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Published: 2014-08-26 12:04:02 +0000 UTC; Views: 345; Favourites: 1; Downloads: 1
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I drew this one WAY BACK when "Kalosromantic" was still a thing. Now they've gone and changed it to "cupioromantic" before I ever got this up, like thanks guys, this was my word.The real definition of kalos/cupioromantic is "Someone who does not experience romantic attraction, but still desires to have a romantic relationship".
I was never sure whether to identify myself as aromantic or not, and generally used demiromantic (Experiencing romantic feelings only after a long time / close bond of knowing the person) but felt uncomfortable with it seeing as I had never actually . . . You know, felt romantic attraction. Or at least I didn't think I had. Kinda hard to know the absence of a thing sometimes, but surely I would know? I mean, it has to be a thing - That's why romantic mush is a huge driving force of many books and movies!
See, here's the thing. I don't get romantic attraction. Love has always been a mental decision to me, in a "This person would be a good match for me because they are kind and respectful and smart" sort of way. I have never, never understood people who say "He's cruel to me but I can't leave him because I love him" (What the heck, Charles Dickens?) or "He is good-looking and therefore I like him". I've never understood aesthetic attraction either, but that's a story for another time.
Basically the not-knowing led me to confusion, and I almost questioned my entire identity after that, ha ha ha . . .
Anyway, long story short I'm dubbing myself "cupioromantic" until I feel something strong enough where I can say, "Yes, that's what romantic attraction is."
You know, if it ever comes at all, because I could be totally wrong and be full-on aro over here.
(Now that we've reached this point, hopefully we can have backgrounds from here on out. Problem is Illustrator doesn't handle them very well. What to do, what to do.)
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This is so true. As a child, I wanted to marry everyone in my class, even the teacher. When I got to high school, I still thought I couldn't wait to get married someday! It would be so special! A guy asked me out, and I just knew then and there that romance sickened me. It was like a light bulb. I still want to get married, but I know now that I will not romantically love that person. BUT MAN I WANT TO GET MARRIED xD And I weird?
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NO WAY MAN I totally want to get married too! Can't wait!
Same, though. Got no romantic feelings in me. Except maybe for grilled cheese. Grilled cheese is pretty good.
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I'm actually planning on (if I can't marry all of them legally) marrying one person and then going into civil union with four other people. Originally, there were eight of us, but two people have backed out since then. They thought we were joking about the marriage, but, when we proved sincere, they called us weird and left. Two of my friends were in romantic relationships with them, and they have considered leaving the union as well just because of how devastated they were at the loss of those people. But, seriously, they left first. They shouldn't feel sorry about someone who doesn't care enough to stay. I do believe though that poly marriage will soon be legalized since same-sex marriage has already been made a constitutional right in the U.S. Here's to hoping! *crosses fingers* I vote on makin' some sweet lovin' to my chicken noodle soup, lol. 
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