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SnaiLords — Better than I know Myself
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Just a composure of some conversations I had with people.You say one thing, they leap to a (wrong) conclusion.
It's as ridiculous as them trying to tell which flavor of cereal YOU like.
or should like. lol Shut up. Go away. Don't tell the owner of this operating system what it does or doesn't like.
Just because I don't say much doesn't mean I'm insecure or afraid of what others will think. My mind just go blank around people. I have nothing to say to them. (Unless random jokes or superficial small talk. I can handle up to 4 minutes of mindless small talk with strangers. But after that, I just want to leave the room.)
Being an introvert is not "different" either. Many people are introverts. I don't mind conversations if it's meaningful or with company that I enjoy.
Still, even with company I enjoy. I'd desperately need my "me" time to recharge. Either indulge in a book, in a story, in a drawing, or drawing or climb a mountain, run on the treadmill. I need that solitude.
This lady, my acupuncturist for my hand was like "Recharge yourself? Well, if you were giving off positive and compassionate energy you would have endless energy to give instead of feeling drained by the end of the day."
Something about that angered me, I can't place my finger on it. I guess she's right partially.
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*sprinkle awkward silence in the air*
indulge bro, indulge
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Ahh I totally agree with you! Especially this part: "My mind just go blank around people. I have nothing to say to them." I just basically have comfortable silences with people. Except they think that it's awkward silences... And solitude is wonderful
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lol I mean sometimes we're just not on the same wavelength with certain people.
Hard to converse without a common ground/common interest.
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O mai gawd! People like that are the WORST!
"You're not introverted. That isn't actually a real thing. You see, the thing is--"
"You can just leave the house now, a-hole..."
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*kneels by open door with arm gesturing outside*
*plays "Leave, get out" by jojo* lol
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Ugh I hate when this happens. These people don't realize how rude they are jeez.
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Right? There are many kinds of people out there.
Can't expect everyone to be precisely the same.
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Yep, but they've never said it to my face (about introversion being fake)
My favorite part about when people don't really know you is when they think they know you UNTIL~ I show I can do monkey calls~ Haha! I when I made my guy friend read something my friend and I wrote (it was kind of... suggestive lol) He looked straight at me, and said "You... YOU wrote THIS?! Sweet, little, quiet, perfect angel wrote this?....But... But I thought I knew you" I then told him he gave me the idea and he flipped out~
Truth was, he did. I asked him if he could give me an idea. He said said "porn."
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HAHAHAHAHAHA
angel has a dark side after all.
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Yep! XD Haha~ And I LOVE surprising people with it~
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yeah. i hate that sometimes too,but there are somethings they say i might agree with.
i said i might agree,i didn't say i need to hear it from anyone else. XD
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I like the line "I trained myself to be socially adept". Very true.
What's interesting about America is that new people you meet make small talk. Weather, work, family, money. If you find someone you can hold a conversation with about Spanish poets, that's a miracle.
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Everytime someone tries to identify the wish of staying away from people as insecurity, they just make me wish to high five them... on the face... with my fist.
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whats really fun is when they think they know you and you do something completely out of character
maddox: you mean like when your friends thought you were a sweet and wholesome lady till you decided to use your well educated sailor talk?
me: yeah...... those were good times
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I hate when people just assume things about me too -_-
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Reading the comic and all I can think of is CUPCAKE!!!
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The funny thing is...my classmate tried to train me in small talk when I said I hate it.
I think just shuting up sometimes is fine. I'll talk when there is something to talk about...
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Um, mind if I try to put your finger into it then? 
It's just that she's telling you, "There's one thing that's wrong with you: You're not like me. And there's one way to correct it: Change who you are, using me as the role model."
There, was it the right spot? If not, feel free to take your finger out and wipe it on my shirt
Seriously, the beauty of cognitive dissonanse and how people deal with it 
They do everything to convince the person that introversion = low self-esteem. Because that way, they don't have to confront the fact how much their own cofidence is just a pretense, don't they? 
And sure enough, your acupuncturist is right >___< It would sure be nice if you were born with a nervous system that thrives when there's a lot going on around you, instead of one that doesn't enjoy being over-stimulated. The Western society, and American society in particular, rewards people like that. So of course she's right. It'd be much, much easier for you if you were just like her. All you need to do is to change the fundamental way your nervous system works and start "giving off positive and compassionate energy" like she does. It's all so simple!
No wonder she pissed you off.
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Your acupuncturist is right and wrong at the same time. If you were radiating positive social energy, you would have a endless energy, that is correct, but you also wouldn't be "you" any longer, that's where she is wrong. We introverts are not the energetic/energizing type and that's not our function in the human society to begin with. Nature made us humans wonderfully diverse, and some people are responsible for making things, while others, for social cohesion--that would be your basic introvert/extravert distinction. Unfortunately, many people are so self-centered that they don't understand how our differences enrich our lives and try to fit everyone into their own picture. Extraverts are just louder about it, but that's just how they do everything, and being annoyed at them for this is just the introverted counterpart to their "preaching", if you stop and think about it.
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the next time this happens just say "I killed mufasa" and then go back to your business...it ends whatever they were talking about
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Solitude is beautiful. I'm an introvert too, and also have discovered that part of that is due to some mental "illness."
But it is terrifyingly maddening when people try to tell you what you're like on the inside, isn't it? I mean how would they know? No one has ever taken another person's body/soul for a spin around the block!
Silly people are silly.
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I find it funny when people try to psychoanalyze me, I did that to myself ages ago (which is exactly why I now have deep seated self-esteem issues and depression, cause my analysis revealed a person that I despise), they can try to analyze all they want, but I studied some psychology too, so they aren't saying ANYTHING I don't already know about myself
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I can feel you, self-psychoanalysis is something I do every day. Been through depression and a ton of issues too. But you don't have to be the same person for all your life, people change. I have managed changing the parts of mine I hated, so I guess others can too (maybe not everyone, but it's not impossible if you actually want it-which isn't always as easy as it sounds). I pick one bad treat (the one I think the worst) and work on it-it may take days or years, but in the end I change into someone I like more. It hurt a lot when I started, more than the problems themselves, confronting myself was painful-and needed a lot of patience-but now it's much easier. The first hard part was to accept the existence of the bad stuff. And maybe the hardest was to find ways to forgive oneself for past mistakes, and for not being perfect...I can't know how things work inside you, I don't even know your situation or if you want changes, but depression is a real biatch, so I wanted to share my experience of working things out
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XD I have nothing to say to the 'stupid' that was rolling off that page from a fictional character.
/Palm-Forehead
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I'm annoyed too when people try to play psycho-annalist with me. I have a good enough doctor as is. I don't need another.
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There's introverted, where people like to hang out with others, but it tires them. Then there's REALLY introverted where I CAN hang out with people, SOMETIMES I enjoy it, but 99.9% of the time, I want to be left alone. I can hang out with others if I have to, and as long as I have time to recover, then I'm okay. But it doesn't mean I like it.
And all of us have aspects of both genders. That's why gender steryotypes piss off so many people. My BF loves cooking and watching MLP (which I introduced him to. Yes, we're both bronies [or brony and pegasister, I guess]). I would wear my hoodie year round if I didn't have to worry about heat exhaustion. For some, the different sides are a bit more pronounced.
And if only nasty, non-compassionate people need to "recharge" then why does everyone sleep? Why don't all the positive people just stay awake and hang out with others around the clock? And it that to say that introverts are horrible people? Nothing about your actupuncturist's comment makes sense....
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introverts do not typically mean "shy" it just means that you don't really "like" people as in you get kinda tired or something after interacting with humans too much as you said "me time to recharge"
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I'm INFJ so yeah, so being an introvert isn't all that different
But, I'll admit part of my quietness is just me being afraid of being judged. I know I don't always have opinions people will like/agree with/understand and if I feel a conversation about them will go nowhere I just keep my mouth shut. XP
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Ugh, I hate it when this happens -_- good thing I don't go out much and when I do people don't see me, like, literally, I must be invisible or something. Maybe I should rob a bank haha, anyway, this comic is amazing I can identify with it in so many ways and I love your art style, so free and emotive~ : 3
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I am a extrovert...most of the time. I can be clueless or at least seem to be (Sometimes I instinctively know more then you think). But always eager to help a friend. However I do have that need to be independent and left alone at times.
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I wonder why so many people jump to stupid conclusions like that.... hn
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I can't help but think of both Nappa and Vegeta from Dragon Ball Z Abridged
www.youtube.com/watch?v=i84Uiu…
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I really don't get why it's hard for people to take it seriously when you say you're introverted. It's a fundamental personality trait, so what?
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she OBVIOUSLY knows more about you than you do yourself right?
this happens to me too many times more than i can count....
also what do you mean with male side and "dressing like a boy"?
i don't make the distinctions really. to me, guys' clothing is just as wearable to anyone of both genders really.
trust me when i say it's overrated =_=
i favor comfort over fashion, who the hell cares about appealing to a god damned system that already gobbles you up and spits you out?
Society's not gonna give a shit weather i even try to meet with it's standards or not so fuck it
i wear what makes me feel comfortable
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Actually,society may give you attention and acceptance, but if you're not yourself it won't be the part of society that fits you. It'll be an empty and sad situation. Some actually like the celebrity lifestyle, good for them. I want to wear "boy clothes" and hang out with nerds to feel good, so that's what I do. The system works only when we abide by it.
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no it's not acceptance.
at least not true acceptance
it's exactly what you said but mislabeled because the very meaning of acceptance is just what it is
if you're not yourself, it's not accepting you.
it's conditional
it's a paradox no matter how you look at it.
and yes, some people prefer illusion to despair
as you said. good for them
i can respect that, but again, it's untrue, unfaithful, conditional, treasonous, empty, sad and soul crushing, it'll eventually come back to bite you in the ass
i can tell you this "normal gets you no where"
keep that phrase in mind
if you want to wear "boy clothes" because they are more comfortable, because they look better on you, or just plain because you like them, then by all means DO SO.
i guarantee you it will make you happier than doing something you don't like for jerks' sake who don't even appreciate your sacrifice and criticize you for doing what you like or wearing what you like
and don't call yourself nerdy...bad habit
you like what you like it's not something to be labeled
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I like how your writing looks like a poem
Society can't read your brain, so it only accepts (or not) what they see. If it's true or not is up to you 
When I said about people who are into lifestyle, I meant there are people who feel that fashion is full of color and creativity, or that celebrity gossip is some kind of fun game. You and I don't see it like this, but it matches some peoples' true tastes. Of course, there aren't too many people who are REALLY like this (for most it's just an illusion escape, as you said).
You are right, we shouldn't label our own self 
I tried to be "normal" once. It helped me understand others very much. But I'm never doing it again! 
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oh... really? i do? .////.
i didn't notice, no one ever really told me that
well i consider myself more of a philosopher than a poet...
well i like your art
the art on your channel it's a very nice varied mix of various kinds and each is very impressive
oh not yet it can't =_=
just you wait, eventually lie detectors will be perfected and good bye freedom of thought and speech
(wow i sound like a conspiracy buff XD)
well yes basically so, i just enjoy conversation XD
and yes there's a large variety of communities, social stigmas and divisions, each with their own setting and people to be inquired in.
i still say that's unadvised.
i glorify the individual. the individual is amazing.
i don't pay much attention to labels or names or groups of people
because people in groups have a hive mind entity and are normally forced to think only within the hive of the group, normally being forbidden to think outside of it, otherwise they are eventually considered outsiders or are eventually left behind.
with groups, people soon enough start wearing little hats, matching uniforms and a list of people they are gonna bother at 3am
so no i'm not that fond of groups sometimes XD
people have a bad habit of dividing people into categories, groups and labels.
"oh hey you have this personality? or have these interests? then you are a jock/ you are a nerd/ you are a hipster"
no... i don't like that, then there's: "the black community"; "the gay community"; "the gamer community" (and so on)
see i don't feel that's smart in the least
its a sort of division and us, as one specie entirely, should be avoided.
people wanting equality and preaching it, should avoid division, it's a self contradiction doncha think? XD
"When I said about people who are into lifestyle, I meant there are people who feel that fashion is full of color and creativity, or that celebrity gossip is some kind of fun game. You and I don't see it like this, but it matches some peoples' true tastes. Of course, there aren't too many people who are REALLY like this"
ok see this? this right here? is open mindedness I LOVE THAT!!! i really do! (same with the "nerd" label)
it's great to see it that way too, and yes i consider it as well, i was just speaking of the over glorification of over-sexualization of men, women and children, the "pain is beauty" brand; the consumerism, the zeitgeist, i was referring to all that. the aspects of it that pose danger.
some people are belittled for not being with the latest fads or fashions, are rejected or bullied for so much as so, pressured to even using the term "normal" very often.
you know? the whole "you're not normal if you don't do the latest fads, and not being normal is bad"
and i honestly feel sorry for such blind fools...
not being able to see outside such repetitive cycle is a terrible curse.
oh that is VERY nice, it' nice to know you were able to find people out there who accept you for who you are ^-^
it's really sweet
i'm not telling you not to be normal... just telling you to be yourself or... be who you want to be.
and everyone around you should respect it.
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Wow, that's a long answer!!! I like how much thought you put into this, too 
Seriously you didn't notice??? I was sure you were writing like this on purpose ^_^
Thank you for browsing through my gallery, I'm happy you liked it so much
I also took a look at your own, great work on the Pokemon pieces! (The"welcome" poster needed more likes by the way)
I think you can't read everyone's minds at the same time (too much info), and we've reached an age that most people just want to be heard anyway (especially the stupid ones lol), so I don't think mind-reading could do huge harm. Getting into our brains? The massive brainwashing of the market shows plain psychology can do the trick already. If you're talking about extracting info from certain people, there's already the ability to trap phones, or to have secret surveillance. On the other side, though, if a brain-reading technology was used properly, it could boost greatly the understanding between people. I'm not supporting it, just saying it may not worsen things that much after all. (Assuming the conspiracy comes true! XD )
"...people soon enough start wearing little hats, matching uniforms and a list of people they are gonna bother at 3am" That made me laugh XDDDDDD
I think I'm starting to get your point. I do believe there is a difference between being in a team and being caged by a label. Humans by themselves are relevantly weak and can't easily sustain daily needs, that's why they work in teams. If you enjoy videogames and want to learn more about them, also supporting their production, you'll join a gamer society. This doesn't mean you can't leave whenever you want, or that you have to be labelled as someone who only loves games. The problem starts when the team turns into a cult, asking you to prioritize the team, by leaving your individuality behind. Not every team is like that. Also, I don't think there is something bad in letting people know your interests-it is part of being yourself. Hiding them is the problem.
You are so right about the over-sexualization issue! Sometimes I think we forget we have brains too (as a society, I mean). It is sad to watch.
I hope you have people who accept you, too. Everyone should know such people ^_^
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ah yes well you see i love to be proven wrong, to consider other views, to see stuff with different eyes
those conversations that are always at it XD
"it's this and here's the reason why!"
"counter view! and HERE's the reason why"
i like that so yes, i'm quite enthusiastic XD
and no i swear i didn't...
you're the first to bring that up, i mean i don't even rhyme or anything how is this considered poetry in any way? .///.
thank YOU for browsing through mine ^///^
not many take the time to do so. and yes "Welcome" is a work in progress to which i hope i can make real some day
aaaah so we have a pokemon fan here do we?
thank you i just made what i thought would be a team that fit each of the characters well^-^
oh trust me it would XD
virtually NO FREEDOM at all... i'd say it'd be quite problematic
should anyone want that machine to be used on certain specific people, they'd know their privates their unmentionables their embarrassing history, all of it.
imagine that being used for job interviews.
oh yeah, bothering at 3am; trying to convert; trying to shut off and or out of society entirely; trying to exterminate.... and so on (not so funny now huh? 
exactly, i agree with you there completely on the group thing, your side is one i considered, and even see daily, which is sweet really.
i do have various people who we share mutual respect with. too bad not everyone who needs it has someone and some people who don't deserve and don't appreciate it, are surrounded by them
oh... maybe we should switch this to notes just so we don't flood Deviantart don't you think?
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You have a point about the notes, I'm sending you
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Put how I feel most days in to words perfectly. ^^
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I say... Muffins. It's the answer to EVERYTHING!
...
Muffins I said...
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No, I understand your innermost thoughts, not you!
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Hahah I'm now jealous of my thoughts
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Aww, hahah, those disloyal thoughts!
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You know...you just described me perfectly....you have gained So much respect...you know what is the funniest part ? you already had my respect XD
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