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No doubt this will be my most controversial stamp, but you know what? I don’t care. This is something that’s been eating at me for quite some time, and I need to get this off of my chest. So, please bear with me as I explain why I made it.
First off, let me clarify some things in case anyone gets the wrong idea
#1: I am not doing this for attention.
I couldn’t care less if people don’t comment on it. I’m doing this merely to vent because I am at the end of my rope. I cannot take this crap any longer.
#2: This is not aimed at people who have busy lives and cannot come on here very often.
I am fully aware of people having to take care of life at home and even work. That’s perfectly understandable. I would never dare demand someone actually put something important on hold just to come on for my sake.
However, if they can come on for 1-3 hours, and they spend that entire session talking their OTHER close friends and shun me or merely give me the last scraps of their time, as if that’s all I’m good for, that is where I draw the line. I believe in giving nearly equal time to all of those who you call a good/close friend because… nobody likes to feel unwanted or underappreciated.
#3: I am not demanding to be the center of attention or even their favorite of those they enjoy talking to.
If they have friends they enjoy talking to more than me, I’m perfectly cool with that, but is it so much to ask I get a fair portion of that time? I for one don’t think so.
You know, this doesn't bother that much when it’s with casual friends because you know… someone you chat with off and on isn't considered close to you. When it happens with a good friend, I feel a bit irritated then because this shouldn't happen even with someone you consider a good friend.But when it happens with a close friend, with someone who says I’m important to them and they wouldn’t want to lose me, I’m heavily offended. No scratch that, I’m deeply wounded emotionally. How could any of you dare say you value me or anyone else as a friend and then intentionally ignore them? You’re basically implying they’re expendable to you because if someone is important to you, YOU TALK TO THEM… DAILY WHEN POSSIBLE!
For those who haven’t done this to me or anyone else for that matter, and you know if you haven’t, then congrats. You’re a genuine friend to people in my book. You should be commended. However, if you have, and you know if you have, then you ought to be ashamed of yourself. You have no excuse for this. And don’t any of you dare give that BS about you don’t have time to talk to every important friend you have. That is complete crap. If you have time to do 30 minutes or even 3 hours of RP’s, chats or whatever with someone, then you can spend a part of that time making all of your friends you value feel you care about them. You make time for who you value most.
I only have one thing to say to those so called close friends who have jerked me around so callously: Get out of my life. No, I’m serious, get the heck out of my life and don’t ever show your sorry self to me again! To think I bent over backwards, made you feel important, used MY points to get you some nice gift art and even stayed up many night writing messages to you because I didn’t want you to feel ignored, and THIS is the thanks I get? You make me sick! Well, fine! If that’s how you want to play, I’ll gladly treat you the same way you treated me. Let’s see how YOU like being treated as expendable and non-existent!
I really ought to call you all out personally on this here, but that would not only be against DA rules, but make me look just as bad as well. So, I won't. And like I said, I’m merely doing this to vent my frustration.
In conclusion, if what I have written has offended you, I’m sorry, but I had to do this. I’m sick and tired of getting steamed up about this over and over and over. And for those who will scold me saying that I’m caring way too much about this place and should get a life… you’re probably right. I probably do care too much, but that’s only because that’s how much I value the close friends I made on here, and to have several of them just treat me with such disdain… it hurts me deeply.
I never thought they would do this to me. I thought they were too genuine and sincere to ever pull such a low stunt, but I guess I was wrong about them.
Anyhow, if you want to leave a personal comment about this, especially if this kind of thing has happened to you too, then feel free to, but don’t even think about flaming me for this. I will not only hide it, I will block you. I’m in no mood for harsh rebukes.
I’m ok with constructive criticism, as long as it’s done politely. I’m all for helpful advice about this because I know what I’m doing isn’t exactly healthy.
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Comments: 428
SonicSatamX93 In reply to ??? [2015-01-31 07:05:39 +0000 UTC]
Nice to know you won't let anyone push you around either Savannah.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-02-02 00:39:25 +0000 UTC]
Apparently im weak and do let people push me around XD
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-02-02 03:56:29 +0000 UTC]
Aww... I'm sorry they do that to you, Savannah.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-02-03 01:29:23 +0000 UTC]
I was being sarcastic xD
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-02-03 06:44:31 +0000 UTC]
Ah, right...
LOL You'll have to excuse my naiveness, but I'm not very good at telling when someone is joking or being serious.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-02-04 02:07:15 +0000 UTC]
No it's okay i said it in a completely serious tone and how are you supposed to detect sarcasm online? It's not your fault at all dear~
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-02-04 12:48:48 +0000 UTC]
True... but still, I should have kinda sensed you were kidding around.
Guess I gotta read between the lines more.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-02-04 23:55:05 +0000 UTC]
IT"S OKAY
*pet pet pet pet pepteptpepetpetpep*
i gotta be more straight forward xD
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-02-05 01:41:54 +0000 UTC]
^^ Aww... that's so cute. Thanks, my friend.
Well, it's ok if you want to kid around. Just give me a hint when you are, ok?
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-02-06 06:31:15 +0000 UTC]
you're welcome c:
yes okay i will xD
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-02-06 10:51:00 +0000 UTC]
^^ Awesome. Heh, I'm pretty transparent when I'm kidding around, so you should be able to tell when I am for the most part.
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-02-08 00:46:52 +0000 UTC]
I wouldn't have called you a cute lil booger unless I was just playfully teasing, my friend.
That's just who I am.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-02-08 23:49:00 +0000 UTC]
LOOL i understand that of course x3~
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-02-09 07:13:44 +0000 UTC]
So, did you like it when I called you that?
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-02-11 01:23:17 +0000 UTC]
You know, when I called you a cute lil booger.
Did you like that name I gave you?
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-02-12 00:28:33 +0000 UTC]
Sure why not xD sorry the way you said it confused me i was like... did i miss something xD
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-02-12 05:08:39 +0000 UTC]
It's ok. Yea, sometimes I can confuse my friends when talking with them.
I guess I gotta be as clear as I can so there's no misunderstanding.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-02-13 23:09:52 +0000 UTC]
*pats* it's life and it's hard to tell on the internet so not your fault
It's okay just relax c:
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-02-14 04:47:51 +0000 UTC]
Thanks for the pat. I appreciate it.
^^ Ok then. I'll do that.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-02-14 22:46:10 +0000 UTC]
Hehehe xD im glad it didnt freak you out
c: i feel like somethings wrong and you hasnt told me about it D:
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-02-15 05:38:23 +0000 UTC]
^^ Why would I freak out? You're my best friend, Savannah. Best friends are supposed to treat each other like this.
What do you mean? Am I giving off a bad vibe or something?
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-02-16 01:46:25 +0000 UTC]
I dunno haha ^^'
no you just seemed very sad now i know why
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-02-16 11:43:05 +0000 UTC]
^^ Let's just say I cherish you even more as my best friend when you treat me this good, Savannah.
Yea... I guess it's something I have to learn to accept. People let you down, even those you care alot about.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-02-16 14:58:46 +0000 UTC]
Awee well im surely glad you think i treat you good cause i try!~
I understand the feeling but aye not all things are bad ^^
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-02-17 00:37:14 +0000 UTC]
I feel I can trust you with pretty much anything, like I would a family member.
No, they're not all bad. I have friends like you and Sparks, so that's a plus. Still... I've officially reached my fill with these people. They're not but heartbreakers. Or leeches I should say. They suck the life out of you for the fun of it.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-02-18 00:19:43 +0000 UTC]
Im so glad you feel that way <3~ c: that makes me happy
Im glad you have us two to help you out c: if we can
oh boy i understand.... i really do :c im sorry this is happening
in reply to your "can i see the doodle of her" yes you surely can as soon as im done with it, i decided to go ahead and color her ^^'
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-02-18 02:01:44 +0000 UTC]
Good. I like you seeing you happy, my friend.
Yea, it sucks... but meh, guess that's life. For every diamond, there's a 1,000 turds.
^^ Awesome. I can't wait to see it.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-02-18 04:02:13 +0000 UTC]
I like seeing you happy too c:
Haha yea... you're right but oh well ya know life moves on c: ive
been lucky to find alot of amazing people im pretty honored
i cant wait to show you! i should be doing request but i wanted to give huntress some attention c:
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-02-18 11:28:10 +0000 UTC]
^^ Well, I'm happier when I get to spend time with you on here, Savannah. I'm glad you have found some really good friends. You deserve them for all the kindness you give everyone.
That's fine. You give the Huntress as much attention as you see fit.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-02-19 01:52:26 +0000 UTC]
awee thanks!
im glad i found some kind patient ones too im lucky to have them ;A;
awee of course i will she's my character
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-02-19 08:26:36 +0000 UTC]
^^ You're welcome, Savannah. The pleasure's all mine. You sure are. I'm so glad I got to know when I did.
That is true... well, then you do what you do best with her, my friend.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-02-19 10:19:27 +0000 UTC]
Awee hehe
I feel the same way as you c:
Haha.... ha.... poor huntress she deserves better than me xD ik that sounds weird but ix true
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-02-19 13:39:14 +0000 UTC]
^^ I wish I had known about you sooner, Savannah.
Nah, you just care about your character is all. And you should. So, just give her the love you feel she needs.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-02-20 07:49:47 +0000 UTC]
awee well im here now :3 haha xD
yes i do shes part of me, i surely try haha
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-02-20 11:24:44 +0000 UTC]
^^ True, and that makes me very happy, my friend. Savannah the Huntress deserves your best care as far as I'm concerned.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-02-21 10:12:29 +0000 UTC]
Im glad it makes you happy
aweee i totally agree and such c:
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-02-22 01:00:31 +0000 UTC]
You always make me happy when I get to spend time with you, Savannah.
^^ I look forward to seeing what you do with her in the near future.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-02-22 06:40:56 +0000 UTC]
Awee c: im glad to hear that ;w;
and ill try... xD
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-02-22 12:24:14 +0000 UTC]
^^ I hope we can only spend more time online, Savannah. I know you will. I trust you on that.
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HuntressCuddlez In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2015-02-23 10:30:08 +0000 UTC]
Me too i hope i can get back on schedule c: but as usual im up late at night typing to my friends late i iz failure
Aweee c: hehe
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to HuntressCuddlez [2015-02-23 12:41:28 +0000 UTC]
I'm sure you will, Savannah. You'e a smart girl.
Naww... you're not a failure. You're just someone who really cares.
^^
Anyway, I sadly need to get to bed now, so I'll answer your other messages as soon as I can, ok? Have a good night.
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FunnelVortex In reply to ??? [2014-09-24 03:02:27 +0000 UTC]
I wholeheartedly agree with this. Especially after the girl I told you about.
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to FunnelVortex [2014-09-24 09:03:28 +0000 UTC]
Yea, i know. You told me about her.
I'm really sorry about that, dude.
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FunnelVortex In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-09-24 15:39:22 +0000 UTC]
Apparently she is unhappy with how "I treat her as a friend..." How the F does she expect me to treat her? Like almighty Royal majesty the queen? I recall I have always treated her quite well. However I was not afraid to talk some sense into her when she acted up. I treat everyone I like as friends. And is that REALLY such a bad thing? Is she really begging to be worshipped?
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to FunnelVortex [2014-09-24 23:51:05 +0000 UTC]
Well, you're always supposed to treat someone you're dating better than the rest. That's just common courtesy. You wouldn't want a girlfriend treating her other friends better than you, right?
But yea, knowing how awful she is now, I think she was just a whiny brat wanting to be the center of attention. You're better off without her.
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FunnelVortex In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-09-25 00:02:44 +0000 UTC]
The thing is I did treat her very well... But pubically I treat everyone I like the same in general.
I would have treated her even more so, but the way she acted toward me and how she acted in general made it kinda difficult to enjoy talking to her often and such.
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SonicSatamX93 In reply to FunnelVortex [2014-09-25 03:52:41 +0000 UTC]
Ok then. I believe you.
What do you mean by that exactly?
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FunnelVortex In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-09-25 03:53:58 +0000 UTC]
What do I mean by what?
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