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4/19/2015 Decided to update this again~Been a while, huh? I don't come onto this account anymore, but occasionally I come on to read comments. I said it before, but thank you for all of your stories. All but one of the comments have been inspiring stories and constructive opinions. Again, I don't come here often, but this is a topic I am always open to talking about, as long as we're both willing to listen to each other
I'm a teacher now, and trust me - I see a lot and am apart of many people's lives. I know many stories, I know many situations, I know it isn't black and white. Oh good Lord, do I know there are grey areas. My jobs requires me to separate myself from my opinions. When I walk into the classroom my opinions don't matter - what matters is that my students are safe and that I will do anything for them. It's a surreal feeling - being so protective of so many, even though I may severely disagree with their decisions or stances.
A lot has changed, but I'll always keep my original description up. I feel like that no matter how much I change and grow that it's important to remember where I've been, no matter how dark (and hypercritical) it was. This stamp means a bunch of things to different people, so please don't see it as one opinion. Read the comments; send me a note on my main account; inspire real-life conversations. But don't assume. That's what I did a lot of when I was younger. At the same time though not everything has changed. There will always be truth in what I wrote years ago, but people aren't stagnant. We grow and evolve, and I hope these comments do that for you in some way~
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11/9/2012: I'd like to note that I plan on changing/adding to this description. Talking to the people who have left comments has given me, and others, insight, and I want to express my feelings behind this stamp better. When this was originally written, I myself was in a terrible part of my life (and in many ways, I still am). I am and always will be open to talking about the nature of this stamp, and I thank everyone for being mature about our conversations thus far
Thank you all for the support and sharing your stories with regards to this stamp - it's been a real experience, and I always hope for the best who are still seeking for answers 
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i could say so much about this stamp, but i'll keep it to a minimum just cuz i don't to be here all night...
first off, this was inspired by In-The-Machine 's stamp, as seen here: in-the-machine.deviantart.com/…
now, my thoughts and what this stamp means:
in plain, simple words i am sick and tired of people acting like they don't have anyone in the world who cares for them and thinking that there is no way out. that alcohol, drugs, cutting, and isolation are the only ways to feel better. that they know what they need to become "better" and don't need anyone to help. its total bullshit.
i myself have a father who i think needs psychological help with getting over whatever problems he had in the past with his family. does he ever listen to me when i try to talk to him about it or try stay calm when i ever have serious conversations about him with him? no, he doesn't. hence i'm tired of trying to help him because he doesn't want it. you can't help people who don't want to change, which is why i am so sick of listening to stupid little attention whore bitch about how horrible their lives are and how no one loves them. if they seriously gave a shit, they'd get help. true, some people have absolutely no one to turn to, but i'm talking about those people who think that no counselor can help them; that their parent's hate them; that none of their friends "know what they're going through." no - their friend's DON'T know what they're going through because they refuse to let anyone in. THAT'S why they have no one to turn to. until they realize that the world isn't out to ruin their lives, they will never get better, they will never be happy, and they will continue to be considered a failure.
on another note, no - i do not believe in pitying people who don't deserve it. pity only lets the person know that what they are doing (isolation through despair or anger, acts of anger, self-harm, drugs, alcohol) is ok since it gets them the attention that they feel they never got, so they continue to do these things. and yes, i do consider "simply" being in a constant bad mood to be as equally bad and influential as abusing alcohol/drugs because they all hurt others, they hurt the person doing it, and they will never help the person doing it regardless of how much it makes them feel "good". that "good" feeling is a cover-up and a method of sheer avoidence to the want to actually try to change and get better. and if we try to measure how important or severe someone's problem is, then no one would ever want to get help because they're not as important as others and don't deserve the attention. and yes, things like cutting are just as bad as alcohol/drug abuse in my eyes.
keep in mind that this is NOT everything that i think or believe. so before you get mad at me for not taking this or that into consideration, just shut up and stop yourself from being an idiot. express your opinion, yes, but do so in an intelligent manner.
i will open comments for a little bit, but as soon as i get a single idiotic comment they will close. this stamp is for those who feel the same as me.
and lastly, don't try to defend youself if you are someone who inflicts self-harm/drinks excessively/does drugs. i don't care to hear your story, and you should be busy telling your story to someone who can actually HELP YOU. not to some college student who just felt like expressing her own opinion.
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i'm sorry to hear those you reached out to in your life turned out to be horrid people 
in all 22 years of my life, i still can't say i have a single person i have complete trust in or have open up to completely, and a lot of my own growth has been through myself and no one else. i'm speaking from complete personal experience, but in any instance i hope that any help in the future you get, whether it be from someone else or completely internal, i wish you nothing but good things
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Yeah, a lot of growth through one self, and a lot of betrayal and all that.
You too, hope things gets better; and I'm surely not one to think writing/saying that will magically make it all better because hell...it never does, or rarely do but, good luck anyway.
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More people should see this stamp and read your description.
And by the way: this is EXACTLY how I feel! Attention-seekers make me vomit. Sure, it IS sad that they feel depressed and whatever, but how the f*ck am I supposed to help them?! I'm no shrink or doctor! Go get help from an expert, not me or anyone else who can only give you pity.
You rock.
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thank you!
while i agree that we ourselves cannot offer direct solutions to those who are depressed, our involvement matters a lot though ^^ we have to support our friends and family who seek out help. but yes - we alone cannot solve every other person's life problem, and a professional should be sought out to help them
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Of course I try to help, with giving advice, hugging them and such. But when it comes down to it: if the problem is so severe that they are hurting themselves and others, they need to talk to professionals, not me who can't give them squiddely-squat. I can only give my sympathy (if they deserve it), that's it.^^
But it's incredibly annoying when people who are hurting themselves and are depressed demand the impossible from you (some are really suffocating, they act as they want you to give blood or something!)
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you don't need permission to use stamps ^^
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More people should be able to help themselves. I have depression and was a cutter for 4 years, but over time, with the help of friends and counselers, I was able to stop myself and now I haven't cut in almost a year
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that makes me very happy to hear that
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Yay happy 
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I completely agree with this, and I thank you for making a stamp like this.
I've been clinically depressed for at least 10 years now. It hasn't been until last year that I was able to start getting help for myself (getting into counseling, starting anti-depressants, etc.) and it's exciting to finally see some progress on that. Right now I'm divorcing my husband, with whom I shared an abusive relationship with. The guy has his own problems, but he's pretty much pulling the "BOO HOO NO ONE CARES ABOUT ME OR UNDERSTANDS ME" card, and it annoys me to no end because it ultimately ruined our relationship.
So there has never been a better time for me to support this stamp~.
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i support you all the way girl, and i'm so happy to hear that it sounds like life has been getting better for you 
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Thank you! That means a lot to me.
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Great stamp, reminds me of my step-cousin whose now a druggie and my family avoids her. Its really sad but then again she feels all "woe is me" and blames everyone for her own actions instead of helping herself, her two other siblings are getting on with life though.
Her parents divorced and my step-aunt has taken alot to drinking, my step-cousin smashed the window of her Dads house, destroyed her best friends relationship by sleeping with her boyfriend, left high school, left a mechanics course at collage, then got with a druggie boyfriend 10 years older than her...then when her boyfriend starting dealing drugs from the garage she got kicked out, her life is just a mess but she brought it upon herself and I just can't feel any pity for her.
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i'm glad you like my stamp
but oh man, i can't even imagine
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i have this problem with drinking random toxins i mix up.. my fave is germX mixed with pop, gets me soo drunk and sick and i struggled with doing that alot.... now im gunna try to turn my life around now, be happy with out being intoxicated
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you go girl! i hope everything goes well for you
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This stamp really hits home, because it is so true.
I am a recovering cutter, and I've been clean for aabout two weeks(progress considering how much I cut myself each day), and I'm tired of people saying that I cut because I felt like the world hated me. So not true. My friends and I still hung out (they didn't know), and I was more or less pretty popular in school. I think that the small propportion of people who cut that I am included in cut becasue they hate themselves, not because everybody hates them. We are the ones with serious problems, but also the ones who accept help more often.
But then that brings me to one of the girls in my class. Her boyfriend broke up with her, and she went in what she called "an emotional tailspin." She sat next to me in science and I watched in confusion as she took out a paper cut and scratched a small line on her wrist, in front of everybody. And then, as if sensing there was any possible way that I didn't see it, she waved her wrist around in my face saying, "Look! I'm so disappointed in myself. I told her to shut up and stop doing that, but she scratched herself again. And then, as we were walking into our next class, she grabs a pair of scissors from another student's desk and scratches herself again on the lower thigh. In front of everybody. And then of course, her friend's starting gusing about how she shouldn't do that because she was so loved by everyone. Ugh.
So its people like that that irk me, because they then set this stereotype that cutters only do it for attention. Because, I'll admit, a hell of a lot do, but not everyone.
So bravo! This is awesome
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i'm very happy you like my stamp, and thank you for sharing your stories
i definitely wish you luck in continuing to stop cutting, and i know you'll succeed because it sounds like you want to, and that's the most important part
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I'm in thearpy now. Not for my cutting but for my nightmares that used to wake me up sobbing. It took my family three years to decided that the nightmares were worth putting me in thearpy for.
I've had to get over cutting on my own, which is hard for the record.
Plus, I hate people who go get help and then don't want to take it. Like they still wannna be like this. I think my grandmother deos that.
She goes to thearpy about her past but never seems to get better or even listen to what the doctor says. It really pisses me off.
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do you have night terrors? i get those, and they wake me up crying. they're such terrible things
yeah, i have a friend who is seeing a counselor, but doesn't think anything the counselor is saying is right or worth their time. it's so frustrating.
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No, but I've had night terrors before. They're just my dreams. They freak me out so bad it's crazy and put me horrible moods for days from the freak out.
The thearpy has seemed to be working. It's helping me understand a few things about my dreams and ways to get around them.
I hate to hear that. Maybe your friend should try another tcounselor. Sometimes the person you see can amke all the difference. Maybe this guy/girl isn't the right one for them.
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aww, man that's no fun
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Same here. I'm looking into how to lucide dream.
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thanks for the stamp, the comments were helpful.
I'm in this website and there are lots of people ranting about depression and stuff and whenever I tell them to get off of the internet and get some help, like EVERYONE starts BAWWing and tells me that their parents beat them and they have no where to run and fgsdjf forget it
Then they can use the internet to get some help. So thanks, now I have this to tell them C:<
But seriously. This stuff is getting to damn common over the internet that I'm starting to not care anymore :I If I meet someone with depression issues IRL I would do everything to help them but you never know if it's true if you're on the internet.
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it is hard to tell if something is genuine or not on the internet, especially since the internet is an outlet for a lot of people in order to get attention. things can also be easily over-exaggerated on the internet. i don't think people's outcries for help should be taken as lies and means of attention always (since some could be real), but that one should definitely exercise a sense of caution and common sense when dealing with these issues online. it's a very confusing problem that is hard to deal with
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Confusing is right. Who can tell? Some people can lie like really good.
Somtimes it's easy to tell whether they're real or not, but when it's not I usually just believe what they say. ._.
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DSSSAGHDGD I mean if they obviously DO have it over the internet, then I would care. It's just the obvious lying ones that get to me :I
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I tried to help myself at one point by signing up for anger mamangement B4 it was to late, but that group was for kids who had already gone over the edge; getting kcked out of school, going to the meetings or ending up in juvie, etc. I was in a room with delinquets while I was just a guy who got angry at my unpleasant memories.
both my grandmother (in the room with the parents/gaurdians) and I (in the room with criminal teens) stuck out and we didn't go back.
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that's definitely a hard situation, being surrounded by people that make your own experience difficult. getting help is always the best route to go, but in an environment that is actually going to help you. i hope you found a better outlet for what you need it for ^^
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well I took it because of leftover anger of abuse and malnutrion by my step-mother, but other than that, my life is pretty great now.
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I'm mentally ill and had girls at middle and high school do horrible and unsavory things to me. Because of that, I became super violent and had thoughts of killing people. Even though I had thoughts of suicide, I never attempted it, because I thought it would be a wimpy thing to do. Whenever I told the high school principal about that, he just laughed at me and told me "girls can't be that cruel".
Lucky, my sister picked up the warning signs and my family helped me out. I feel much better now that I'm fully medicated. Now, I stick to drawing and writting my feelings instead of acting out horrible things in real life.
I really get tired of those who cut themselves or inflict self harm for selfish and ungrateful reasons. It makes it harder for the real survivors to get help.
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your story really tugs at my heart - i am so happy you got help 
and i agree. another person brought up how it's hard to tell if someone is serious or not about depression when on the internet. things can be done for attention and other ungrateful reason, but that of course brings up the question of what is wrong with them that they need attention so desperately. problems come in a lot of different forms, i guess
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Thank you. I feel much better since I'm on medication.
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I know plenty of people this stamp reminds me of. Its so annoying especially when they're blind to how others are treated.
I was raised through 2 divorces, one of my stepparents abusing me from when I was 6-11 then I was raped/mollested from when I was 12-17, then of course when I was 14 I tried committing suicide and did cut on several occassions and when I tried telling the few who I trusted about this all they said to me "You're just making that up Alli."
Unlike others, I never got help. I never spoke to anyone about it and just kind of shut it away and was very wary of people.
Of course this is my past and it makes me shake to think of it, but I don't regret it. It has taught me of how to keep an eye out for myself in this world, it has taught that yes there are people to stray from but there are good who are always looking to help.
Now I'm 20 years old, happily married to the love of my life. I talk to him about my past when I feel overwhelmed and he helps me get through it
But I do suggest to people that are able to get professional help or just talk to someone that cares deeply (even parents, they will understand and more help than you think) to go do it rather than making dumb decisions.
Its just annoying to those who think they have life so bad because their parents didn't buy them the newest clothes or the newest iPhone they have to go drink and smoke when right in front of them are people who have had worse lives.
So I agree with this stamp, and thank you for making it.
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i'm very glad this stamp means a lot to you, and that you're in a happy place in your life. your the amazing kind of person this stamp is made for
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A person who decides to create an angst vortex is someone who actually fails to understand how toxic they become to other people. No one wants to believe that their brand of help is harming another person or that they're harming themselves through their brand of help. Unfortunately, if neither person can admit to the ugly truth, this terrible way of enabling bad behavior just continues.
I've found in my experience that people don't heal not always because they refuse to let anyone it. Sometimes, they let someone very much in, but they never let that other person OUT. Once you get sucked into someone's angst vortex, it can be very hard to get out. If you're that person, you find yourself enabling very destructive behavior because it's become this frightful co-dependency issue. Now rather than just one person with serious problems, you have two people with serious problems and they can't separate themselves from each other. I have seen people try to pull me into their world of pain. A person that selfish doesn't realize that they are using up a friendship until the friend has nothing else to give.
Anyways, that's my two-cents. I should also mention that I'm saying it as someone who has been in therapy since being a tiny child and is quite familiar with the flip side of this, namely that it is extremely difficult and humiliating to ask for help because it means confronting very ugly aspects of one's self. However, since I've been there, I can't cut much slack for someone who gives me that line.
That was quite a bit more than I had meant to type. Anyways, thanks for putting this up and spreading the wisdom.
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thank you for sharing your thoughts, and i agree with you 100%. there are so many sides to this, and i don't think they're discussed or talked about enough. "Sometimes, they let someone very much in, but they never let that other person OUT." this cannot be more true, and i have seen it many times in my life.
again, thank you for sharing
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Well said. 
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