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Published: 2010-09-07 09:12:05 +0000 UTC; Views: 5031; Favourites: 166; Downloads: 22
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Another edit: If you believe that all cutters are attention whores, please, kindly shut up and don't bother faving this stamp. This stamp isn't meant to degrade people who are addicted to cutting, simply to say that I personally feel that the addiction itself is harmful, having struggled with it myself.EDIT: I realize that I haven't included many of my own experiences with SI addiction in this stamp. This is because I don't want to trigger anyone. If you'd like to know more about my personal experiences, ask me and I'll note them to you.
I know this stamp is going to get trolls and flamers but I'm posting it anyway. Yes, I'm probably a self-righteous emo kid so if you're going to call me that, don't think I don't know...
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I always see comments on other anti-cutting stamps on dA that say something along the lines of "you don't know what it's like to be a self-injury addict so how can you judge us?" "
...actually, I do know. I cut for six years and I've been clean for one. In that year, while I don't think people who cut are "stupid" or "selfish" I've realized that cutting is a simple solution for many complex problems. The endorphins help in the short term but the problems that cause people to cut cannot be solved simply by cutting. Instead, all one gains is a temporary, chemically induced calmness (not a proper substitute for real emotion), an addiction and a body full of scars.
I wanted to make sure there was at least one anti-cutting stamp out there made by a former self-injurer (lol self-righteous much?) so that people struggling with SI addiction realize that some people who are against cutting actually come from a place of understanding. Just because I made this stamp doesn't mean I don't know how incredible the endorphins feel or how hard it is to quit.
That's all really. I'd appreciate it if you wouldn't flame me but I can't control that.... I hope at least one person benefits from seeing this stamp.
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Yes please if it isnt to painful
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I should know
I still have 'Freak' cut into my arm
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I have "Crazy" cut into my leg. 
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tbh since I posted that I've only gotten worse
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I'm sorry.
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I did it again. I had quit for a while, but I got really upset and cut. Now, I'm trying to quit again.
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same I know how adictive it is which just makes things worse
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I don't see why anyone who used to cut wouldn't be against it. We know how much it sucks. It also sucks how your friends turn away because they don't know how to deal with it. Your family doesn't think there is anything wrong with your life and that you need to just "get over it". You get called emo and pathetic. People, for some reason, do not know that it is a real problem. I honestly hate the word "selfish" because god forbid that you want to do something that doesn't include others, but it is still NOT selfish. I wish that nobody else did it. I wish my roommate didn't make empty cutting threats because nobody was taking her overly-dramatic fake breakdowns anymore. I wish more people actually took the time to understand.
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Honestly, I can't tell if you're for or against this stamp by this comment...or neither...
Some people seem to actually like cutting because, well, it does help them in the short term and they'll take that over the (much greater) pain it often takes to quit. There's also a lot of mental games SI addicts will play with themselves surrounding cutting...but I'm sure you know what that's like. I've gotten a lot of people telling me that they think I'm self-righteous for being against cutting because I'm supposedly ignoring the pain self-injurers go through when I'm actually against cutting BECAUSE of that pain.
And I know what you mean. I HATED getting called emo and an attention whore, even when I tried to hide my scars. I do even now by anyone who sees my healed-over scars. People don't get that it's an addiction. Whether or not it's "selfish" is a moot point. If it's an addiction, you often can't control it so it doesn't matter why you're doing it or who you're doing it for.
I'm so sorry that your roomate does that to you.
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I'm sorry I was being so vague. I would say that I am against cutting because I know how terrible it is and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Cutting has so many misconceptions. People either think it's stupid or they think that cutting is an acceptable form of stress relief (I've seen this view from people in body modification forums). Yes, it is a choice and it's bad. Yes, it is a REAL addiction. But yes, you can stop. It may take some time and it is hard but it is worth it. I'm happy to say that I don't feel that kind of need and pain anymore. All of my scars have faded away, so I believe I got the chance to start over. But also I have no signs, so people think they can say things around me that are stupid and upsetting.
My roommate has a lot of attention issues. We were so used to her break downs that they weren't making us as concerned. She knew not to say it in front of me and my other roommate who had a suicidal friend, so she waited until it was just her and our other roommate (I live with three girls, it gets confusing) to spout that threat.
I don't know why people want to mock SI. There really isn't any excuse for it. Maybe because it is more common and there is attention on it that people are getting desensitized.
I hope that one day people will realize that it is a real and powerful addiction. Certain types of people have addictive personalities and they need something to fill their addict needs. My one close friend is still fighting with her addiction. I tend to hop between little things; if there is a topic I'm interested in, I'll research it whenever I have a free second. This goes on for days or weeks until I find something new.
Wow, that was longer than expected. But thank you for your comment
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I used to.
The scars are gone, but that doesn't mean I don't see them.
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any advice for a current self harmer...? I stopped for a few months... but i startd again.... how do you stop...?
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It's a very slow process and different for everyone. Finding other ways of occupying time and self-disciplining helped for me. (Especially getting a job that I loved.) I think, when it comes down to it, you have to be ready to quit and only you can decide if and when you are.
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I can't say I understand how it feels to cut myself but congragulations on being clean for so long. I think this stamp can help those who want to quit not feel so alienated.
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Thank you.
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Completely true. I don't think it helps that there are all these Hot Topic emo shirts and everything treating being depressed as if it's a fad. It gives such a mized message to people. Then you have the other extreme. I'm goth myself mostly because I love the color and I feel most comfortable with slightly morbid settings. Yet I have had people look at me like there's something wrong with me when I do nothing more than pass them by. I don't think they realize that sort of thing doesn't help at all. No one needs to be treated like that, no matter what.
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It's tough and the double standard is very strange. On the one hand, some people see cutting as a trendy thing and it has this sense of exoticism and machismo. (In addition to kids who made fun of my scars, there were a few that said things like, "wow! That's so cool!" because they never cut themselves and didn't realize that it was an addiction.)
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A very strange world we live in. -_-
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I think this stamp needed to be made, because so many people, including people around me (I, too, self injure myself) think that those who cut do it as a means for attention, and almost support it in a way. And while some do, most of us are ashamed of what we do, and hide our scars and the truth.
Just hang in there and stay strong, message me if you ever need anyone to talk to. 
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It's a really difficult thing. A lot of people feel like that if you're against cutting, you have no right to judge but I think it's less binary than that. I don't think it's ever okay to be against people who cut because that just makes it worse but if you can support someone but not support their addiction, that's the best.
Thank you. I really appreciate that.
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I agree! And if you are against cutting, you don't need to vocalize it as much as people do commonly. Another issue is that most people don't know
how to support, and just end up getting frustrated and yelling, making the situation only worse.
And you're welcome!
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It's very hard. I know that when I cut, I WANTED to alienate people so that I wouldn't be disappointed by them. As a result, I wasn't very nice to the people who tried to help me. Now I see a lot of people who cut who call me names and try to make me feel bad when I try to help them and I can relate but it never feels good.
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I can defiantly relate, I alienated myself from people, too because not only was I cutting but I had an eating disorder as well. I completely cut people off so they wouldn't find out about either, but of course eventually they did. And don't let what they say get to you, and you can always try but there's not point in helping someone that doesn't want help.
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I stopped trying to help people a long time ago. It's all too easy to get taken advantage of. Ironically enough, it's these people who talk to me first most of the time because they don't like my views or just want to alienate me. I think people see themselves in me as much as I see myself in them and they get upset because regardless of how they protest, they know that I understand them but still disagree. (Therefore the "you don't understand me" argument for what they do doesn't stand, much as they want it to. I think sometimes people WISH that they weren't understood. I know I did.)
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It is, and it really is unfortunate. And people with similar issues come together, mainly because they all have a similarity and want to be understood. (And that argument is annoying, especially since so many people self-injure for different reasons, so there is truly no way for them to completely understand. But, personally, I find it harder for people not to understand you. I've been trying to explain my self-injury and eating disorder to my friends and family, and they still just think I was stupid.)
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I think that the reason that some people don't want others to understand is because understanding someone's motives means discovering their weaknesses. It's a lot harder to put up a front of strength when people don't know you well enough to see through it.
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That's true, and exactly why I try not to let people understand me. Not only that, but when people do know your weaknesses and triggers, and bring you into situations that involve them, it just makes me feel like they don't care.
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It's very hard to tell if someone is giving you tough love or just being a jerk. It's even harder when you're depressed.
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It's almost impossible and if you're in a bad space you take it the wrong way no matter what.
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deffinatly faving this one. though, i'm always saying cutting is bad, and then i do it my self. i was clean for about 4 months, and now i've relapsed into it again. really bad, like once a week instead of one every 3 months. and though i'm still against self-injury i'm struggeling even more to quit it again.
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I know exactly where you're coming from. I really hate it when people (both cutters and non-cutters) don't get that. Best of luck trying to quit.
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thanks ^_^
how did you quit? 'cause it seems to be taking me forever to stop.
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It didn't happen all at once. It was two years of trying to quit and relapsing. Eventually, I think I slowly but surely made an unconscious decision that cutting wasn't something I wanted to do anymore and I think that helped much more than trying to force myself . It had to do with a lot of different circumstances in my life (getting my first real jobs, my cousin dying, etc.). I get the idea that it's really different from person to person and their personal circumstances. I don't think it's something that ever goes away completely and it really takes a long time. I do think the first step is wanting to quit so I'm sure you'll eventually get there.
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I'm a former self-harmer - I still cut but it's for an entirely different reason - and I take my hat off to you. I wouldn't say you're a self-righteous emo kid, but someone who knows and understands. I'd also try and spread the word, but as not many people can comprehend that what i do is NOT harm, it's a bit hypocritical. Still, I AM against cutting during depression, so if you don't mind I'm going to put this stamp on my page.
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Thank you. Feel free to use this stamp if you'd like. What do you mean? I used to scratch at my arm as an OCD thing that had nothing to do with my self-injury addiction. Is that what you mean? I know there are a lot of reasons why people self-harm.
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No, I self-mutilate because I enjoy the pain, and the scars. To me, scars are incredibly beautiful. I also do it for bloodletting with my boyfriend, so cutting is one hell of a turn-on for me. However, due to my past, I never cut myself if I'm depressed; that's cutting for all the wrong reasons (whcih probably sounds a bit odd now that I've said all the above, but meh.)
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I still don't buy that you understand, but you can keep thinking that.
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You just sound like everybody else who doesn't know what they are talking about. You said you did it for six years. I did it for five years, been "clean" for five months,and I have strong opinions about people who cut. I don't think anyone should be anti-cutting. There's no reason to. There are so many other things that cutters could be doing that would actually hurt them a lot worse than cutting. Cutting isn't a big deal.
It seems like you are so against something that you embraced for an extremely long time, and since you don't do it anymore, it seems like wasted effort to be saying you're against it.
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I'm glad I gave you a chance to explain yourself. I was worried that you were going to whine about how nobody understands you (which is the biggest crutch most depressed kids, myself included, fall on if they don't like what someone is saying to them.) I'm sorry that I assumed that about you.
"You just sound like everybody else who doesn't know what they are talking about."
I'm sorry you feel that way and I can understand where you're coming from because I didn't give details about my experiences that would emphasize my points and make me easier to relate to. The reason I left those out was because I know that I trigger very easily when I read other people's experiences with SI and I didn't want to trigger anyone. If you'd like more details about my experiences, I can note them to you.
I'd also like to note that, as I said before, I don't find people who cut "selfish" or "stupid". I specifically said that to distinguish myself from "everybody else". Obviously, that didn't work.
"I don't think anyone should be anti-cutting. There's no reason to. There are so many other things that cutters could be doing that would actually hurt them a lot worse than cutting. Cutting isn't a big deal."
I'm going to have to disagree with you there (though I'll stress again, that I believe there's no reason to be against the PEOPLE who cut, just the addiction itself.) While cutting is not the worst thing that someone can do to themselves when a person cuts, they are hurting many people besides themselves. They are hurting the people who care about them who will probably spend the rest of their lives filled with guilt that they may have caused their loved one's addiction. (It's not rational but that's how it often works.) They are hurting people who are trying to recover from self-injury addiction by (unintentionally) triggering others with their scars. I could go on but I really don't want to go into "cutting is selfish" territory.
On the level of the individual, like any addiction, cutting encourages people to ignore (and by extension, not address) the roots of their problems and instead focus on stopping the pain temporarily. As a result, SI addiction denies innocent human beings the constitutional right to pursue happiness. If one has an endorphin rush at their fingertips, why try to actually work through your problems? Cutting may help you get through the day but it holds you back in the long run...but again, this is all my opinion and I understand if you disagree.
"It seems like you are so against something that you embraced for an extremely long time, and since you don't do it anymore, it seems like wasted effort to be saying you're against it."
I could ask a similar question to you? If you stopped cutting for this long, why are you commenting on this stamp defending SI addiction? I'm going to assume it's because your own experiences with SI are still a huge part of your life and influence your opinions on the subject today. Your opinions were obviously strong enough that you felt you had to say something. That's definitely the case for me.
(And just to clear something up, I never embraced cutting. I needed to cut because I was addicted to the endorphins (before cutting, I was addicted to morphine) but I never liked that I had to rely on it.)
I have one more question to you: what would you say to a recovering anorexic that made an anti-thinspiration stamp?
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