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Published: 2012-06-17 07:36:34 +0000 UTC; Views: 1862; Favourites: 71; Downloads: 15
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compliments just... weren't something we used in my family. We were more the joking type, making fun of each others. Positive statements also usually came as a joke.As a results, I tend to seek the hidden insult in everything I'm told. (not that there was always one with my parents! they weren't abusive or anything, just... not very good at showing affection and pride)
I'm working hard on getting better, but things are actually getting sort of worse at the moment, because I'm starting to suspects even people I don't know to be lying if they find anything interesting in me.
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Wow, im reading all these comics now, i dont know what to say. I was felling so useless and tortured with myself all this day. I know for experience that trying to cheer up people in this state will sometimes make them feel worse. Understanding and accepting oneself is really hard, but i now feel better knowing other people struggle with that too (: Thanks for putting these emotions into a comic, you're brave.
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My parents do know how to show affection and pride, but I just can't take a compliment for jack shit. I don't know how to feel when someone says something nice or anything. I think it runs in the family. :/
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I think a great part of knowing how to accept a compliment comes from the way you were educated, and they way they are received by people around you... if people in your family also have that attitude, you probably grew up thinking it was the normal way to react.
I'm not saying it's not *normal* by the way. Just that it can make things complicated sometimes...
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H-holy crap! We have the same family, or nearly. Although my family is very sarcastic than joking, not something I enjoy to be around as often as I am.
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Joking and using irony is very nice, but it shouldn't replace saying positive things... Because if you hear the same jokes about yourself for long enough, you might start believe it's true... ):
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I guess in that respect I'm luckier; my mom can say nice things without being sarcastic about it but the times when she is sarcastic outweighs the time when it was sincere.
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I'm still trying to get over that feeling.
It really does hurt, and feels like you're betraying your friends and it leads you to questioning why they even bother with you anymore.
I hope you realize how helpful making this little series is, was, and shall be to yourself and probably many others such as myself.
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It really is the worst part of it, knowing you're thinking such horrible things of the people you like the most... at least it is for me. But I'm working hard to get over it, and maybe some day I will no longer think that way.
And if this series can be of any help to anyone, then I'll be really glad
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I feel like you wrote my life on this page, and you explained it better than I've ever been able.
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I'm sorry you also have a life like that...
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i'm the same way... and im working really hard not to think that way. even to my husband and best friends... *hug*
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You need to fully embrace your self, with all your faults and all the dirt you think is inside of you...After accepting your self for who you are and finding something to love about you (which is definitely DEFINITELY there - everyone has good attributes as well as the bad. There's no perfect person.), you'll be able to take compliments and stop doubting them 
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thanks
I know that's what I should be doing. That's what I'm attempting to do, really, and it sometimes work. But not always, and certainly not when I'm tired or stressed. It's easy to fight your dark side when You're in a good mood, but it's more difficult to accept yourself when in a bad mood...
I'll keep trying though!
So really, thanks for the kind words^^
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I get where you are coming from!
My friends are the joking type too...
One of them is really abrasive though...I'm trying to drift away from her.
She really exhaustes me.
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If being with someone causes you more pain than pleasure, then yeah, it's probably a good idea to reconsider that friendship... é_è
But you might also try to tell her how these jokes make you feel? Some people don't realize that their comments may be hurtful, not until someone tells them....
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Yeah people do that.
It was like she didn't know or care that people had other
beliefs and opinions then hers. She would say someone was wrong to their face just about anything.
I talked to her about her comments one time.
I was really nervous about it so not everything that
I wanted to say came out right. It wasn't a yelling match. But it ended with me "sugar coating" my words
and takeing her angry comments. We were both friends
with the same group,so for a while I really couldn't
just avoid her like I wanted to. But this year we are
going to different colleges so I feel like I can breath.
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It was very brave of you to talk to her about it. Not everyone has the strength to do that, especially not with someone who is supposed to be a friend!
But really, it's good if you won't see her anymore. I hope you'll meet nicer people this year!
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Thanks so much for reading my
random issues! Means alot!
I'm sure this year will be alot better.
Also, thank you for the watch!
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If you recoginze it you can stop thinking so. ;3
I know it feels impossible.
But actually it's extremely easy, once you just decide to do so. Trust me.
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I like this page because is sums up with what I'm going through in life. *HUG*
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I can understand it since it is not easy to trust people and many people will tell you something when they are thinking another. I don't think I have any advice (all that comes to my head are the old cliches that you must be sick of hearing). I also don't know what I could say for you.
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Houlà! Tu es si mal que ça? Faut reprendre courage! C'est étrange et triste que tu ne crois pas aux compliments qu'on peut te faire... Faut reprendre confiance en toi, et avoir confiance aux autres.
Comment prendre les compliments... Souris, un compliment, ça fait du bien^^
Bref, faut que tu te sortes ces idées de la tête!
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ma foi, si c'était aussi simple que de juste sourire quand on me dit un truc gentil, j'aurai pas de problème
Mais j'essaie de surmonter ça, oui. Je sais que ça n'est pas sain, et ça devient un réel problème dans mes relations avec mes amies, et dans ma vie sentimentale. Donc. Je me bats pour aller mieux
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On en a déjà parlé mais j'avoue que ça me fait vmt de la peine, parce que j'ai déjà du te blesser à cause de ça et parce que je trouve ça très triste que tu réagisse de cette façon aux compliments. Mais j'espère que ça va aller mieux! Et dis lui merde à la voix dans ta tête parce qu'elle a tort na!
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je fais des efforts pour mieux les accepter, et ça passe parfois mieux maintenant. Jusqu'à un certain point en tout cas.
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Admettre qu'on a un problème et en parler est la première étape, continue comme ça
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yep, ça aide un peu. Et avec un peu de chance, ça expliquera aussi aux gens pourquoi parfois je réagis bizarrement à certains trucs...
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