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There seemed to have been some kind of mix up as to what pronouns I prefer at work. Everyone insisted on "she" pronouns. Even with customers I couldn't get called male/masculine pronouns. It was incredibly frustrating, dysphoric, and depressing. Oh, and exhausting.

Well, I clipped my nails to stubs (sadness), took off my nail polish (a given), wore polos to work instead of my usual v-necks, and tried speaking LESS and in a lower register. It worked. But at the end of the day I was fucking ready to scream.

I think being trans* means constantly giving up small pieces of yourself. Eventually you become a stronger person, but right now? Not feeling too proud or great.

You want to be yourself but at the same time you know what it's going to take for others to see you as yourself.

There are many different ways to pass or to transition or to be perceived as ____. This is part of mine.

Also, the less I speak, the less chance people have of hearing a feminine voice. So shut up and look male. I hate it.

This comic is more complicated than I had intended. That's cause it hits close to home.

Edit:

Although these issues are fairly big to me, I recognize that I have the privilege to transition legally, physically, etc. and that all my IDs say male.

Also, trans* women have higher unemployment rates than trans* men historically. I'm privileged in the fact that I can actually do something(s) about passing at work. Many folks aren't able to.

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There seemed to have been some kind of mix up as to what pronouns I prefer at work. Everyone insisted on "she" pronouns. Even with customers I couldn't get called male/masculine pronouns. It was incredibly frustrating, dysphoric, and depressing. Oh, and exhausting.

Well, I clipped my nails to stubs (sadness), took off my nail polish (a given), wore polos to work instead of my usual v-necks, and tried speaking LESS and in a lower register. It worked. But at the end of the day I was fucking ready to scream.

I think being trans* means constantly giving up small pieces of yourself. Eventually you become a stronger person, but right now? Not feeling too proud or great.

You want to be yourself but at the same time you know what it's going to take for others to see you as yourself.

There are many different ways to pass or to transition or to be perceived as ____. This is part of mine.

Also, the less I speak, the less chance people have of hearing a feminine voice. So shut up and look male. I hate it.

This comic is more complicated than I had intended. That's cause it hits close to home.

Edit:

Although these issues are fairly big to me, I recognize that I have the privilege to transition legally, physically, etc. and that all my IDs say male.

Also, trans* women have higher unemployment rates than trans* men historically. I'm privileged in the fact that I can actually do something(s) about passing at work. Many folks aren't able to.