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There's absolutely no excuse for Child Abuse.Let me know you used it by commenting please. linking the Stamp to www.childabuse.com instead of linking it back to here could be a very good Idea
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there really is no excuse....although the victims almost always feel like it was their fault or that they did something wrong... (via my friend is horribly scarred by it)
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youΒ΄re right... there is NO excuse
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Not to sound like a troll or anything, I'm just curious, what's your defition of 'child abuse'?
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Hit a kid, shout at a kid, neglect a kid. It's all abuse.
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Really? I would really consider hitting or shouting at a kid to be abuse.
Beating them up, neglecting them, yes, but not that...
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Because I went through it, I've seen others go through it and I've seen the results.
I know.
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Yeah, I know a lot of people who have been yelled/hit by their parents. Including myself. It's not abuse.
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It is if it's used in position of discipline.
Don't argue with me about it, check the law, it's illegal.
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We live in different countries. It's not the law. And it is discipline.
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Nope, illegal to strike or shout at a child, it's called assault. It may get pardoned because your country still has some modernising to do, but it will definitely be illegal.
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So if someone yells or hits a child (Hits, not beats), they go to jail? I highly doubt that. |:
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if they don't, that country is disgusting to their kids.
Our country at least protects children with the law and moves towards teaching ignorant parents that children are not dogs.
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Racist? No.
Hate child beating parents? Yes.
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You've stated that too many times now.
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Well maybe because THAT'S THE POINT OF THE STAMP durrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
Wow....
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Yeah, something like that.
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I'm getting bored with this conversation, as neither of us will win and it has become pointless.
Kthnxbai.
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yeah, because this was about winning.
See, that's the problem with mentalities like yours, you have too much ego, too little sense. It's why so many people still revert to abusing their children in the name of discipline.
The conversation may end here, but children will win and parents will not only HAVE to deal with that, but they will be why it changes. That's why society evolves and primitive, barbaric practices remain in the past.
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I know this comment is old, but are sure yelling at a kid is abuse? I mean what if your child is breaking the law? Simply grounding them does not seem like a good enough punishment to me. Also, my dad use to be a police officer, he knows the law, and he has yelled at and slapped his chilren before. I mean really, if your children where having sex, drinking, smoking weed, or something, what would you do?
I am not trying to argue or anything BTW, but I'm just wondering. I hate child abuse, but don't think yelling is really abuse, or smacking them, as long as they deserve that is.
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Ask your dad whether assault is illegal. He'll say yes. Then ask him if slapping someone is assault. He'll say yes. However, if you asked him if slapping a child was illegal, he may just humm and harr about it because, as you said, he takes up the act of slapping and yelling children. Well guess what, slapping a child IS illegal.
It is. Every time your dad slapped someone, he was committing a crime.
I'm not saying your father is a bad person, he may be lovely, but hitting a child is a bad thing, it's disrespectful and cruel. A child is just so small, so weak, so vulnerable and ask your father this. Are children legally allowed to make their own decisions? The law says no. Children aren't allowed to make any of their own decisions, that's for the parents to do, meaning a child must act as the parent teaches. If a child acts out of order, it does so because the parent allows it to happen. Smacking a child for 'misbehaving' is like slapping someone for sitting in your car, even though you allowed them to do so.
Yelling is a fearful and nasty act and hugely disrespectful, just like physical abuse. Disrespect a child and it will not learn to respect like children should, in fact, all it's likely to teach is resentment. Yelling, in many cases, is worse that the physical abuse because bruises can heal, the words said and fear instilled through yelling cut deep and are kept within the mind. That's a horrible thing to do.
yell at a child once a week for its entire life and you'll be adding up a lot of resentment, whether the child acknowledges it or not, yell at a child once every day and the mental abuse you're causing it detrimental.
Children are small, weak and vulnerable and NEVER EVER deserve to be abused in any way. Children do not misbehave, children simply act as you let them to.
Parents that find they slap and yell at children need to grow a spine, learn consistency and remember, it's illegal to hit a dog, why the hell should it be legal to hit a child?
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Oh OK, I see what you're saying, you are talking about young children. Since that is the case I agree with you. He has never really yelled at a very young child. And it is very rare for him to hit a child at all. The children that he has hit where old kids or teenagers. And he had very good reasons to do it. One reason he slapped one of his teens was because she was out having sex and got pregnet. She was 16 and driving. Dad had told her since she was young NEVER to do it, but after all the years of telling her, she did it anyway. But that's different, she was 16, not a young child. He dosen't really yell often as it is, he is really warmhearted. But he is always telling us right from wrong so when we do something wrong, it is not because he is a bad parent, it is just because we did not listin. And only then dose he really yell, but like I said, he never yelled at a really young child. Only at ones who knew right from wrong. So he knows what he is doing, and I agree with what you are saying. Thank you for clearing everything up and sorry to bother you.
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I mean EVERYONE. every - single - child. Whether they're 2 years old or 16.
Making excuses for your father's violent tendencies towards people will help neither you, your father or the people he's hurt.
There is no good reason to hit a child, or an adult. Any parent worth their weight as a human being will know that violence is never an answer.
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Oh ok. So then, can I ask you something?
What do you think is a punishment? What if all your child's life you told them never to get pregnant, and she was always so trust worthy, and then one day she just runs behind your back and does it. If tough love is not the answer, then it what is?
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So, the scenario goes:
The daughter I birthed and raised (who never asked to be born, mind you) has obviously worked hard and earned my trust and no doubt become a precious daughter to me seeing as she's been so trustworthy, gets herself pregnant? Well, I'd slap her face of, because hell, she needs to learn, doesn't she? I mean, it's not ME who's going to have to endure the agony of having a baby, and then the stress of being a young mum. And so what if she's been so trustworthy and good to me? I'll slap her for going behind MY back, a back that should have been turned to her ANYWAY, and damaged HER future.
Listen. Does a slap erase history?
No.
Does it teach someone a fundamental lesson?
No.
Does it solve problems?
No.
Do you wan to know what I'd REALLY do? I'd fear for my baby, and I'd fear for the life she'd bring into this world and I'd make sure that both of them know that not only would I love them, with as much love as they deserve seeing as their just children, I'd make sure this wouldn't hinder either of their progress in this world. can a slap do that? No. Does she deserve to be slapped? no.
Whoever can sit there and unleash ANY violent act on their child and not know just how wrong that was the moment they did it, and hell! To do it again! Cannot say they have respected the fact that a child should NEVER be fit into a parent's life. A parent should change their life to make sure that child is not only the centre of their attention, but the whole reason for their being because frankly, the child didn't ask to be born.
If YOU truly believe that the child in this scenario deserves to punished for this, you are a wicked and insensitive person. This girl would need all the support in the world because frankly, she'll be the one who suffers for her actions.
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Oh and BTW, don't get me wrong, my dad loved (and still loves) her and her baby to death. He treated her baby like it was his own and gave her all support he could give. When she got married to the guy who got her pregnant, and they took the baby away from him, he was very sad. He felt he lost his own child. He wouldn't even let her put the child up for adoption becuase he didn't want the baby to end up in a family that wouldn't treat it right.
But, he trusted her, he always told her never to do it, he gave her everything she ever wanted as long as could afford it. He always reminded her that he loves her more then life itself, and he did not turn his back on her, he let her drive by herself becuase he trusted her. He told her that she could always tell him anything. He worked more than one job just to make sure he could always support her. And then, after everything she just goes out and has sex, gets pregnant, and then you know what else? She didn't even have the guts to tell him! He didn't even find this out untill months later when her belly started to grow. She didn't go to the doctor or anything like a pregnant woman should! And he even told her, that if she did get pregnant, even though he would be very angry with her, she should still at least tell him. Becuase a pregnant woman needs to be taken care of, but she should never do it in the first place.
What she did was a very very stupid thing, and she disrespected Dad after all the trust and love he gave her. And she just threw it all away. I think she deserved a good slap to the face. No a slap can NOT change what happend but she acted like a selfish bitch and all Dad did was love her and take care of her. You may not agree, but that's OK. You can think what you want of me and my father, after all we don't know each other anyway.
Now then, I have to say I do have respect for you, you sound like you would be a good parent, and always support your kids no matter what stupid thing they do.
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You need to remember that no parent, no person, can truly control a child and no one ever should want to do this.
Humans will do as humans have evolved to do and one of things we evolved to do was make mistakes, whether this is having a baby or slapping your kid. This doesn't make you a bad person, what makes it bad is never learning from the mistakes.
Your father did the right and expected thing by looking after that baby but it's not his baby and as far as things go, it's out of his jurisdiction as a custodian. What's important now is if your father hasn't left too much resentment in the mother for her to stop him being the grandfather he may want to be, because it's always wondered, would a person that was faced with disrespectful discipline as a child allow their baby to enter that same environment?
Your father may be a good person but he's not her God and he has no right laying a hand on her or shouting at her. Parents are their to nurture and protect, to teach and to lead. A clever parent will let the consequences teach their young and make sure they do what they can when they can to keep them safe. Smacking and yelling doesn't come into it and I doubt you can show me a situation where either of these attacks are vital in raising a child.
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Yeah I see what you're saying. But how about we just drop it? It was a long time ago and it does not concern you. I've never even met her, she was already grown up and gone when I was born. This talk got pretty caried away and I have told you things that really arn't your business anyway. Sorry for wasteing your time. You can just forget about and I will not bother you anymore.
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hey, listen, you brought me into this topic, I didn't ask you to tell me about your life, did I? You made it my business and now I have to deal with it too, that's something you did.
The reason child abuse is such an important struggle is because it's done by the people closest to us and even when we're grown up, it's there and it's a problem.
No one deserves to have their childhood marred by parents that couldn't put the effort into raising their children with words rather than their hand. it can be put right, the unfortunate thing is, saying sorry is just as hard because pride is often a factor here.
Maybe one day you can talk to your dad about it and any resentment that may have been forged between parent and child can slowly be healed. Talking solves problems.
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I know it's my fault for telling you and I said I'm sorry. I got carried away, my bad. I just like to talk but I should not tell people I don't know about stuff that they do not have a thing to do with. Like I said, I am sorry for wasteing your time. And just becuase I told you, still dose not make it your problem. I don't even know you. So I'm saying you can forget about and drop it.
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Well, here's the thing, I can't forget about it. That's just what happens when you do stuff like this.
As far as dropping it goes, that's as much your responsibility as anyone else's.
it's still doesn't hinder the fact that there's going to be a more serious problem here which we've been addressing, a problem that'll take more than your ability to drop a subject will solve. Again, it's your call.
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Many years ago my father tried to fix things. He has said he is sorry, he has tried to make up to her. She won't do it. But she has her own life now, she is doing fine. And he has his own life, with his wife, me and his other child. And he is doing fine.
Now please, I know you must feel strongly about this, I know it may bother you. It's bothering me that I even someone I don't know about it. It's my fault for telling you, blame me. But this is not your problem, your life, your kid or your anything. And I don't have to tell you anything else. Please, I'm not trying to offend you, but you don't have to deal with this. You don't have to tell me what my father should or should not have done. I asked you what you would do in his situation, yes, becuase I was just wondering.
I do not your help. Thank you
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Sometimes, the wounds won't heal that easy, but as long as your father has made the steps (accepting he did wrong) and has kept the gates open, it means there's always a chance she could turn round one day and allow some bridges to be made once again.
And life doesn't work like that, you can't just drop something on someone and then, when you feel the need, pull out and expect other people to just do as you say.
You need to learn the principle of actions and consequences and stop acting so naive and over emotional. This isn't about you or your damn sister, this is about child abuse and the clear pain caused by spineless parents. Remember that.
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I know. But I am going to stop replying. This is internet, and it does not matter. I know I have a lot learn about life but I'm still young,I still have a lot to learn, and I know that. And yes I know what the stamp is about and I hate child abuse! Trust me, I am not the bad person you probably think I am. Now you can keep replying all you want, but I don't owe you anything, I don't care what you think and I do not have to tell you anything else or keep replying. Sorry and good bye
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It always matters and we owe it to all those suffering children to show them it matters.
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Well what ever you say.
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it's not just what I say though, is it? The law says very much the same thing, and so does most of society.
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Great stamp and I definitely agree: there is no excuse for child abuse.
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those poor children *hits fav button*
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You're right, no excuse for this kind of behaviors. It makes me feel sick knowing that it continue. Faved this stamp.
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Great stamp, and sentiment. I will use this in my journal. Thanks for sharing
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Hi, I used this on my profile along with a few other deviations and a poem called "Daddy...It Hurts" that I read. Hope you don't mind.
If you want to see the poem it's located right below my favourites.
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