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rcsi1 — Yet Another Anti-Cutting Stamp
Published: 2010-09-07 09:12:05 +0000 UTC; Views: 5031; Favourites: 166; Downloads: 22
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Another edit: If you believe that all cutters are attention whores, please, kindly shut up and don't bother faving this stamp. This stamp isn't meant to degrade people who are addicted to cutting, simply to say that I personally feel that the addiction itself is harmful, having struggled with it myself.EDIT: I realize that I haven't included many of my own experiences with SI addiction in this stamp. This is because I don't want to trigger anyone. If you'd like to know more about my personal experiences, ask me and I'll note them to you.
I know this stamp is going to get trolls and flamers but I'm posting it anyway. Yes, I'm probably a self-righteous emo kid so if you're going to call me that, don't think I don't know...
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I always see comments on other anti-cutting stamps on dA that say something along the lines of "you don't know what it's like to be a self-injury addict so how can you judge us?" "
...actually, I do know. I cut for six years and I've been clean for one. In that year, while I don't think people who cut are "stupid" or "selfish" I've realized that cutting is a simple solution for many complex problems. The endorphins help in the short term but the problems that cause people to cut cannot be solved simply by cutting. Instead, all one gains is a temporary, chemically induced calmness (not a proper substitute for real emotion), an addiction and a body full of scars.
I wanted to make sure there was at least one anti-cutting stamp out there made by a former self-injurer (lol self-righteous much?) so that people struggling with SI addiction realize that some people who are against cutting actually come from a place of understanding. Just because I made this stamp doesn't mean I don't know how incredible the endorphins feel or how hard it is to quit.
That's all really. I'd appreciate it if you wouldn't flame me but I can't control that.... I hope at least one person benefits from seeing this stamp.
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I think my number one pet peeve is when cutting is made out to be about other people other than the cutter. The cutter should not care what it does to other people, because one it isn't there business, and two, it shouldn't really affect them. I say this because I know it is possible for people who care about you to not care if you cut or not. So this makes me believe that cutting should be about you and you only, because after all it is your addiction, and you shouldn't be concerned about scaring other people and what those people think of you. And I really don't like people who are "recovering" from cutting, because frankly I think they are whiners. They always complain about everything being triggering, and I've just heard so many excuses. To me, people in "recovery" live in a fantasy world, and they need to realize that the world isn't about them and what triggers them. They need to toughen up and realize that they will face triggering material everyday, and that will make them stronger in the long run. Your life is for you to live, and you're not supposed to live it for other people.
I'm commenting because I still consider myself a cutter. I don't do it now, but I know I will in the future. I know this because I know that cutting is the one thing that makes me feel better. It's a pick me up, and I have no problem with cutting being my fix, hence the reason I still talk about it.
There are tons of people like me who people forget about. I don't want to work threw my problems. They are staying where they are because I don't care about them, and they obviously don't care about me. I don't believe in therapy, I don't believe in medication, but I do believe in solving your own problems. I think if you can't solve your own problems, then you don't really deserve to get better. This sounds harsh, but I want people to be self reliant.
To me, you embraced cutting. You did it for six years, you relied on it, you depended on it, you embraced it. That doens't mean you liked it, but you did do it.
I'm kind of confused as to the very end of your reply, but if I'm reading it right, I would say that she shouldn't of made the stamp. The recovering anorexic needs to leave it alone, because once again it doesn't make sense to be against it. Let people do what they gotta do to get through life.
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Maybe the cutter is too blinded by depression to see that their cutting does effect other people but it always does. My mom is still very emotionally traumatized from her sister's cutting. That's the reason she was so dead against mine.
"It's not their business" is an incredibly immature and unrealistic mentality, honestly. Wouldn't you care if your loved one had cancer? SARS? Any other disease? When it comes down to it, addiction is always a disease and, depending on what you're addicted to, can be a deadly one.
And I believe we are in agreement that one needs to live with their own problems and no amounts of medication and therapy will solve them for you. However, I believe that you are not self-reliant if you cut. You are relying on your cutting. Cutting is the farthest thing from "solving your own problems" as it makes you complacent and only helps you stew in your problems more. It allows you to pretend you've solved your problems. That's exactly what addiction is.
And if you really didn't care what I, or anyone else thinks, you wouldn't have had such strong opinions about people in recovery or left such spiteful comments on this stamp. If I shouldn't care about people who cut, why should you care about people who are in recovery? If anything, you're proving my point. If you had REALLY solved your own problems and REALLY didn't care, I wouldn't be talking to you right now. There's obviously a lot going on with you that cutting helps you push aside and I hit a raw spot by saying that I was against it, making all those negative emotions come out again.
I think I'm going to stop this conversation now. I know I'm not going to change the way you think. (Like you said, only you can do that.) I do hope that I made you use a part of your brain that cutting didn't though.
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Ah, I love it when the cowardice shows up in people who think they are superior. Your's showed up quicker than most, I must say.
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Yea I'm a former cutter too and theres never a time when it doesn't cross my mind
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I know the feeling. It's just horrible. Congratulations on being able to stop.
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A lot of times, people don't understand that the people with strongest opinions are often the ones who know what they're saying for a fact. This is a simple stamp, but it's got a beautiful meaning.
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Thank you. 
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Yes, sometimes it's difficult to decide that you're wrong. I have the problem too. :]
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Also, the cake is a lie!
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I've selfharmed for so long I can't even imagine life without it lol, but i also HATE it, I hate that I do it and I hate that others do it. It's not worth it, once done the problem that caused it is still there - with added injuries and potentially even hospital visits. I wish people who go around saying it's "stupid" or "emo" or whatever would realise that in reality they are sort of making the situration worse by isolating and alienating those who resort to it, the feeling of isolation and shame won't "cure" someone it just makes them feeling worse
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I agree with you. It's a tough balance. Calling SI addicts "stupid" and "emo" isn't okay but on the other hand, I don't think self-injury addiction itself deserves to be defended. I wish it was easier to be supportive of SI addicts while still trying to help them find other ways of coping.
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Thank you...your statement is amazing, and the same all goes for me. It's a hard habit to break, but it's something I would never recommend to other and I would hope that others would learn from that experience.
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I know what its like to be a self harmer, and a past self harmer..I would say that I would never encourage someone to cut themselves and I think there are many other potential solutions so I guess that would make me against cutting. But at the same time I understand why people do it so obviously I can't judge them and there are some really complicated reasons why people chose to harm themselves so some of those other stamps that say that cutting is "stupid", "selfish" and "emo"...well they just aren't true and are pretty harsh. So I'm sure some people are going to be able to relate to this stamp better. ^^
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I agree with you. I don't judge people who cut, having been there myself. What I have a problem with is the act of cutting and the addiction that comes with it, not the people who have to suffer from that addiction.
I understand why people say it's selfish (the arguement that when you cut, you aren't just hurting yourself is one that makes sense to me) though I disagree. (I don't think something you can't control can ever really be completely selfish.) As for "stupid" and "emo", those people are either trying to troll or don't get it.
Basically, I guess what I'm trying to say is that the self-injurers themselves deserve to be defended and supported but self-injury addiction as a whole does not.
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I suppose one of the reasons why people call it "stupid" and "emo" is because there are times when people cut without having a purpose. I know that the first time I did it was simply out of curiosity because one of my friends did it. That was not the smartest decision I've ever made 
As with any addiction, there comes a point when the person is no longer in control and like you said that's not their fault.
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i liiiike!
yeah i used to cut, i never got into it really bad but i was do it once in a while and i hate that people judge other who do. i cold possibly see suicide as 'stupid' or 'selfish' but most cutters arn't even trying to kil themselves.
either way its that persons body and if cutting helps them get threw a day, then it seems fine to me, the person may want to get help but it no one elses biz if they do or not.
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I don't see any of that stuff as "stupid" or "selfish" but at the same time, I feel like I'd be doing a disservice to a lot of people (myself included) if I was okay with cutting in general. If I was okay with it, I'd probably still be an addict myself. (Cutting, not people who cut. When it comes to people who cut, I agree with you. It's their bodies, their addictions and their decision whether or not to try to stop.)
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well yeah its more of a why is the person doing it i guess. its horrible for someone to feel the need to have that release. I don't know, but its something to really think about.
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Good for you! 
But earlier this month my dad died, very suddenly. I was crushed, and even though it's been years since I quit I haven't been able to help myself; no, I'm not cutting, but it's crossed my mind. And then an old memory of my father pushes the thought away.
He walked in on me cutting once, and was so shocked and horrified that he lost it. In one of the biggest displays of passion that I've ever seen, he dragged me from the safety of my bedroom and at once slapped me across the face, screaming, "Do you want to hurt your mother!?!"
He was not abusive or even mean. He just adored my mom. My mom, who is too young to be a widow. She's suffering so much right now. My dad was right. I could never bring myself to hurt her. And he adored me too. Out of love and respect, I will never cut again. This memory makes it easy.
It doesn't matter how much better it makes you feel. Cutting hurts the ones you love. And you should always be strong for them.
I'm sorry for the emotional upheaval (I'm still having a tough time grieving and am finding myself talking about my dad and my memories of him everywhere I go). I just completely understand where you're coming from with it, and it's a wonderful message! 
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I know this was a year ago when you posted this, but I was coming across things, and I wanted to read some opinions on these stamps, and I came across yours. First of all, I must say, I love the stamp, @rcsi1. Second of all, for @ZomaS-M, I am so very sorry for you and your family's loss of your father. I'm sure he was wonderful. I know how you feel, too. I lost my father when I was at a very young age - Four, a month from five, to be exact. Two weeks from Christmas. I almost went with him that night, and over the years, that memory has haunted me, kids would bully me because he died, and so much was said to me. So cuel. It drove me to depression. I took pills for it, they drove me to panic attacks, which led me to cutting. I too have stopped, but you're right. It stays with you. I hope you read this. So much can be said and done, and everytime I meet someone with depression or cutting problems, I imediately try and help them. Each time I do help someone, they do say it helps on how I have. Cutting is bad, but the out come of it can actually be good. You know how to help others.
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Absolutely. You learn how to help others from your moments of weakness, and every time you help you have more of your own strength to gain. 
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It's not cheesy at all. It's a wonderful story - not in that people were hurt of course but in that you were able to come away from it a stronger person. 
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