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Demachic — How to Save a Life
Published: 2011-11-06 01:23:26 +0000 UTC; Views: 43311; Favourites: 3713; Downloads: 0
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I have seen it multiple times in my time in secondary school that people can be ignored. I never was as I never allowed myself to be
but I know people who were and are still 'awkward'. So I make my mission that whenever I stride into class, to sit with anyone who is by themselves! (I know who prefers to sit by themselves and who doesn't choose to).
Just take one class, you don't always have to sit with your friends, and you can explain to them if they get upset, but it can make a big difference to someone who feels excluded for someone like ya to appear and take an interest in them!
So yea, you could make a HUGE impact on someone just by simply choosing to sit with them and saying hello! It might not seem like much to you, but it could really mean the world to them.
And the title choice cuz I felt it truly fit
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i still am that kid, but only half the time
i at least try to walk of to the crown and talk to them. though my social skills are awful, i still try
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I read a story recently about a woman who had done that for an awkward kid in middle school.
Flash forward 10 years later, and he was stalking her and her family, issuing death threats against them, and was under a restraining order. He had obsessed over her for a decade, acted out violently against her friends and family, and constantly wrote her letters from prison.
Not to say that you shouldn't be nice to everyone, but not everything in life is hugs and cupcakes.
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But that doesn't mean that you should'nt be nice to those akward kids who just need a friend.
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Of course not. But not every one of those stories has a happy ending - that's my point.
Because I'm old and jaded.
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^This stuff. Then again if people get to that point it's best to immediately hit the alarmbutton and have them seek help; forced or not.
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Unfortunately most people don't - either they prefer to snark someone behind their back, or their concerns are ignored.
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Yeah, that's true, and quite depressing as well.
Not to mention unsafe as heck when someone with serious issues suddenly finds out you've been badmouthing them and goes even more mental.
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Yeah, it's a delicate problem and I think it requires a pretty balanced view. Some people ARE genetically, psychologically predestined to have serious issues that no amount of playing nice at school are going to fix. And humans are hard-wired to recognize those individuals and avoid them (for survival's sake). But now, if someone seems suspect, people are made to feel guilty, so they might just keep their mouths shut rather than raising concerns.
But, I think this might be getting a little too serious, haha. I can tell the author is likely pretty young (13 or 14, I'd guess by the writing style) so I'm sure her heart's in the right place.
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Yeah, it's a delicate problem and I think it requires a pretty balanced view. Some people ARE genetically, psychologically predestined to have serious issues that no amount of playing nice at school are going to fix. And humans are hard-wired to recognize those individuals and avoid them (for survival's sake). But now, if someone seems suspect, people are made to feel guilty, so they might just keep their mouths shut rather than raising concerns.
But, I think this might be getting a little too serious, haha. I can tell the author is likely pretty young (13 or 14, I'd guess by the writing style) so I'm sure her heart's in the right place.
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I love this and I couldn't agree more. I was one of those awkward people. I didn't have courage to sit beside anyone, but then growing up and I realized I shouldn't care what people think, I am who I am. I moved to a small christian school but even there it still happened to this one girl who didn't fit a size 4 in jeans, her clothes weren't designers. She didn't have many friends, at school, she had to hang out with grade 6 when she was in grade 7. I admit, I did judge her at first and gossiped. But she and I went to the same church, and I got to know her better. Her parents weren't in good shape, she lived with her grandma and grandpa. She isn't poor, but not rich. She has been through so much. After learning all this I realized what I was doing wrong. And she is such a nice person, I admire her greatly. I am glad I went through what I did, I was on both sides and now can recognize it and help. Just flashing them a smile helps.
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i would love to do that... exept.... seating charts
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The title, the piece, the comment. Put it all together, and it makes for the essence of epicness.
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That one kid is a friend of mine, I always choose to sit with him in class over my other more social friends.
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Sounds like me... I'm always the 'socially awkward' kid. I spend lunch by myself reading. But recently, this kid has started to sit with me. He doesn't understand how big an impact he made on me, but he did.
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Or the High School Musical song, We're All In This Together"? Equally cheesey! I hope this changes the lives of at least one person out there.
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Too bad highschool kids don't think this way. But it's a very sweet poem.
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This is how I met my best friend~
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Very awesome and true words. :3
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I wish people at my school would act like this, but NOOOOO
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Now that I think about it, my boyfriend was kinda like that when we first met... Man, I'm glad I talked to him!
Even if he's probably the most corny guy in the world
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Awesome! I did that once. There was this girl, that never spoke with anyone, sitting alone while the others ate pizza (it was a cooking class). No one cared about her, no one gave her a slice and I noticed so I gave her one and smiled at her. I don't know if that changed her life but I felt it was the right thing to do. I don't know why most people don't notice this things, It is kind of in front of our eyes. No one should be left behind.
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this is cute! lt year tho, i decided to talk to someone like that, and called me stupd and walked away.
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I did this at the beginning of the school year, and that awkward guy who was sitting all alone is now my significant other.
He's so kind and sweet <33
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Well, we always have to sit at the same places, we don't get to choose, but that's because in our schoolsystem, the different classes don't have different groups of students, you're always together with the same people, so i wouldn't be able to do this exact thing...
But i think the thought!
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I used to be like that, then people made friends with me, I'm very grateful to them
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I really love this one. It really made me moved
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This is such a positive message to convey in art and I think there should be so many more like this. You've done a great thing as a person and an artist ^-^ Such a truly, amazing job and such a wonderful message. Very nicely done
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Last year I was ignored by my friends, and another shy girl was ignored by her friends, so I decided to introduce myself to her. I can now happily say we are now friends and we hang out and have fun together.
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This is true! =3
I have read plenty of stories where saying hello to someone and talking to them or simply being nice to them has indeed saved that person's life. I like this poem quite a bit ^^
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Yeah...I suppose I'm the shy, 'loner' kid in my school...
even with my friends I always feel like I'm just their 'other friend.'
No one bothers to reach out to me though, so I just stay by myself...
I'm always kind to people but they never seem to be kind to me.
So I just stick to the corners and listen to my mp3.
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"Sometimes, the person who tries to keep everyone happy is always the most lonely person. So never leave them alone because they will never say that they need you." ~ Anonymous.
I know how you feel, I feel like the third wheel. Just the friend to talk to if the others are gone. I give people my all, I will soak in every word they say and give advice back if they want help, but sometimes if I am dealing with a problem, it doesn't seem like they are listening. Idk. I usually do the same, and just go into a corner and read.
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That is now my new favourite quote. c:
Wow, that is exactly my situation.
I'm so sorry it's happening to you too. ;n;
All I do it try and make some loyal friends but there
never seems to be any, or maybe I'm just looking in the wrong places...?
I guess we just need to wait and hopefully things will get better...
Thanks for replying, it's nice to know that at least someone online listens~ ^^
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Hehehe! I think that quote is so inspiring, I never thought of it like that before.
Aweeh, thanks. I am sorry for you too. But we aren't alone. It happens everyday, so we can't blame ourselves. Yeah, I do the same, try to make loyal friends but they come and go like the rain. I am just
floating with the waves right now, maybe in the future it will be better. I don't think there is a wrong or right place... I go to a strict christian based High school and it still happens there. Today we did this career true colour thing. It was a quiz based on your personality, and shows what colour you are. Blue, is the colour that is loyal, wants strong relationships, encouraging, co-operative, introspective... and so on. Not many people scored blue. About 1-2 people... So what I think is that these kind of people are hard to find.... but sooner or later we will find someone like that...
Maybe we just need to go through this rough spot, so we are stronger in the future...
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It is! ^^
Me neither.
True, very true.
Yes I go to a Christian based school too...which can get a bit frustrating, as I'm not religious.
I think your right. Loyal friends are hard to come by, but at lest we know that once we find one, well have them forever. ^^
Very wise words there. And I agree.
Btw, if your going though some tough times, I find listening to music really helps me out. I listen to The Cure constantly, but if you don't like them, listening to ANY music is good and helps you relax.
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Yeah, I understand it would be hard. Half of the students in my school aren't that religious either. I can't say the same though. I am a christian but I believe people have a choice and religion shouldn't be forced upon them.
Very true and I hope that whoever we meet will be loyal and want a friendship or relationship.
Thanks for the advice about the music. That is a great idea. Thanks a lot.
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I agree. ^^
I have no problem with anyone who is religious, and I have a lot of respect for their beliefs. That would be great~ c:
No problem at all. ^w^
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that's sad.
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Thanks for your kind words. ^^
Aww, I'm sorry to hear that. ;n;
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anytime :3
yeah...but I have a few friends who are closer to me than siblings and I know that they wouldn't purposely hurt me EVER.
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Aw, that's great. c:
I wish you the best of luck~
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