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I've gone over this a lot over the course of the comic, but I think it's important enough to bear repeating. I have so frequently seen people beat themselves up over not realizing that they're gay or trans or any number of orientations or identities until later in life. Or that they never knew they were intersex. Or even beyond LGBT stuff, that they didn't realize they have ADHD or autism or something until later. It's okay, though. Really.

People - all of us - are complicated, and sometimes, it just takes a bit longer. It doesn't mean someone is "stupid" if they didn't put it together sooner. And it's not a race either; you don't "lose" if someone younger than you figured it out first.

On the one hand, I've said before I've known I was trans since my first memory (not the word itself, but I knew from like age 3 or 4 that "I wanted to be a girl"). On the other hand, I did not piece together that I was asexual until my thirties. The funniest part about that is that a friend back in high school actually once asked me, "Do you think you might be asexual?" And at the time, I brushed it off, like, "Of course not. I can't be!"

Cut to me 15-20 years later: "Oh, dang. He was right!" Whoops! XD

Then I only learned I had ADHD like 2-3 years ago (despite being astoundingly obvious in hindsight; I just happened to never be diagnosed as a kid, and therefore thought nothing of it). And even more recently than that, I have very strong suspicions that I may be autistic (which would also explain a lot of things throughout my life).

Yet, here I am, 37 years old and still learning stuff about myself. I bet I'll continue to learn new facts about myself at least once every few years for the rest of my life too. So again, it's okay to take a little more time to learn things about yourself. You're not slow or stupid for not picking up on it sooner; I like to think we just figure it out when "it's time to know". You couldn't know before, because you didn't have all the pieces of the puzzle available to you yet; that's not your fault.

So please, be patient with yourself, and be kind to yourself. ^_^

©2004-2021
Rain, all characters and all other aspects of the story are copyright material belonging to me.

My next round of dental work is currently slated for November, but as I've discussed, I've still got a lot to save. If you can help, I will be very grateful. If not, no hard feelings. Thank you, either way.
gofund.me/bc702c0d

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I've gone over this a lot over the course of the comic, but I think it's important enough to bear repeating. I have so frequently seen people beat themselves up over not realizing that they're gay or trans or any number of orientations or identities until later in life. Or that they never knew they were intersex. Or even beyond LGBT stuff, that they didn't realize they have ADHD or autism or something until later. It's okay, though. Really.

People - all of us - are complicated, and sometimes, it just takes a bit longer. It doesn't mean someone is "stupid" if they didn't put it together sooner. And it's not a race either; you don't "lose" if someone younger than you figured it out first.

On the one hand, I've said before I've known I was trans since my first memory (not the word itself, but I knew from like age 3 or 4 that "I wanted to be a girl"). On the other hand, I did not piece together that I was asexual until my thirties. The funniest part about that is that a friend back in high school actually once asked me, "Do you think you might be asexual?" And at the time, I brushed it off, like, "Of course not. I can't be!"

Cut to me 15-20 years later: "Oh, dang. He was right!" Whoops! XD

Then I only learned I had ADHD like 2-3 years ago (despite being astoundingly obvious in hindsight; I just happened to never be diagnosed as a kid, and therefore thought nothing of it). And even more recently than that, I have very strong suspicions that I may be autistic (which would also explain a lot of things throughout my life).

Yet, here I am, 37 years old and still learning stuff about myself. I bet I'll continue to learn new facts about myself at least once every few years for the rest of my life too. So again, it's okay to take a little more time to learn things about yourself. You're not slow or stupid for not picking up on it sooner; I like to think we just figure it out when "it's time to know". You couldn't know before, because you didn't have all the pieces of the puzzle available to you yet; that's not your fault.

So please, be patient with yourself, and be kind to yourself. ^_^

©2004-2021
Rain, all characters and all other aspects of the story are copyright material belonging to me.

My next round of dental work is currently slated for November, but as I've discussed, I've still got a lot to save. If you can help, I will be very grateful. If not, no hard feelings. Thank you, either way.
gofund.me/bc702c0d