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Abortion is not birth control. It is an invasive medical procedure that becomes even more invasive as the pregnancy progresses. The descriptions of what both fetus and mother experience, especially in later term pregnancies, can be disturbing for many people.

The truth is that most women who have an abortion don't want to have one. It's hardly a desirable experience. And obviously anyone who empathises with the fetus doesn't want abortions. So, what's the solution?

Most abortions are done because of unwanted pregnancies. Therefore, reducing unwanted pregnancies will reduce abortions.

Unfortunately, some people who are anti-sex have unintentionally increased the number of unwanted pregnancies and abortions by restricting sex education and birth control. They believe that education and contraception encourage sex and that is what leads to unwanted pregnancies. However, the human sex drive is what leads to sex, not knowing about sex or using birth control. Someone can know nothing about sex and still desire it because it is part of our instincts.

The irony is that many people who are agaisnt abortion are responsible for abortions. While some people like to focus on rape, it's quite rare and most unwanted pregnancies are a result of consentual sex, as is the case with abortions. So, parents who demand schools don't teach about safe sex, businesses who refuse to allow their employees birth control, and the Catholic church's stance against contraception, have all continued to abortion. In these cases, they are not truly pro-life, but simply anti-sex.

Even if abortion were outlawed, some women would still find a way to have an abortion, but it would be dangerous or even deadly to her. If your reaction to this is that she deserved to die because she was going to have an abortion, you are not pro-life. Likewise, there would be an increase in unwanted children, an already epidemic problem and, if you feel that is acceptable, you are also not pro-life.

Unwanted pregnancies must first and foremost be reduced to reduce abortion before all else. This can be tackled multifold:

Learning Self Control:

Our society tends to place a burden on females to protect their virginity and learn to keep males from having sex with them. All males are expected to do is listen when she says no and put on a condom if she insists. This one-sided approach demonizes females with a sex drive as "sluts" and "whores" while encouraging males to simply find a way to trick females into sex. However, males must also learn self control and females must no longer be demonized for not being male.

While testosterone means that males tend to be more sexually aggressive on average and most rapists are male, it's not all biology. From an early age, boys are expected to be rough and cruel and sensitive boys are teased until they conform.

But males must be taught how to control sexual urges and this must start right at puberty, when the male sex drive is at its highest and self control at its lowest. This can be two tiered, both with a psychological approach and a biological approach, since some people have higher sex drives and so dietary changes can be made to make it easier to manage.

We should never place the entire burden of avoiding pregnancy on one sex because it takes two to become pregnant. This is basic biology.

Learning About Sex:

Self control is important, even for those who do have sex, as someone may inadvertently hurt their partner or have sex with them against their will. Date rape and even spouse rape is a real phenomena and should be prevented through education.

Imagine you care about the millions upon millions of children already born and in need of homes. Not becoming pregnant means you are more likely to be able to adopt and open your home to those children.

So, let's say you are either not ready for a family or are ready but wish to adopt. You may still desire the intimacy of sex with your partner or spouse. This is where learning about birth control and safe sex come into play.

Rushing into sex unprepared can lead to one partner not enjoying it or even being hurt or can result in an unwanted pregnancy. So, before anyone actually comes to the point where they are going to have sex, we must educate them about sex, both what it would be like for them as well as for their partner, and the preparations and potential consequences. The more taboo and off-limits we make sex, the more exciting it sounds. The more straight-forward and realistic we are, the more it can be understood and the safer we make it.

Making Birth Control Available:

Sex, when done right, can be a beautiful bonding experience that, biologically speaking, is primarily for uniting parents and creating a child between them. However, this world is already over-populated and filled with orphans. With birth control, couples do not need to spend their entire lives avoiding sex just to avoid pregnancy.

There are several methods, ranging from one-time approaches like condoms and oral contraception, to more permanent methods like tube tying or sterilization. The problem is that all of these cost money and the cheaper the method the less effective it is.

It's no coincidence that people with lower income on average have children sooner and in greater numbers than those wirh higher income. Not only does a higher income mean easier access to effective birth control but also not giving birth early and having to raise a child ensures that they keep high income. Whereas, being poor means not affording overlapping effective birth control and so becoming pregnant and either having an abortion or giving birth to more children and at a younger age. This means they will have to work more, have no time for a higher education and are stuck in poverty, typically for life. This poverty is also often passed on to those children.

Therefore, to prevent this, we must make effective overlapping contraceptive methods available to anyone free of charge, possibly by a universal healthcare method. This must of course be coupled with proper sex education which includes methods of mutual self control as a primary focus. Contraception by itself without such education would be short sighted. In fact, education in itself is part of birth control.

Some people complain about poor people having access to safe effective birth control, saying it places a financial burden on society. However, contraception is vastly cheaper than the social and financial burden of unwanted children, not even considering all the resulting abortions it prevents. Besides, such complaints are not pro-life or logically sound, but based on fear and contempt. Fear of sex and animosity toward others is powerful, but in the end no better than promoting casual unprotected sex.

Only through these and other methods can we all work together, whether pro-life or pro-choice, to reduce unwanted pregnancies and thereby reduce both unwanted children and abortions.

What are some methods you would add?

Also of note: US Abortion Rate Hits Lowest Lovel Since 1973, Primarily Due To Increased Birth Control Access

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Description
Abortion is not birth control. It is an invasive medical procedure that becomes even more invasive as the pregnancy progresses. The descriptions of what both fetus and mother experience, especially in later term pregnancies, can be disturbing for many people.

The truth is that most women who have an abortion don't want to have one. It's hardly a desirable experience. And obviously anyone who empathises with the fetus doesn't want abortions. So, what's the solution?

Most abortions are done because of unwanted pregnancies. Therefore, reducing unwanted pregnancies will reduce abortions.

Unfortunately, some people who are anti-sex have unintentionally increased the number of unwanted pregnancies and abortions by restricting sex education and birth control. They believe that education and contraception encourage sex and that is what leads to unwanted pregnancies. However, the human sex drive is what leads to sex, not knowing about sex or using birth control. Someone can know nothing about sex and still desire it because it is part of our instincts.

The irony is that many people who are agaisnt abortion are responsible for abortions. While some people like to focus on rape, it's quite rare and most unwanted pregnancies are a result of consentual sex, as is the case with abortions. So, parents who demand schools don't teach about safe sex, businesses who refuse to allow their employees birth control, and the Catholic church's stance against contraception, have all continued to abortion. In these cases, they are not truly pro-life, but simply anti-sex.

Even if abortion were outlawed, some women would still find a way to have an abortion, but it would be dangerous or even deadly to her. If your reaction to this is that she deserved to die because she was going to have an abortion, you are not pro-life. Likewise, there would be an increase in unwanted children, an already epidemic problem and, if you feel that is acceptable, you are also not pro-life.

Unwanted pregnancies must first and foremost be reduced to reduce abortion before all else. This can be tackled multifold:

Learning Self Control:

Our society tends to place a burden on females to protect their virginity and learn to keep males from having sex with them. All males are expected to do is listen when she says no and put on a condom if she insists. This one-sided approach demonizes females with a sex drive as "sluts" and "whores" while encouraging males to simply find a way to trick females into sex. However, males must also learn self control and females must no longer be demonized for not being male.

While testosterone means that males tend to be more sexually aggressive on average and most rapists are male, it's not all biology. From an early age, boys are expected to be rough and cruel and sensitive boys are teased until they conform.

But males must be taught how to control sexual urges and this must start right at puberty, when the male sex drive is at its highest and self control at its lowest. This can be two tiered, both with a psychological approach and a biological approach, since some people have higher sex drives and so dietary changes can be made to make it easier to manage.

We should never place the entire burden of avoiding pregnancy on one sex because it takes two to become pregnant. This is basic biology.

Learning About Sex:

Self control is important, even for those who do have sex, as someone may inadvertently hurt their partner or have sex with them against their will. Date rape and even spouse rape is a real phenomena and should be prevented through education.

Imagine you care about the millions upon millions of children already born and in need of homes. Not becoming pregnant means you are more likely to be able to adopt and open your home to those children.

So, let's say you are either not ready for a family or are ready but wish to adopt. You may still desire the intimacy of sex with your partner or spouse. This is where learning about birth control and safe sex come into play.

Rushing into sex unprepared can lead to one partner not enjoying it or even being hurt or can result in an unwanted pregnancy. So, before anyone actually comes to the point where they are going to have sex, we must educate them about sex, both what it would be like for them as well as for their partner, and the preparations and potential consequences. The more taboo and off-limits we make sex, the more exciting it sounds. The more straight-forward and realistic we are, the more it can be understood and the safer we make it.

Making Birth Control Available:

Sex, when done right, can be a beautiful bonding experience that, biologically speaking, is primarily for uniting parents and creating a child between them. However, this world is already over-populated and filled with orphans. With birth control, couples do not need to spend their entire lives avoiding sex just to avoid pregnancy.

There are several methods, ranging from one-time approaches like condoms and oral contraception, to more permanent methods like tube tying or sterilization. The problem is that all of these cost money and the cheaper the method the less effective it is.

It's no coincidence that people with lower income on average have children sooner and in greater numbers than those wirh higher income. Not only does a higher income mean easier access to effective birth control but also not giving birth early and having to raise a child ensures that they keep high income. Whereas, being poor means not affording overlapping effective birth control and so becoming pregnant and either having an abortion or giving birth to more children and at a younger age. This means they will have to work more, have no time for a higher education and are stuck in poverty, typically for life. This poverty is also often passed on to those children.

Therefore, to prevent this, we must make effective overlapping contraceptive methods available to anyone free of charge, possibly by a universal healthcare method. This must of course be coupled with proper sex education which includes methods of mutual self control as a primary focus. Contraception by itself without such education would be short sighted. In fact, education in itself is part of birth control.

Some people complain about poor people having access to safe effective birth control, saying it places a financial burden on society. However, contraception is vastly cheaper than the social and financial burden of unwanted children, not even considering all the resulting abortions it prevents. Besides, such complaints are not pro-life or logically sound, but based on fear and contempt. Fear of sex and animosity toward others is powerful, but in the end no better than promoting casual unprotected sex.

Only through these and other methods can we all work together, whether pro-life or pro-choice, to reduce unwanted pregnancies and thereby reduce both unwanted children and abortions.

What are some methods you would add?

Also of note: US Abortion Rate Hits Lowest Lovel Since 1973, Primarily Due To Increased Birth Control Access

Note