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Published: 2014-09-14 12:04:45 +0000 UTC; Views: 15040; Favourites: 54; Downloads: 0
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No doubt this will be my most controversial stamp, but you know what? I don’t care. This is something that’s been eating at me for quite some time, and I need to get this off of my chest. So, please bear with me as I explain why I made it.

First off, let me clarify some things in case anyone gets the wrong idea


#1: I am not doing this for attention.

I couldn’t care less if people don’t comment on it. I’m doing this merely to vent because I am at the end of my rope. I cannot take this crap any longer.


#2: This is not aimed at people who have busy lives and cannot come on here very often.

 I am fully aware of people having to take care of life at home and even work. That’s perfectly understandable. I would never dare demand someone actually put something important on hold just to come on for my sake.

However, if they can come on for 1-3 hours, and they spend that entire session talking their OTHER close friends and shun me or merely give me the last scraps of their time, as if that’s all I’m good for, that is where I draw the line. I believe in giving nearly equal time to all of those who you call a good/close friend because… nobody likes to feel unwanted or underappreciated.


#3: I am not demanding to be the center of attention or even their favorite of those they enjoy talking to.

 If they have friends they enjoy talking to more than me, I’m perfectly cool with that, but is it so much to ask I get a fair portion of that time? I for one don’t think so.

You know, this doesn't bother that much when it’s with casual friends because you know… someone you chat with off and on isn't considered close to you. When it happens with a good friend, I feel a bit irritated then because this shouldn't happen even with someone you consider a good friend.But when it happens with a close friend, with someone who says I’m important to them and they wouldn’t want to lose me, I’m heavily offended.  No scratch that, I’m deeply wounded emotionally. How could any of you dare say you value me or anyone else as a friend and then intentionally ignore them? You’re basically implying they’re expendable to you because if someone is important to you, YOU TALK TO THEM… DAILY WHEN POSSIBLE!

For those who haven’t done this to me or anyone else for that matter, and you know if you haven’t, then congrats. You’re a genuine friend to people in my book. You should be commended. However, if you have, and you know if you have, then you ought to be ashamed of yourself. You have no excuse for this. And don’t any of you dare give that BS about you don’t have time to talk to every important friend you have. That is complete crap. If you have time to do 30 minutes or even 3 hours of RP’s, chats or whatever with someone, then you can spend a part of that time making all of your friends you value feel you care about them. You make time for who you value most. 


I only have one thing to say to those so called close friends who have jerked me around so callously: Get out of my life. No, I’m serious, get the heck out of my life and don’t ever show your sorry self to me again! To think I bent over backwards, made you feel important, used MY points to get you some nice gift art and even stayed up many night writing messages to you because I didn’t want you to feel ignored, and THIS is the thanks I get? You make me sick! Well, fine! If that’s how you want to play, I’ll gladly treat you the same way you treated me. Let’s see how YOU like being treated as expendable and non-existent!

I really ought to call you all out personally on this here, but that would not only be against DA rules, but make me look just as bad as well. So, I won't. And like I said, I’m merely doing this to vent my frustration.


In conclusion, if what I have written has offended you, I’m sorry, but I had to do this. I’m sick and tired of getting steamed up about this over and over and over. And for those who will scold me saying that I’m caring way too much about this place and should get a life… you’re probably right. I probably do care too much, but that’s only because that’s how much I value the close friends I made on here, and to have several of them just treat me with such disdain… it hurts me deeply.

I never thought they would do this to me. I thought they were too genuine and sincere to ever pull such a low stunt, but I guess I was wrong about them.

Anyhow, if you want to leave a personal comment about this, especially if this kind of thing has happened to you too, then feel free to, but don’t even think about flaming me for this. I will not only hide it, I will block you. I’m in no mood for harsh rebukes.

I’m ok with constructive criticism, as long as it’s done politely. I’m all for helpful advice about this because I know what I’m doing isn’t exactly healthy.

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Comments: 428

SonicSatamX93 In reply to ??? [2014-09-25 04:30:41 +0000 UTC]

You said she made it hard for you to treat her well.

How so?

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FunnelVortex In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-09-25 04:40:02 +0000 UTC]

She treated me like crap. She abused my characters in RPs constantly and even publicly heavily implied that she hated them. She even refused to talk to me for a while, she just kept moaning and groaning at me every time I tried to speak with her. On top of this, she would have constant attitude spikes where she would get all unlikable and have tantrums. 

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SonicSatamX93 In reply to FunnelVortex [2014-09-25 10:24:59 +0000 UTC]

Wow...

Dude, I'm surprised you put up with it for that long. I would have given her an ultimatum after this went on for a week or so. I don't tolerate being jerked around, especially intentionally.

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FunnelVortex In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-09-25 11:11:20 +0000 UTC]

And recently I asked her if she just wanted to be friends. But she made a false and stupid accusation of me "begging" her. But this was literally the first time I hVe asked her if something in a while.

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SonicSatamX93 In reply to FunnelVortex [2014-09-25 23:05:31 +0000 UTC]

I strongly suggest you block her. She's just being a total bi*** now. 

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FunnelVortex In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-09-25 23:09:20 +0000 UTC]

She is. She is not a bad Sonic fan, shes just a bad person alltogether. 

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SonicSatamX93 In reply to FunnelVortex [2014-09-26 04:11:17 +0000 UTC]

No kidding she is...

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FunnelVortex In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-09-26 11:04:28 +0000 UTC]

I do not get what's wrong with her.

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SonicSatamX93 In reply to FunnelVortex [2014-09-26 23:12:19 +0000 UTC]

Me neither.

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FunnelVortex In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-09-26 23:15:35 +0000 UTC]

All that I know is that she is a brat. I do not wish to be affiliated with her any longer

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SonicSatamX93 In reply to FunnelVortex [2014-09-26 23:53:02 +0000 UTC]

Good for you, man.

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FunnelVortex In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-09-27 00:06:12 +0000 UTC]

She complained about how our relationship was "rocky", even though most of the bumps in our relationship were a direct result of the BS she gave me. It made it hard for me to return my feelings for her. No wonder she never kept any of her other boyfriends if she treats people this way.

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SonicSatamX93 In reply to FunnelVortex [2014-09-27 02:20:54 +0000 UTC]

Yeesh... talk about a girl with issues.

Why are some females so fickle like that?

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FunnelVortex In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-09-27 02:26:48 +0000 UTC]

You tell me dude.

screw her.

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SonicSatamX93 In reply to FunnelVortex [2014-09-27 06:08:29 +0000 UTC]

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FunnelVortex In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-09-27 13:05:20 +0000 UTC]

She also has a bajillion phobias, disorders, and conditions. 

My problem with her here is that she refuses to take any time or effort to fix them or treat them. 

She has a bajillion phobias and she is also schizophrenic. So I keep telling her she needs therapy, but she always responds with a smug response basically saying "Ha, I don't need therapy." She usually includes some lousy explaination to why she doesn't go into therapy afterwards (which changes every time).

Honestly, it's like she hardly cares at all about her health or mental state. 

She hardly cares about her health, mental health, or well being. 

What at does that tell you?

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SonicSatamX93 In reply to FunnelVortex [2014-09-28 00:51:22 +0000 UTC]

Yeesh... Dude, what did you ever see in her?

She sounds like a really messed up person. And that wouldn't be so bad if she had a good heart, but she doesn't. 

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FunnelVortex In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-09-28 01:18:35 +0000 UTC]

I don't know.

But I know about her IRL behavior, she told me. She acts like a stupid, defiant, and cocky brat IRL.

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SonicSatamX93 In reply to FunnelVortex [2014-09-28 06:55:26 +0000 UTC]

And she's not ashamed of that?

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FunnelVortex In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-09-28 12:01:04 +0000 UTC]

Nope. She's not at all.

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SonicSatamX93 In reply to FunnelVortex [2014-09-28 12:39:19 +0000 UTC]

Bummer...

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FunnelVortex In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-09-28 12:40:08 +0000 UTC]

I have no idea what I saw in her

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SonicSatamX93 In reply to FunnelVortex [2014-09-28 12:52:58 +0000 UTC]

Same here. I think I would have avoided her like the plague.

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FunnelVortex In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-09-28 13:01:54 +0000 UTC]

I probably should have. She treated me like crap. And I think she used me.

She also doesn't care about herself or others.

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SonicSatamX93 In reply to FunnelVortex [2014-09-28 22:58:57 +0000 UTC]

What a horrible person she is...

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FunnelVortex In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-09-28 23:03:39 +0000 UTC]

She really is. I am actually good friends with her BFF (who is actually a better person), and I want to get her AWAY from her. 

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SonicSatamX93 In reply to FunnelVortex [2014-09-29 01:26:24 +0000 UTC]

Yea, that does suck I have to say.

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FunnelVortex In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-09-29 01:29:35 +0000 UTC]

I really want to get her BFF away from her. She deserves better.

Her BFF is actually quite aware on her horrible behavior. SOmething tells me they wont be friends for much longer.

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SonicSatamX93 In reply to FunnelVortex [2014-09-29 02:10:50 +0000 UTC]

Well, just be patient. Let her make this decision on her own.

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FunnelVortex In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-09-29 02:15:03 +0000 UTC]

Something tells me that she will make it soon. From what I have heard, she admits to the horrible person her friend is turning into.

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SonicSatamX93 In reply to FunnelVortex [2014-09-29 11:08:00 +0000 UTC]

Yea, that is not a good sign.

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FunnelVortex In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-09-29 11:18:24 +0000 UTC]

It isn't. 

Shes just so shameful.

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SonicSatamX93 In reply to FunnelVortex [2014-09-29 12:16:44 +0000 UTC]

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FunnelVortex In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-09-29 12:46:27 +0000 UTC]

I hate her now

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SonicSatamX93 In reply to FunnelVortex [2014-09-30 00:09:06 +0000 UTC]

I understand, man. 

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FunnelVortex In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-09-30 00:14:58 +0000 UTC]

I just do...

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SonicSatamX93 In reply to FunnelVortex [2014-09-30 02:41:59 +0000 UTC]

Well, try not to dwell on it too much. You only hurt yourself holding a grudge.

I'm a sad witness to that unfortunately.

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FunnelVortex In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-09-30 02:43:54 +0000 UTC]

But I'll never like her again... And I feel sorry for the next guy she dates.

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SonicSatamX93 In reply to FunnelVortex [2014-09-30 02:55:44 +0000 UTC]

Fair enough.

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FunnelVortex In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-09-30 03:01:28 +0000 UTC]

She's shameful 

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SonicSatamX93 In reply to FunnelVortex [2014-09-30 11:00:11 +0000 UTC]

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FunnelVortex In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-09-30 11:15:39 +0000 UTC]

Some people 

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r-williams In reply to ??? [2014-09-16 02:08:15 +0000 UTC]

What hurts the most? people who randomly stop talking to you for no reason?
Is that what you're getting so worked up over?


Some people on here, let popularity get way over their heads. If that's the case they're not worth it.

Sorry to hear it's more than one though

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SonicSatamX93 In reply to r-williams [2014-09-16 03:33:57 +0000 UTC]

What hurts most? Being lied to by people I trusted. Being told that I'm important, that they value me, that they'd hate to lose me, and then they ignore me most of the day, or for days on end for that matter while chatting frequently with their OTHER good friends.

Yea... I'm REALLY important to them, aren't I?

Ironically, it's not popular people who have upset me, at least not that often. It's friends I thought who were a person of their word, that they meant what they said and said what they meant.

I guess you really cannot trust that many people anymore. They're fickle to the core.

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r-williams In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-10-26 16:39:12 +0000 UTC]

Yea, that is pretty crappy.
I hope they're not intentionally ignoring you, if they said you were important to them
Unfortunately people are like that, they are fickle when it comes to friends..

I'd leave it to them if I was you besides you could be getting it all wrong. Just be careful who you friend next time.


Hopefully they did mean what they said, I can imagine when your friends have best friends on here, it must make you feel left out.


No, you certainly can't trust everyone, that is one thing you are absolutely correct about.

I'm sure the people who commented/acknowledged  on these stamps are proof they like you alot. 

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SonicSatamX93 In reply to r-williams [2014-10-27 05:37:16 +0000 UTC]

I think they are intentionally ignoring me, but using the excuse they're too busy or unintentionally allow their messages to pile up due to procrastination.

I personally don't buy it, but then again, I haven't walked a day in their shoes, so I suppose I shouldn't judge until I have.

Oh yea... I'm not asking for special treatment or anything. I just want them to pay some attention to me, to show they really care. Is that really asking too much?

I don't know... I have my doubts I can trust everyone who left me a comment. For all I know, some only said that because they have a guilty conscience. 

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r-williams In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-11-08 00:23:34 +0000 UTC]

Really? why do you think that.
If they're good friends with you, that probably isn't true, either that or they don't really think of you as a true friend.
When you are flooded with messages, it can be overwhelming. Unfortunately some folks, do not have much time to be online, talking to their friends they've met.


I don't know what to say, since I haven't been in their shoes either. These people could be complete jerks. But you know them more, so guess you're the better judge here.


Nah, it's not asking too much, depending on the individual.
Hopefully you're misunderstanding them all You're just worrying too much.

They probably have school or work that takes much of their time.


Maybe. But let's not jump to those conclusions, you may ruin the friendship you have with these guys.

Those that didn't reply, are the ones you should be more doubtful with. Unless they talk to you on skype daily.



 

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SonicSatamX93 In reply to r-williams [2014-11-08 01:47:57 +0000 UTC]

Yea, true... they might not have time to answer them. But I have said in the past, you make time for those you care most about. So, unless they're just sadly too busy to respond, then it shows just how little I mean to them.

Well, I'm not a great judge of people's motives when they do something, so I could be completely wrong about this. Honestly, I hope I am because at least then I would see I worried over nothing.

I guess... eh, maybe I care too much about this site. I mean, I should be using Skype to do most of my chatting anyway. I hope you'll go on there sometime, cause I'd love to chat with you on there. It's alot of fun, especially with a webcam.

True... the ones who couldn't even bother to give me a response are the ones that probably are the biggest offenders. Although, for some reason, I take more offense at people leaving a comment and then their actions don't back it up. I mean, I can handle people disliking me if they're honest about it, but when they lie or change on me?

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r-williams In reply to SonicSatamX93 [2014-11-09 01:27:24 +0000 UTC]

I suppose they could make arrangements if you told them how you feel.
So that's why you worried about being seen as a boring person a few months back?
True, especially if they have no excuse to not be able to talk to you more often.
Well, i'm not that busy at the moment. Put different time zones are a challenge..
In the week mum is at work most of the day, so have alot of free time during the day.
I'm working on a PC at the moment, and not the best at multitasking.. lol


Motives for what? Maybe some watch you for crap like free points or along those lines. I hate people that beg for points,for one they're pretty much worthless the best of times.
One time some random person watched me, asked for a request, then un watched me lol that wasn't very nice.. he didn't even favourite it or say at least thanks. It was just "cool"
So you probably have the right to worry about these type of things.


So you're leaving DA? It'll be a sad place if you do you're one of a kind.
I know you worry about not fitting on here much, but you fit in just fine. 
I don't have skype, what is it exactly? My brother and sister used it, to chat verbally. Not sure we still have that device, probably do.
Not sure confident enough to chat like that mind. Be really awkward for both of us.Scared of sounding like a  guy..ew. Then again your voice might be weird too.
Don't konw about webcam. It might be embarrassing in this household. But you could use it. 
Guess think about it. It could be fun like you said.



They sure are, unless they don't watch you deviations But that defeats the purpose of watching someone.
That would not be very nice if someone told you they disliked you, especially if you talked often. Guess people are just assholes.
Then again bigger assholes if they never liked you in the first place and used you.
That is said when they suddenly change, but sometimes there's much nice people to chat with, if they so easily forget about you..










 

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SonicSatamX93 In reply to r-williams [2014-11-09 06:27:41 +0000 UTC]

Yea, that was why I wrote that poll. I felt they didn't enjoy talking to me and did it less and less because of that. Sure, they said they didn't feel that way, but I still wonder if they really meant that or just said it to make me feel better.

Yea, I can tell our timezones do make a difference, but I appreciate any and all talks you choose to do with me, Rachel. You're a fun one to chat with.

More like their motives for why they do what they do. I just cannot tell because I'm not in their shoes, knowing what they have to deal with and all. 

No, no, I'm not leaving DA. Most of the friends I enjoy talking to would have to be available on Skype first. That and everything else I enjoy on DA is no longer good. For now, I'm not leaving, but down the road? Maybe, and that's a big MAYBE.

Skype is a program you use to chat with people online, whether by text or webcam. It's great when you do it with a close friend. Well, don't worry about it. If you rather not do a webchat, we could do an audio chat. That's still fun.

I know it would be rude, but I can handle rude people who are honest about their intentions rather than someone saying one thing, then doing another. Liars and fakes just anger me alot more.

Like I wrote in a stamp to them, "If you don't like me, just come out and say it! Stop lying to my face!"

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