel the need to do that to himself... I wish I could for anyone who ever felt the need to do that...
I have another friend who cuts as well, but normally he's a really cheerful and fun person... but whenever I remember that he cuts it makes me think how he's actually really hurt inside and it doesn't help to keep it bottled inside...
A lot of the time, I think people tend to do that because they have no other way of letting out all the pain... I think that if they could just have someone to talk to, at least, that would already help a bit. Not like a shrink or anything... just like a good friend.. a sympathetic ear...
And maybe also try to find another kind of outlet, like music, or crafts or something... I don't know, maybe what I'm saying is completely wrong, and it wouldn't help at all, because I don't actually completely understand the motives of doing this... But this is just what I think
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I'm really glad you're supportive of the people you know who self-harm. A therpist is actually more helpful to talk to than a friend in some ways, because they're unbiased and will tell you the truth without trying to save your feelings. Also, you know they're not going to tell anyone else anything you say. Medication is also helpful.
I'm working on finding alternatives to self-harm that work for me, it's difficult. Thank you!
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It's true about the therapist... I was just thinking that a lot of people would be put off by being told to go see one... like it would make them feel like there's something wrong with them, and just feel worse about themselves, although it's true they might be able to help more...
I actually didn't know that there was medication that could help... what kind? Like, anti-depressants or something..?
I can imagine that it would be hard.. I sincerely wish you good luck!!! (>^.^)>
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I take antidepressants and an antianxiety medication that I find really helpful, as well as stuff for sleep.
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I'm glad they help! ^^ Maybe that's something I could suggest to my friend...
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This is amazing. I've suffered with this since I was about 12, and although I am getting help it is so very hard to stop it. I really appreciate the message you've put across here. Thank you <3
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So have I, I'm so glad you're getting help and I do understand how hard it is.
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thank you for bringing this concept up in such a way. artistic as it is, it also depicts a hard reality.
I've gone through this kind of thing... and it's not pleasant in the long run. Thanks once again^^
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Thank you. I hope you're doing better.
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You're right; it's not. People usually see me as a cheerful, bright person always wanting to help. I don't think anyone knows that I get stressed out over the littlest thing if it's not perfect and then I attack my upper arms with scissors to calm myself down... sometimes the cuts get pretty deep, so I wear long sleeves to cover it.
Afterwards I always make sure to take care of the cuts with rubbing alcohol and bandages so they don't get infected.
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Are you getting any help for this? I'm glad you are at least relatively safe about it. Doesn't rubbing alcohol hurt?
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It does hurt but I don't wwant an infection so I just put up with it.
No, I'm not getting help right now...
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I'd definitely suggest going to a doctor. It's a hassle, but it's really really worth it.
I use antibiotic cream on mine, I don't know if that would work with yours but it doesn't hurt. I also have some with some pain relief as well to make it easier to wear jeans and stuff when I cut my hips or legs.
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thank you. that's all.
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that's funny because your pictures are so bloody it kinda makes self harm look fashionable
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my self harm and my special effects makeup are two completely separate things for me. one is a hobby i enjoy, and one is a horrible problem.
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i'm sorry to hear that. but special effects might be the cure. right?
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Thank you for doing this, my sister used to self-harm and it really took a bad toll on both of us. So thanks for raising awareness!
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I hope she's feeling better.
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She is, luckily she managaed to push through. She's strong, but it was scary for a year or so.
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This photo is definitely well done. I used to engage in such things, although i did start out on my arms i would move to other places when i ran out of room. I'm surprised people think that those who self-harm on their arms are doing it for attention. I started to do it in sixth grade, and didn't even think about it. Sometimes it would be in a fit of emotions, although after a while it would happen just due to mad impulses and large dissociation in which i had trouble controlling my own actions, a lot of the time paired with panic attacks... it's not like you really think about what is easily seen when you're so detached like that, and to be honest when people comment on my permanent scars nowadays with concern I tend to get largely annoyed. The attention actually irritates me, even though a decent portion of my scar tissue is on my arms....
Just to say, i know the photo was only to say it's not always obvious (the photo is great) but if other commenters read this, please try to not assume because someone does it on their arms they are somehow craving attention... and even if they are, is that to be a judgment of their character? They could be lonely and wishing that someone might realize how painful it is to have social isolation and the total lack of an emotional support system, especially early in social and psychological development.
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I do actually self-harm on my arms from time to time as well. I try not to because it limits what I can wear around like, my grandparents, but I'm not always able to stop myself. I started in grade 6 as well.
Exactly. Even if someone does cut their arms because they're craving attention, I think it's a sign that they are in desperate need of some and should be supported, not shamed for it.
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can I just ... can I just envelope you in a giant bear hug right now.
That was so well written.
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It's a clever light effect you have on the hands - on the thumbnail, they appear to be filled with blood.
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Yeah... I'd like, to speak about it. These mental illnesses you speak about too. What's happened to you?
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I have major depressive disorder, social anxiety, performance anxiety, generalized anxiety disorder, and a touch of post traumatic stress disorder. I've been struggling with the anxiety and depression for as long as I can remember, it's almost entirely just chemical which makes it harder to deal with for me. How are you?
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That's a lot... you mean that sometimes you're starting to feel scared, by everything? When you mean chemical you mean it is a real trouble, with physical origins?
Because, well, I am extremely stressful and anguished... sometimes I start being so fearful with the others that I want to run away from everything and live alone in the nature, and my good mood breaks for almost nothing. But I know that it is only because I've been severely injured, in the heart.
Right now I'm okay, because I have very nice projects going on (writing a fantasy trilogy, drawing and painting, learning foreign languages, cooking and listening to music... I'm a lover of life, I want to do so many things, and school/university completely broke me because I couldn't get satisfied being stuck in these prison-like obligations. To this you add the horrors that you have to watch in this world, and you just feel like exploding.) But thanks to the work I'm currently doing (being a french teacher in Kazakhstan) I hope I can save enough money for a free year in which I can finish my book and start living out of it. Then I hope my despair/fear/fragility will be once and forever gone...
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When I say chemical I mean like, nothing in my life happened to cause my problems I was born with it. My brain doesn't make the right amount of the happy chemicals. It runs in my family.
That sounds lovely, I'm really glad you're doing what you enjoy. Being a french teacher in Kazakhstan sounds so fun! I love to tutor people in french. Is it your first language?
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It sound really terrible for you and I'm feeling so sorry. I just can't understand where this despair can come from - to me despair has no reason to exist, it is just something we should fight against always... this kind of things we would be born with, just sound like perfectly and totally unfair. How come someone can be born with or without the hability to be happy?
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It is just beyond my mind. I wish I could do something to help you, because it will always ruin my own happiness to know that some people suffer. But for this I'd need to understand... but how, when I'm not in the mind of others? *sigh*
Ah, yes, my mother language is french...
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Don't let it bother you. I'm getting treatment and it's getting better.
Where are you from?
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From Lille, in the north! And you're from Canada?
I hope you will get better as well. I hope to see some improvement as time goes by : )
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And french is your native language?
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No, English is my native language but I have been speaking french for 6 years now and I consider myself bilingual.
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Oh, beautiful. I like to speak english myself so I will just go on with english ^^ So do you like teaching french to others?
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Okie doke
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