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Oh boy some of y'all are gonna call me hypocritical. My last status? Literally made me connect the dots in my head and realise things that will be mentioned here. And also, my "ddlg" stamp is also outdated and I'll explain more here. But let's go!

No, I'm not saying teenagers CAN'T have kinks or fetishes. That's stupid. However, just because a teen may have a kink DOES NOT mean they should be participating in kink communties, online or not. A big issue is consent, which teens can not give to adults, no matter how "old they are for their age". It's still pedophilia, manipulation and taking advantage of insecure teens.

There's one kink community infamous for allowing or even promoting minors to partcipate in the kink community, even in subtle ways. The DDLG community.
I know some of you may say "But what about sfw ddlg, like survivors, and it's just some representation of the relationship dynamic??? Like you said before????" I realise now that I was wrong. DDLG IS inherently kink, it's in the name.
No matter how you treat it, it will always mean "Daddy Dom/Little Girl". It uses the idea of a father figure and a child, and sexualizing that and the trust and bond that should be there is gross. To clarify, I know that a ton of people who say they like DDLG actually just like being called baby, calling their partner daddy, collars and cute clothes. I don't have a problem with these people BUT the community they are associating with is not something you want to be known for.
There are many, MANY adults in the community who are pedophiles, and try to treat it as if young teens can totally join because "it's not inherently kinky!" and then the children get groomed. These adults are taking advantage of vulnerable children.
It doesn't help when there are people who can't fathom people NOT WANTING TO SEE THEIR KINK IN OTHER SFW PLACES. Most people wouldn't care if they didn't post ddlg shit in tags like princess, age regression, chire, kidcore and other tags that survivors use whilst coping or in actual age regression. They are and have invaded these tags. People who need to cope can't in fear some kinky fucker posted a hello kitty plush saying "ohhh i want to suck daddies cock owow!".
This also tricks children into thinking it's not inherently kinky, as they see it in tags that should be sfw. It's putting children in danger, and overall making people know about what you do in your PRIVATE time.

Remember when I said I didn't have a problem with a certian part of the community. Here's the part I truely hate. The pedophiles, the people who otherwise wouldn't be pedos that will only fuck their partners if they feel as if they are raping and toddler, and people treating their rape thoughts/being raped thoughts as good and healthy. It's sick, disgusting. Anti-recovery and has hurt people.
When you say "DDLG", these are the people most think of......and can you blame them? The irresponsibility in the community has given them an easy way to take advantage of insecure teens and vulnerable adults. No shit me and others will be against it when it's rampent with pedophiles and allows children to interact directly with them!!!

"Oh god,,,,,,what are some actual sfw terms? I didn't mean to use for us in a sexual way..etc"
It's not your fault if you were fed this. Showing that you can regonise the community is dangerous and disconnecting from it, even if you weren't a part of the problem is brave.
For single-person-use, terms such as "Agere" and "ChiRE" exist, meaning age regression and child regression respectively. They are completely sfw, though there are always toxic people in communities so stay safe.
For describing relationship dynamics, there's the oh-so controversial CGLRE. The thing is CGL means caregiver/little, which is a part of the DDLG spectrum. Though, CGLRE is completely disconnected from that as some feel there's no better way to describe or visualize the relationship when one if age regressing. The issues are obvious.
Other terms have the same issues, those being DXLG, DXLB, etc... These mean "Daddy/Little Girl", it removes any mention of dom/sub sexual relationship and it's mean to represent/visualize when one is regressing. You can see the issues with these too.

I've mentioned several times "represent/visualize the relationship when one is regressing". By this, I mean the caregiving figure the other partner gives to support their partner while they're regressing due to childhood trauma or neurodiversity. It's the comfort someone gives to their partner to help them cope, without the need for romantic things and definitely not sexual things.

I know I may get nasty comments by both those who strongly support the DDLG community and strongly hate the DDLG community. But I don't care.
I know where people are coming from and their concerns are valid, especially as a childhood sexually assault (csa) survivor myself. Keep children and teens safe and out of kink communities.

And like, destory the ddlg community. The amount of issues-good ratio it's caused is extremely one sided, and it's too the left.

Please do not use this piece if you are a;
Terf, Swerf, Ace Exclusionist, Transmed/Truscum, Nazi, (No)map, anti-anti etc, or intend to make fun of it

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Description

Oh boy some of y'all are gonna call me hypocritical. My last status? Literally made me connect the dots in my head and realise things that will be mentioned here. And also, my "ddlg" stamp is also outdated and I'll explain more here. But let's go!

No, I'm not saying teenagers CAN'T have kinks or fetishes. That's stupid. However, just because a teen may have a kink DOES NOT mean they should be participating in kink communties, online or not. A big issue is consent, which teens can not give to adults, no matter how "old they are for their age". It's still pedophilia, manipulation and taking advantage of insecure teens.

There's one kink community infamous for allowing or even promoting minors to partcipate in the kink community, even in subtle ways. The DDLG community.
I know some of you may say "But what about sfw ddlg, like survivors, and it's just some representation of the relationship dynamic??? Like you said before????" I realise now that I was wrong. DDLG IS inherently kink, it's in the name.
No matter how you treat it, it will always mean "Daddy Dom/Little Girl". It uses the idea of a father figure and a child, and sexualizing that and the trust and bond that should be there is gross. To clarify, I know that a ton of people who say they like DDLG actually just like being called baby, calling their partner daddy, collars and cute clothes. I don't have a problem with these people BUT the community they are associating with is not something you want to be known for.
There are many, MANY adults in the community who are pedophiles, and try to treat it as if young teens can totally join because "it's not inherently kinky!" and then the children get groomed. These adults are taking advantage of vulnerable children.
It doesn't help when there are people who can't fathom people NOT WANTING TO SEE THEIR KINK IN OTHER SFW PLACES. Most people wouldn't care if they didn't post ddlg shit in tags like princess, age regression, chire, kidcore and other tags that survivors use whilst coping or in actual age regression. They are and have invaded these tags. People who need to cope can't in fear some kinky fucker posted a hello kitty plush saying "ohhh i want to suck daddies cock owow!".
This also tricks children into thinking it's not inherently kinky, as they see it in tags that should be sfw. It's putting children in danger, and overall making people know about what you do in your PRIVATE time.

Remember when I said I didn't have a problem with a certian part of the community. Here's the part I truely hate. The pedophiles, the people who otherwise wouldn't be pedos that will only fuck their partners if they feel as if they are raping and toddler, and people treating their rape thoughts/being raped thoughts as good and healthy. It's sick, disgusting. Anti-recovery and has hurt people.
When you say "DDLG", these are the people most think of......and can you blame them? The irresponsibility in the community has given them an easy way to take advantage of insecure teens and vulnerable adults. No shit me and others will be against it when it's rampent with pedophiles and allows children to interact directly with them!!!

"Oh god,,,,,,what are some actual sfw terms? I didn't mean to use for us in a sexual way..etc"
It's not your fault if you were fed this. Showing that you can regonise the community is dangerous and disconnecting from it, even if you weren't a part of the problem is brave.
For single-person-use, terms such as "Agere" and "ChiRE" exist, meaning age regression and child regression respectively. They are completely sfw, though there are always toxic people in communities so stay safe.
For describing relationship dynamics, there's the oh-so controversial CGLRE. The thing is CGL means caregiver/little, which is a part of the DDLG spectrum. Though, CGLRE is completely disconnected from that as some feel there's no better way to describe or visualize the relationship when one if age regressing. The issues are obvious.
Other terms have the same issues, those being DXLG, DXLB, etc... These mean "Daddy/Little Girl", it removes any mention of dom/sub sexual relationship and it's mean to represent/visualize when one is regressing. You can see the issues with these too.

I've mentioned several times "represent/visualize the relationship when one is regressing". By this, I mean the caregiving figure the other partner gives to support their partner while they're regressing due to childhood trauma or neurodiversity. It's the comfort someone gives to their partner to help them cope, without the need for romantic things and definitely not sexual things.

I know I may get nasty comments by both those who strongly support the DDLG community and strongly hate the DDLG community. But I don't care.
I know where people are coming from and their concerns are valid, especially as a childhood sexually assault (csa) survivor myself. Keep children and teens safe and out of kink communities.

And like, destory the ddlg community. The amount of issues-good ratio it's caused is extremely one sided, and it's too the left.

Please do not use this piece if you are a;
Terf, Swerf, Ace Exclusionist, Transmed/Truscum, Nazi, (No)map, anti-anti etc, or intend to make fun of it

Mini Flag Commissions | Stamp commission info on my page!