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While there is nothing wrong with having biological children, many, if not most, people view adoption as nothing more than a backup plan should “typical methods” of having children fail. Of course if you do not want children at all or you aren't ready for children yet, don't adopt (that's just common sense), but obviously millions of families everywhere want children and many of them are fully capable of adopting, so why are so few of these potential families adopting? In essence, most people think of raising kids as what’s in it for them as parents (happiness, passing on genes, etc.) not about helping a child. Babies are viewed as status symbols. Most people would rather turn their back on a homeless child in favor of making a new child. When confronted, most people respond with predictable and shallow excuses such as “it’s too expensive” (even though DSS is free, and when adopting from somewhere else you don’t know the price until you’ve personally looked into doing it yourself), “adoptive children can have mental difficulties” (even though biological children can have mental difficulties, too), and the age-old “Christian” excuse: “not everyone is called to adopt,” which doesn’t make sense, because everyone is called to help children inside the womb, so why should we turn our backs on them once they’re outside the womb? Also, I must mention: Christians who use the “not called” excuse are basically saying that almost everyone is being specifically called to not adopt, which doesn’t make sense. While of course not everyone is called to adopt, anti-adoption Christians use the “not called” excuse to explain away why almost no families ever choose to even look into adoption. So basically, the “not called” excuse is a fallacy. While the words they’re saying are technically correct, they’re using those words to justify a shocking lack of compassion. They know you can’t argue with the words, but what they’re using those words to justify is sick and twisted. Many, many pregnant mothers who choose to abort do so because they do not want their child to end up in the adoption system. No respectable pro-lifer should turn away from those deaths without a very, very good reason.

What it means to consider adoption:
www.deviantart.com/art/Conside…

This is part of my series of comics featuring cute animals to address common excuses that people use to justify their lack of compassion toward homeless children.

1) Have you considered adoption at all / is adoption too expensive: the-cynical-unicorn.deviantart…
2) Adopting vs. breeding / the consequences of sex: the-cynical-unicorn.deviantart…
3) Who is called to adopt? the-cynical-unicorn.deviantart…
4) Adoption: Someone else's problem? the-cynical-unicorn.deviantart…
5) God adopted: the-cynical-unicorn.deviantart…
6) The public's response to adoption advocates: the-cynical-unicorn.deviantart…
7) Adoption is pro-family and NOT anti-sex: unicornarama.deviantart.com/ar…
8) Are adoption advocates being judgmental? unicornarama.deviantart.com/ar…
9) Red tape: unicornarama.deviantart.com/ar…
10) Does having children give you immortality? unicornarama.deviantart.com/ar…
11) Children are gifts from the Lord: Gifts From God

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"Somebody else will do it."
Just recently, I traveled to see family in another state and go to a wedding. It was a Catholic wedding, so about halfway through, a man went up and read the Prayer of the Faithful, which, in this particular version, had these words in it: "For the poor, the homeless and the unemployed, and for all who suffer under persecution, let us pray to the Lord: Lord hear our prayer." That's a wonderful thing to pray. It acknowledges that there are many men, women, and children who go hungry and without homes or family. If my cousin had this said at his wedding, I thought, that means he's interested in helping those people. Seeing as he and his new wife told me they were looking forward to having a family of their own, maybe they'd adopt a child or two!

Unfortunately, as I was talking to another cousin and an aunt later that week, I heard that the new couple was planning their honeymoon on a tropical island, and that they had searched long and hard to find an island that didn't have the Zika virus. For those who don't know, Zika poses no threat to two healthy adults such as my cousin and his wife. The only reason they'd work hard to avoid it would be if they were planning to get pregnant within a year. My suspicions were backed up later when my cousin told me they were planning to have babies, and not to adopt. After that beautiful prayer at their wedding, my cousin and his wife were deliberately turning their backs on they very people they had "prayed" for. In essence, they might have cared about orphans and homeless children, but they expected somebody else to adopt them. They were sacrificing the well-being of existing children so that they might have theoretical future children. They were sacrificing these homeless children on the altar of their personal biological instincts.

That was a real wake-up call for me. This kind of apathy toward homeless children is all too common throughout the world. People don't want orphans to suffer, but they don't think of them as their responsibility. People everywhere think of orphans as somebody else's problem. Out of sight, out of mind. This is why it's so important that we show the world that adoption, foster care, and the like is everyone's responsibility. Everyone should at least try to help. As one of my friends told me: "Children need homes. Some people have homes and want children. The obvious conclusion: open your home to those children." We need to be a counter-cultural revolution to show the world that adoption is not just for "someone else." If we do nothing, the problems of overfull orphanages and foster cares, rising crime, prostitution, overpopulation, teen pregnancy, and everything related to poor upbringing will only become worse. Eventually it will reach the point where it will be everyone's problem, whether or not we want it. The best and most compassionate thing to do, both for the children and for our society as a whole, is to adopt these children and give them homes, love, parenting, and family.

Only when the world wakes up and realizes that adoption is not just for "someone else" will we start to see a turn for the better.

One thing I feel I must mention is how people think of parenthood as what’s in it for them. "I want a big family, I want a biological baby, I don’t want to deal with mental or physical disabilities, I want adorable offspring, I want to see myself in my child's features, I want to feel a kid squirm around in my uterus, I want to experience birth, I want to play with my wife's pregnant belly, I want to bang my wife every night, I don’t like birth control, I want to watch my children grow from babies to adults, I don’t want court dates for adoption, I don’t want to spend any money unless it's a hospital fee for a birth, I want this, I want that, I, I, I, I, I!" Has anyone stopped to think about what the children want? Have people ever stopped to realize that parenthood is actually not about the parents? Parenthood is supposed to be a loving sacrifice for the CHILDREN. When did people become so self-centered that they forgot that?

Then there are the Christians who want to have biological babies to "share the Gospel with the next generation." Do you see the error in their reasoning? Sharing the Gospel is about helping people come to Christ and be saved. But here's the catch: there are millions of homeless children who need the Gospel, but these "Christians" would rather make a new child and share the Gospel with him/her rather than share the Gospel with a homeless child. See their logic? "You're not my blood, so it’s not my problem if you go to Hell." They'd rather make one rather than help one who already exists go to Heaven. I don't know about you, but that doesn't strike me as a very Christ-like attitude.

I personally believe couples who want children should have 1-2 of their own, maybe 3, (if they want their own children), but after that point, they have already replaced themselves in the population and passed on their genes, so if they want to add more children to their families, then they need to look into adopting. There’s really no excuse. If they qualify and want more children past their population replacement number, and there are children who need families, there’s no excuse. Considering how many couples each year have a 4th or more baby, and the fact that there are more babies born through IVF in the US each year than there are children eligible for adoption in the US, it’s clear that the only reason these children don’t have homes is because people don’t want to help them. There are more than enough qualifying families, and more than enough couples who are desperate to add children to their families. People just don’t want those children. If you have two children already and want more, or if you want children in general, consider adopting.

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While there is nothing wrong with having biological children, many, if not most, people view adoption as nothing more than a backup plan should “typical methods” of having children fail. Of course if you do not want children at all or you aren't ready for children yet, don't adopt (that's just common sense), but obviously millions of families everywhere want children and many of them are fully capable of adopting, so why are so few of these potential families adopting? In essence, most people think of raising kids as what’s in it for them as parents (happiness, passing on genes, etc.) not about helping a child. Babies are viewed as status symbols. Most people would rather turn their back on a homeless child in favor of making a new child. When confronted, most people respond with predictable and shallow excuses such as “it’s too expensive” (even though DSS is free, and when adopting from somewhere else you don’t know the price until you’ve personally looked into doing it yourself), “adoptive children can have mental difficulties” (even though biological children can have mental difficulties, too), and the age-old “Christian” excuse: “not everyone is called to adopt,” which doesn’t make sense, because everyone is called to help children inside the womb, so why should we turn our backs on them once they’re outside the womb? Also, I must mention: Christians who use the “not called” excuse are basically saying that almost everyone is being specifically called to not adopt, which doesn’t make sense. While of course not everyone is called to adopt, anti-adoption Christians use the “not called” excuse to explain away why almost no families ever choose to even look into adoption. So basically, the “not called” excuse is a fallacy. While the words they’re saying are technically correct, they’re using those words to justify a shocking lack of compassion. They know you can’t argue with the words, but what they’re using those words to justify is sick and twisted. Many, many pregnant mothers who choose to abort do so because they do not want their child to end up in the adoption system. No respectable pro-lifer should turn away from those deaths without a very, very good reason.

What it means to consider adoption:
www.deviantart.com/art/Conside…

This is part of my series of comics featuring cute animals to address common excuses that people use to justify their lack of compassion toward homeless children.

1) Have you considered adoption at all / is adoption too expensive: the-cynical-unicorn.deviantart…
2) Adopting vs. breeding / the consequences of sex: the-cynical-unicorn.deviantart…
3) Who is called to adopt? the-cynical-unicorn.deviantart…
4) Adoption: Someone else's problem? the-cynical-unicorn.deviantart…
5) God adopted: the-cynical-unicorn.deviantart…
6) The public's response to adoption advocates: the-cynical-unicorn.deviantart…
7) Adoption is pro-family and NOT anti-sex: unicornarama.deviantart.com/ar…
8) Are adoption advocates being judgmental? unicornarama.deviantart.com/ar…
9) Red tape: unicornarama.deviantart.com/ar…
10) Does having children give you immortality? unicornarama.deviantart.com/ar…
11) Children are gifts from the Lord: Gifts From God

______________________________________________________________________

"Somebody else will do it."
Just recently, I traveled to see family in another state and go to a wedding. It was a Catholic wedding, so about halfway through, a man went up and read the Prayer of the Faithful, which, in this particular version, had these words in it: "For the poor, the homeless and the unemployed, and for all who suffer under persecution, let us pray to the Lord: Lord hear our prayer." That's a wonderful thing to pray. It acknowledges that there are many men, women, and children who go hungry and without homes or family. If my cousin had this said at his wedding, I thought, that means he's interested in helping those people. Seeing as he and his new wife told me they were looking forward to having a family of their own, maybe they'd adopt a child or two!

Unfortunately, as I was talking to another cousin and an aunt later that week, I heard that the new couple was planning their honeymoon on a tropical island, and that they had searched long and hard to find an island that didn't have the Zika virus. For those who don't know, Zika poses no threat to two healthy adults such as my cousin and his wife. The only reason they'd work hard to avoid it would be if they were planning to get pregnant within a year. My suspicions were backed up later when my cousin told me they were planning to have babies, and not to adopt. After that beautiful prayer at their wedding, my cousin and his wife were deliberately turning their backs on they very people they had "prayed" for. In essence, they might have cared about orphans and homeless children, but they expected somebody else to adopt them. They were sacrificing the well-being of existing children so that they might have theoretical future children. They were sacrificing these homeless children on the altar of their personal biological instincts.

That was a real wake-up call for me. This kind of apathy toward homeless children is all too common throughout the world. People don't want orphans to suffer, but they don't think of them as their responsibility. People everywhere think of orphans as somebody else's problem. Out of sight, out of mind. This is why it's so important that we show the world that adoption, foster care, and the like is everyone's responsibility. Everyone should at least try to help. As one of my friends told me: "Children need homes. Some people have homes and want children. The obvious conclusion: open your home to those children." We need to be a counter-cultural revolution to show the world that adoption is not just for "someone else." If we do nothing, the problems of overfull orphanages and foster cares, rising crime, prostitution, overpopulation, teen pregnancy, and everything related to poor upbringing will only become worse. Eventually it will reach the point where it will be everyone's problem, whether or not we want it. The best and most compassionate thing to do, both for the children and for our society as a whole, is to adopt these children and give them homes, love, parenting, and family.

Only when the world wakes up and realizes that adoption is not just for "someone else" will we start to see a turn for the better.

One thing I feel I must mention is how people think of parenthood as what’s in it for them. "I want a big family, I want a biological baby, I don’t want to deal with mental or physical disabilities, I want adorable offspring, I want to see myself in my child's features, I want to feel a kid squirm around in my uterus, I want to experience birth, I want to play with my wife's pregnant belly, I want to bang my wife every night, I don’t like birth control, I want to watch my children grow from babies to adults, I don’t want court dates for adoption, I don’t want to spend any money unless it's a hospital fee for a birth, I want this, I want that, I, I, I, I, I!" Has anyone stopped to think about what the children want? Have people ever stopped to realize that parenthood is actually not about the parents? Parenthood is supposed to be a loving sacrifice for the CHILDREN. When did people become so self-centered that they forgot that?

Then there are the Christians who want to have biological babies to "share the Gospel with the next generation." Do you see the error in their reasoning? Sharing the Gospel is about helping people come to Christ and be saved. But here's the catch: there are millions of homeless children who need the Gospel, but these "Christians" would rather make a new child and share the Gospel with him/her rather than share the Gospel with a homeless child. See their logic? "You're not my blood, so it’s not my problem if you go to Hell." They'd rather make one rather than help one who already exists go to Heaven. I don't know about you, but that doesn't strike me as a very Christ-like attitude.

I personally believe couples who want children should have 1-2 of their own, maybe 3, (if they want their own children), but after that point, they have already replaced themselves in the population and passed on their genes, so if they want to add more children to their families, then they need to look into adopting. There’s really no excuse. If they qualify and want more children past their population replacement number, and there are children who need families, there’s no excuse. Considering how many couples each year have a 4th or more baby, and the fact that there are more babies born through IVF in the US each year than there are children eligible for adoption in the US, it’s clear that the only reason these children don’t have homes is because people don’t want to help them. There are more than enough qualifying families, and more than enough couples who are desperate to add children to their families. People just don’t want those children. If you have two children already and want more, or if you want children in general, consider adopting.